Isizukulwane ngasinye sabazali siqala isignesha yesitayela sokubeletha. Ngenkathi kungekho ncazelo ingakwazi ukumboza wonke umzali, yebo, izinkolelo ezedlule zendlela yokubeletha zifaka:
- Ama-1950 : Isakhiwo semindeni yabantu abadala, lapho abantwana beyingxenye yomndeni, kodwa hhayi umgomo womndeni. Abantu abadala kanye nezingane bahlala ukuphila okufanayo, nabazali bexhumana nezingane ukuze baqeqeshwe futhi bafunde izifundo zokuphila. Izingane zithunyelwa ukuba zizodlala zodwa.
- Ama-1960 : Ukuqhubeka kwama-1950s, ngokuthutha ekuvumelaneni nokuvumelanisa okuningi. Njengoba izwe laqala ukukhula ngokwengeziwe, abazali benza njalo.
- Ama-1970s-1980 s: Njengoba isahlukaniso saba yinto evamile futhi abesifazane bangena emsebenzini, abantwana baqala ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo yokuphila kwabo kanye nezidingo zansuku zonke. Izingane zaseLatchkey zaba indawo evamile, futhi umama wendabuko, nobisi nama-cookies alinde isikole, waba mncane kakhulu.
- Ama-1990s- 2000 : U- Helicoptering , ukuhlela ngokweqile , ukwesaba ngokuphepha - abazali bahlanganyela ngokuphindaphindiwe empilweni yabantwana babo, kusukela ekuseni kuze kufike isikhathi sokulala kunanini ngaphambili.
Abazali balabayishumi benza kanjani ngokuhlukile kulabo eminyakeni edlule?
Izinkulungwane Ezinkulungwane Zilinde Ukuqala Imindeni
Ngezizathu eziningi, kufaka phakathi izinkinga zemali, izinqumo zomsebenzi, ukuhamba phambili nokuningi, abantu abadala asebekhulile isikhathi eside ukuba babe nezingane kunanoma yisiphi isizukulwane ngaphambi kwabo.
Ukufinyelela kokulawulwa kokuzalwa okunokwethenjelwa okungaphezulu, kanye nokukhetha okuqaphele ukuthi ukuqala umndeni kusize ukukhulisa iminyaka yabamama bokuqala. Ngonyaka ka-2015, isilinganiso seminyaka owesifazane wayenomntwana wakhe wokuqala oneminyaka engu-28, ngokwe-CDC. Qhathanisa lokho kuya ngo-1990, lapho isilinganiso seminyaka yomama wokuqala sino-25, futhi kusobala ukuthi iminyaka lapho abazali beqala ukukhuphuka.
Abazali Babelana Ngolunye Lwama-Social Media
Imithombo yezenhlalo iyingxenye yokuphila komuntu wonke, kodwa mhlawumbe akukho ngisho nabazali bezingane ezincane. Kusukela ku-sonogram yokuqala ukuya esikoleni esiphakeme, abazali abaningi ngonyaka ka-2010 abanamahloni - noma baphikisana - ngokubelana ngempilo yabantwana babo ku-intanethi. Amaphesenti angamashumi ayisishiyagalombili nanye kwabazali abayizinkulungwane eziyisikhombisa abelane ngezithombe zezingane zabo emithonjeni yezokuxhumana, uma kuqhathaniswa nabazali abangama-47% wabantwana bama-Baby Boomers. Amabhulogi womzali, aqale ekuqaleni kwawo-2000, manje ekhona yonke indawo, ehlanganisa izihloko kusukela ekuhlanganyeleni ukulala komndeni. Abazali basebenzisa imithombo yezokuxhumana njengendlela yokuxhumana namalungu omndeni, lapho izizukulwane zangaphambili zabazali zingenza ucingo futhi zithumele izithombe ezihlotsheni ezide kakhulu.
Ukwakhiwa Komndeni Kuvulelwe Ukuchazwa
Abazali abangabodwa kanye nabazali be-LGBTQ bashintsha umbono wokuthi umndeni wendabuko ubonakala kanjani emnyakeni weminyaka emisha.
Ngokwesibonelo:
Imibhangqwana eshadile ihlanganisa 68% yabazali ngekhulu lama-21, kuqhathaniswa no-93% ngawo-1950.
