Ukubona Ukuziphatha Okungavamile Kweminyaka Yonke
Izingane kufanele ziphule imithetho ngezinye izikhathi. Imingcele yokuhlola indlela abafunda ngayo ngawe kanye nezwe. Imiphumela obaphayo ifundisa izifundo ezibalulekile zokuphila.
Ngezinye izikhathi, noma kunjalo, izinkinga zokuziphatha zingabonisa uphawu olubi nakakhulu. Nakhu ukuthi ungatshela kanjani ukuziphatha okubi komntanakho kungena endaweni 'yezinkinga zokuziphatha ezivamile.'
Izimpawu Zesixwayiso Senkinga Enzima Yokuziphatha
Uma kuziwa ekuhlukaniseni phakathi kwezinkinga ezivamile nokuziphatha okungavamile, kubalulekile ukwazi kancane ngokuthuthukiswa kwengane. Kuyinto evamile ukuba isenkulisa ingajwayelekile kumuntu osemusha.
Ezinye izibonakaliso ezixwayisa jikelele ezingase zibonise izinkinga zokuziphatha ezinzulu zihlanganisa:
- Kunzima ukulawula ukudabuka ngokomzwelo - Nakuba kuvamile ukuba izingane zasenkulisa zihlale zivutha amandla , izingane ezindala kufanele zikwazi ukubhekana nemicabango yazo ngendlela efanele emphakathini. Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukulawula intukuthelo yakhe, ukukhungatheka, noma ukudumala ngendlela efanele, kufanele ibe nenkinga engokomzwelo engokomzwelo.
- Ukunzima ukulawula impulse - Ukulawula ukuphazamiseka kuyaqhubeka kancane kancane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Ingane ehlukumeza ngemuva kokuqala isikole, noma ingane eyamemeza uthisha wayo esemncane, kungenzeka ukuthi idinga usizo lokuthuthukisa amakhono angcono.
- Ukuziphatha okungaphenduli ekuqondiseni isiyalo - Kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane ziphinde amaphutha abo ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze zibone ukuthi umzali uzolandela yini ngesiyalo. Kodwa, akuyona into evamile ukuba ingane ibonise ukuziphatha okufanayo ngokuphindaphindiwe uma usebenzisa isiyalo esifanayo. Uma ingane yakho iqhubeka ibonisa ukungalungi okufanayo kungakhathaliseki imiphumela, kungaba inkinga.
- Ukuziphatha okuphazamisa isikole - Ukuziphatha okungalungile okuphazamisa imfundo yengane yakho kungabonisa ukukhubazeka kokuziphatha okuyisisekelo . Ukuthunyelwa ekilasini, ukulwa empini, nokuhlupheka ukuhlala emsebenzini yizo zonke izimpawu zokuxwayisa ezingenzeka.
- Ukuziphatha okuphazamisa ukuxhumana komphakathi - Kungokwemvelo ukuba izingane zibe nezikhala nabangane bakho, kodwa uma ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kumvimbela ekubeni nabangane, kuyinkinga. Izingane kufanele zikwazi ukuthuthukisa nokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle nabangane babo.
- Ukuzilimaza noma ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala - Noma yiliphi ingane ekhanda ikhanda lakhe, elizishisayo, noma eliziqhayisa kufanele lihlolwe ngumqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo . Kubalulekile nokuba nengane ihlolwe ngumchwepheshe uma kukhona inkulumo mayelana nokuzibulala.
- Izenzo zokuziphatha ngokobulili ezingafaneleki kahle - Kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane zikwazi ukwazi ngobulili obuhlukile futhi zifuna ukwazi ukuthi izingane zivelaphi. Kodwa ukuziphatha kobulili akufanele neze kube nokucindezela, nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Ukuziphatha okuvamile kuma-Preschoolers (abakwa-4 kuya ku-5 ubudala)
Njengoba izingane zasenkulisa zifuna ukuzimela, kungokwemvelo ukuba ziphikisana futhi zisebenzise ilungelo labo lokuthi "cha." Zivame ukungena phakathi kokufuna ukuthi ziyizinyane elikhulu ezingakwazi ukwenza konke ngokwabo, ukusebenzisa inkulumo yabantwana ukuthi zidinga usizo umsebenzi olula.
Abantwana basenkulisa bangase babonise ukuduma kwesinye isikhathi kodwa kufanele bazuze ukulawula imizwelo yabo kanye nemicabango yabo uma kuqhathaniswa nalapho beyizingane ezincane. Noma yikuphi ukufutheka okwamanje kulezi zinsuku kufanele kube mfushane futhi kuncane kakhulu kuneminyaka encane.
Abantwana abane nabaneminyaka emihlanu bangabonisa ubuhlungu obuncane, kodwa kufanele bafunde kabanzi ukuthi basebenzise kanjani amagama abo esikhundleni sokuhlukunyezwa.
Ukuphuma kwesikhathi kuyindlela enkulu yokuqeqesha izingane zasenkulisa.
Bafuna ukunakwa futhi basuse esenzweni kungaba umphumela omkhulu. Ukungazinaki ukuziphatha okungalungile kungenye indlela enkulu yokuqeqesha izingane zasenkulisa.
