Imiphumela Yokwehlukumeza
Ukuhlukunyezwa kokubili kuyabuhlungu futhi kuyabuhlungu kulabo okuhlosiwe. Kodwa abadala abaningi, ngaphandle uma nabo behlukumezekile, banenkinga enzima ukuqonda ukuthi bangakanani abantwana abangakwazi ukuhlupheka. Abahluleka ukuqaphela ukuthi imiphumela yokuxhaphaza ibalulekile futhi ingaba nomthelela ohlala njalo.
Ukuntula ukuqonda ngokuvamile kubizwa ngokuthi "igebe lozwela." Ukusebenza ukuvala leli gap lozwela kungenye yezindlela ezinhle zokuthuthukisa izinqubomgomo zokuxhashaza nokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa .
Eqinisweni, imizamo yokugqugquzela izisulu ngeke isebenze ngaphandle uma abantu beqonda ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa okubuhlungu nokuhlukumeza kungaba kanjani. Nansi ukubuka kabanzi kwemiphumela yokuxhashazwa nokuthi izisulu zingabuyiselwa kanjani.
Ukuxhashazwa Kuthinta Kanjani Izisulu Ngomzwelo Nenhlalo?
Izingane ezihlala zihlaselwe izihlukumezi zivame ukuhlupheka ngokomzwelo nasemphakathini. Akuwona nje ukuthi bakuthola kunzima ukwenza abangane, kodwa futhi banzima ukugcina ubungane obuhle.
Ingxenye yalo mzabalazo ihlobene ngqo nokuzethemba okuphansi . Ukuntula ukuzethemba kungumphumela oqondile wezinto eziyingozi nezenzakalo ezinye izingane ezisho ngazo. Uma izingane zibizwa ngokuthi "amafutha" noma "alahlekile," ziqala ukukholelwa ukuthi lezi zinto ziyiqiniso.
Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa nazo zivame ukuzwa imizwa eminingi. Bangase bazizwe benethukuthelo, bebuhlungu, besengozini, bengenasibindi, bekhungathekile, banesizungu futhi behlukaniswe neontanga zabo. Ngenxa yalokho, bangase badlule izigaba futhi basebenzise izidakamizwa nokuphuza utshwala ukuze banciphise ubuhlungu babo. Futhi uma ukuxhashazwa kuqhubeka, bangase bahlakulele ukucindezeleka futhi bacabange nokuzibulala.
Uma kungenjalo ukungenelela kwenzeke, ekugcineni izingane zingahlakulela lokho okuyaziwa ngokuthi "ukufundela ukungabi namandla." Ukufunda ukungabi namandla kusho ukuthi izinhloso zokuxhashazwa zikholelwa ukuthi azikwazi ukwenza noma yini ukushintsha isimo. Ngenxa yalokho, bayeka ukuzama. Khona-ke, ukujikeleza kuya ekucindezelekeni kuya kuba nzima kakhulu. Lokhu kuholela ekubeni nomuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba futhi inkolelo yokuthi akukho ndlela yokuphuma.
Njengoba izingane ezihlukumezayo zikhula zaba ngabantu abadala, zingase ziqhubeke zilwa nokuzihlonipha, zinzima ukuthuthukisa nokugcina ubuhlobo, nokugwema ukuxhumana nabantu. Futhi bangase babe nesikhathi esinzima abantu abathembayo, okungathinta ubudlelwane babo bomuntu siqu kanye nobuhlobo babo bomsebenzi. Bangase baqale nokukholelwa amanga ngokuxhashazwa , njengokuzikholisa ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kwakungalungile njengoba bakhumbula. Futhi bangase bazibophezele .
Iyini Impembelelo Yomzimba Yokuxhaphaza?
Ngaphandle kwamabhomu nemivimbo eyenzeka ngesikhathi sokuxhashazwa ngokomzimba , kunezindleko ezengeziwe zomzimba. Ngokwesibonelo, izingane ezixhashazwayo zivame ukukhathazeka.
Ukucindezeleka emzimbeni wabo nakho kuzoholela ezinhlobonhlobo zempilo, kubandakanya ukugula kaningi futhi ukuhlushwa izilonda nezinye izimo ezibangelwa ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo.
Izingane ezihlukumezekile nazo zingase zikhononde nge-stomachache kanye nekhanda. Futhi ukuhlukumezeka abakutholayo kungase kukhulise ezinye izimo zangaphambili ezikhona njenge-eczema. Izimo zesikhumba, izinkinga zesisu, nezimo zenhliziyo ezikhungethwe ukucindezeleka konke kubi kakhulu uma ingane ixhashazwa.
Ukuthi Ukuhlukumezeka Kubangelwa Kanjani Izifundo?
Izingane ezixhashazwayo zivame ukuhlupheka ngokwezemfundo, futhi. Izingane ezihlukumezekile zizama ukugxila emsebenzini wabo wesikole. Eqinisweni, amamaki alulayo angenye yezibonakaliso zokuqala ukuthi ingane ixhashazwa . Izingane nazo zingase zithathwe ngaphambili ngokuxhashazwa ukuthi zikhohlwa ngezabelo noma zibe nobunzima bokulalela ekilasini.