Ngokusho kweCensus.gov , phakathi kwabangu-2 million nabantwana abayizigidi ezingu-3.7 abangaphansi kweminyaka engu-18 banomzali we-LGBTQ, futhi cishe abangaba ngu-200 000 bakhuliswa umbhangqwana wesilisa oyedwa. Abaningi balaba bantwana bakhuliswa ngumzali oyedwa we-LGBTQ noma umbhangqwana ohlukile wobulili obuhlukile lapho umzali oyedwa engabesilisa nabesifazane.
Abesifazane abaningi bakhetha ukuba ngabazali abangabodwa minyaka yonke. Uma kwenzeka nje abesifazane besifazane abampofu nabancane kuphela, lokhu kubonakala kungabonakali ukwehla, njengoba inhlanhla yokuba ngumama ongashadile ithathwe esikhundleni sokukhetha abesifazane ukuba babe nezingane ngokwabo.
Amagama ayingqayizivele yiNorm
Abantwana bamaBomber bavame ukubiza izingane zabo ukuze bakwazi ukuhambisana nezinye izingane, okuholele eklasini egcwele uKarens, Lisas, Michaels, noStevens. Amagama ayingqayizivele ayengavamile kuze kube maduzane. Iminyaka eyizinkulungwane, njengomthetho othanda ukwenza izinto ngendlela yabo, bafumana amagama angavamile, ahlukahlukene futhi ahlukahlukene kubantwana babo, eholela kubazali nogogo abaye bafunda ukugcina imibono yabo ngokwabo nakwabafundela ekilasini okungenzeka baqagele ngokobulili bomntwana ngaphambi kosuku lokuqala lwekilasi.
Iseluleko sokubeletha
Izinkulungwane zeminyaka zinemithombo eningi kakhulu yokuthola amathiphu okubeletha, ngenxa ye-intanethi, ezokuxhumana nabantu kanye nokuxhumana okusheshayo kokuthumela imiyalezo. Ngokungafani nabazali babo, ababencike ochwepheshe abanjengoDkt. Spock noT. Berry Brazelton ukuthola iseluleko ngaphezu kwamama nobaba babo, i-Millennials ingenza futhi ifune ochwepheshe kuzo zonke izinsizakalo zokubeletha, iqoqe ulwazi kusuka kokubili oxhumana nabo beqiniso nabangempela. Akupheli inani lemeluleko elitholakalayo, kepha i-savvy Millennials iyakwazi ukukhipha imali eyenza izingane zabo nokuthi yini engekho, futhi futhi inganika izeluleko kubazali abasha uma kufika isikhathi. Ngemiphakathi eminingi ehlanganisa amaqembu e-Facebook, ama-Instagram ama-hashtag nokuningi, iMinyaka eyizinkulungwane zinezinhlobo eziningi zokufunda ngendlela engcono kakhulu yokukhulisa izingane zabo.
Isikhathi esengeziwe somndeni
Kungenzeka ukuthi akunangqondo, njengoba kuthiwa u-46% wabazali abayizinkulungwane ezingamashumi amabili ngonyaka ka-2010 bobabili basebenzi, u-31% ngo-1970, kepha iMillennials isichitha isikhathi esiningi kunanoma yisiphi isizukulwane esidlule nezingane zabo. Abomama, ikakhulukazi, basebenzisa isikhathi esiningi - imizuzu engu-59 ngosuku - nabantwana babo kunabobaba abachitha nezingane zabo ngawo-1960, lapho beba nemizuzu engu-16 kuphela ngosuku abachitha umzali.
Ukuzibophezela kwisimiso esakhiwe ukuthi iMinyaka eyizinkulungwane zeminyaka eyenziwa ngemisebenzi yezingane zabo kusho ukuthi abazali bavame ukuba nezingane zabo, kusukela kumama noMe amakilasi ezincane ukuya emisebenzini yeqembu lezemidlalo ngemuva kokufunda lapho amama nobaba bevolontiya njengabaqeqeshi. Imisebenzi eminingi ayiyona nje kuphela ngezingane kodwa ngabazali, futhi. Ngenkathi isidlo somndeni esiseduze netafula lokudlela akujwayelekile njengoba kwakunjalo, abazali bachitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zabo ngezinye izindlela. Kukhona umsebenzi wesikole okumele ulawulwe, izidakamizwa zokushayela, nezinye izindlela eziningi abazali abaye bahambe ngesikhathi kanye nemindeni yabo.
Ngabantu abaningi abasebenza ekhaya, abazali batholakala kalula emisebenzini yesikhashana yokugcina, izibopho, nemisebenzi yesikole. Abazali bezinkulungwane zeminyaka banamathela kakhulu kwengane kunabantwana emashumini eminyaka adlule, futhi yilokho abakuthandayo.