Ukuziphatha okujwayelekile eBangeni lesikole sezingane (abaneminyaka eyi-6 kuya ku-9 ubudala)
Njengoba izingane zesikole zithatha imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi, zivame ukufuna inkululeko engaphezu kwalokho engayisingatha. Kungenzeka ukuthi badinga isiqondiso esilungile uma kuziwa emisebenzini yasekhaya, ukuqedela umsebenzi wabo wesikole nokunakekelwa kohlanzekile.
Njengoba ziqala ukuxazulula izinkinga zodwa bese zizama imisebenzi emisha, zingase zibe nzima ukubhekana nokuhluleka. Abafundi beBanga elivame badinga usizo oluncane olubhekene nemizwelo engakhululekile , njengokukhungatheka nokukhathazeka, futhi kuvamile ukuba bangabikho ukulawulwa kokukhuluma ngomlomo.
Izinhlelo zokuvuza zingasebenza kakhulu kule minyaka. Sebenzisa amasu okuziphatha okuhle, avuze ukuziphatha okuhle, futhi asebenzise imiphumela enengqondo uma imithetho iphukile. Nikeza amathuba amaningi okwenza ingane yakho izenzele izinqumo ezinhle, ngenkathi ihlinzeka ngeziqondiso eziningi.
Ukuziphatha okuvamile eTweens (abadala abaneminyaka engu-10 kuya ku-12 ubudala)
Lapho izingane zithatha iminyaka emine, ukuzimela kwabo kubhekana njalo "nesimo sengqondo" sabo kubazali babo. Kuyinto evamile ukuba abantu abangu-13 babe ngokuphikisana nokuphikisa lapho beqala ukuzama ukuhlukana nabazali babo.
AmaTween angase ahlukane namakhono omphakathi futhi angabika ukungavumelani okuvamile nabangani. Bavame ukungabi namakhono okubona imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuziphatha kwabo.
Gxila ekufundiseni amakhono akho okuphila kwengane, njengendlela yokugeza izitsha, kanye namakhono omphakathi, njengendlela yokubingelela umuntu omusha. Funa izikhathi ezifundiswayo futhi uphendule amaphutha wengane wakho ekufundeni amathuba.
AmaTweens adinga ukunakekelwa okunamandla ukuqinisa ukuziphatha kwabo okuhle phakathi nale minyaka emangalisa. Bavame ukuzuza emikhawulweni yokuvuza, ikakhulukazi uhlelo lwezomnotho we- token . Uhlelo lwezomnotho lwama-token lunganciphisa ukulwa kwamandla futhi lunikeze izinsizakalo ezengeziwe ukuba ziphathe ngendlela efanele.
Ukuziphatha Okuvamile Kwabaningi (13 nangaphezulu)
Ngokuvamile intsha ifuna ukucabanga ukuthi ingabantu abadala, kodwa isadinga usizo ukwenza izinqumo ezinempilo. Yilungiselele ukubhekana nezigaba ezihlukahlukene ingane yakho engangena njengoba ezama ukukhomba ukuthi ungumuntu onjani.
Kuvamile ukuthi intsha iguqule amaqembu omphakathi noma ihlolwe izitayela zezinwele ezintsha noma izambatho zokugqoka njengoba zizama ukwakha ubunikazi babo. Ukuhlubuka okuncane kuyinto evamile njengoba intsha ivame ukubonisa abazali bayo ukuthi ingaba nokulawula izimpilo zabo.
Intsha kufanele ibe ngcono ukuzithiba uma kuziwa ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole noma ukwenza imisebenzi yabo yenziwe ngesikhathi. Kungenzeka ukuthi kunalokho kunesimo sengqondo esingahle futhi sinokungahambisani nokuhlonipha okuvamile.
Intsha encane ingakwazi ukuzuza ezinkambisweni zomnotho we-token futhi kufanele ilahlekelwe amalungelo okungaziphathi kahle. Ukuxazulula izinkinga ngokuvamile kuyindlela ephumelelayo kakhulu yokubhekana nokuziphatha okungalungile kwentsha. Uma nje ingane yakho ihlala ngaphansi kwephahla lakho, kubalulekile ukubeka imithetho ecacile bese ulandela imiphumela.
Izinkinga Zokuziphatha Nekheli Izingane Zonke Iminyaka
Izinkinga zokuziphatha ezincane zivame ukubhekwa ngokushintsha izinguquko ezimbalwa ezinhlelweni zakho zokuqeqesha. Funa izindlela zokwenza isiyalo sisebenze ngokuphumelelayo . Isibonelo, uma umise ingane yakho ngokungayitholi umsebenzi wakhe wesikole, zama ukunikeza umphumela omuhle owamenza enze umsebenzi wakhe.
Izinkinga ezinkulu zokuziphatha zidinga usizo lochwepheshe. Uma unenkinga mayelana nokuziphatha kwengane yakho, noma amasu akho wokuziphatha ayisebenzi, khuluma nodokotela wengane yakho.
Udokotela angakusiza ukunquma ukuthi ukuziphatha kwengane yakho kuvamile noma ngabe kuyadingeka yini ukuthunyelwa kuchwepheshe. Ukuhlola okuphelele kungadingeka ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ibuyele emgqeni.
> Imithombo:
> Gleason MM, Goldson E, Yogman MW, Ukubhekana Nezingane ezincane ezingokomzwelo nezinkinga zokuziphatha, izifo zokwelapha, ngoNovemba 2016
> Healthchildren.org. Ukuziphatha kwengane evamile. Kubuyekezwe uNyakatho 2015.