Ukwengeza, izingane ezihlukumezayo zingase ziweqe isikole noma amakilasi ukuze zigweme ukuxhashazwa. Lo mkhuba ungabangela namamaki awela. Futhi uma amamaki eqala ukwehlisa lokhu kuyanezela ezingeni lokucindezeleka ingane ehlukumezekile isivele ibhekene nayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, isifundo esenziwe yiNyuvesi yaseVirginia sabonisa ukuthi izingane eziya esikoleni ngesimo sezulu esinzima sokuxhashazwa ngokuvamile ziba nezilinganiso eziphansi ezivivinyweni ezilinganisiwe. Ukuxhashazwa kubangelwa ngisho nokuthinta abafundi abayibona. Isibonelo, izingane zithole ukuhlolwa okulinganiselwe ezikoleni ezinokuxhashazwa okuningi kunabantwana ezikoleni ezinezinhlelo zokulwa nokuxhashaza.
Esinye sezizathu ezingezansi ezikoleni ezinezihlukumezi eziqhamukayo ukuthi abafundi bavame ukungena ngaphansi kwenqubo yokufunda ngoba baphazamiseke kakhulu noma bakhathazekile ngokuxhashazwa. Ukwengeza, othisha bangahle baphumelele ngoba kufanele bachithe isikhathi esiningi begxila ekuphatheni ekilasini nasekufundiseni esikhundleni sokufundisa.
Izindaba ezinhle zisekelwa ngokufanele kanye nokungenelela, izingane eziningi ezihloswe yizihlukumezi zizonqoba ukuxhashazwa futhi izinto zizobuyela esimweni esijwayelekile. Kodwa engashiywanga, ukuhlukunyezwa kungabangela ukuthi isisulu sikhokhe izindleko eziphezulu emiphumeleni yesikhathi eside.
Ukuhlukumezeka Kungathinta Kanjani Amalungu Omndeni Wabahlukunyezwa?
Uma ingane ixhashazwa, akuyona into engavamile ukuthi abazali kanye nabantakwethu bahlushwe.
Ngokwesibonelo, abazali bavame ukuthola imiphumela eminingi ehlanganisa ukuzwa ukuthi abanamandla okulungisa isimo. Bangase bazizwe bebodwa futhi bezodwa. Futhi bangase bagxile kakhulu ngesimo ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuzilimaza impilo yabo kanye nenhlalakahle yabo.
Futhi kuyinto engavamile ukuba abazali bazizwe behluleka lapho ingane yabo ixhashazwa. Akubona nje ukuthi bazizwa sengathi bahlulekile ukuvikela ingane ekuhlukunyezweni, kodwa futhi bangase bangabaze amakhono abo okubeletha. Bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi balahlekelwe ngandlela-thile izibonakaliso zokuxhashazwa noma ukuthi akenzanga okwanele ukuhlukunyezwa ingane yabo endleleni.
Iqiniso liwukuthi akekho okwazi ukubikezela ukuthi ubani ozoxhashazwa. Abazali bangenza konke okulungile futhi bathole ukuthi ingane yabo ixhashazwa. Ngenxa yalokho, akufanele neze bazizwe benesibopho sokukhetha okwenziwa ngumhlukumezi. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele babeke icala lapho kungokwakhe futhi bagxile ekusizeni ingane yabo ukuba igweme ekuhlukunyezweni .
Ukuxhashazwa Kwenzeka Kanjani Izisulu Zesikhathi Eside?
Ukucwaninga kubonisa ukuthi imiphumela yokuxhashazwa ihlala isikhathi eside ekukhuleni. Eqinisweni, isifundo esisodwa sathola ukuthi imiphumela ngenxa yokuhlukunyezwa yontanga ingase ibe nethonya elikhulu empilweni yengqondo lapho ikhulile kunomqondo ongaphambili. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umthelela ungaba ngaphezulu nakakhulu kunokuphathwa kabi ngabantu abadala.
Khumbula, okuhlangenwe nakho abantu abanakho ngenkathi beyizingane bazisize ukubabumbise kubantu abadala ababa khona kamuva. Ngakho akumangazi ukuthi imiphumela yokuxhaphaza ikhula kuze kube yilapho ikhulile . Lokhu kusiza ukuthonya ingqondo yabo yesikhathi esizayo, kufaka phakathi ukuthi bazibukela kanjani nabanye.
Izingane Zingaziphulukisa Kanjani Emthethweni Wokuxhashazwa?
Uma ingane ixhashazwa, indlela yokuthola kabusha ingaba yinselele kunokuba ungase ucabange ekuqaleni. Eqinisweni, imiphumela yokuxhashazwa ingakwazi ukunamathela isikhathi eside emva kokuhlukunyezwa sekuphelile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uma ukuxhashazwa kungakhulumi ngaso leso sikhathi, kungabangela ingane yakho izinkinga kamuva.
Ukuze ingane yakho igule ekuhlukumezeni, kunezinyathelo ezimbalwa ezibalulekile okumelwe uthathe. Lokhu akubandakanyi nje ukushintsha indlela ingane yakho ecabanga ngayo ngesimo, kodwa futhi nokuthi uzibheka kanjani ngemva kokuhlukunyezwa. Ufuna uqiniseke ukuthi ingane yakho ayivumeli ukuxhaphazwa okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ukuyichaza. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele agxile kulokho akufundile nokuthi yiziphi izinjongo zakhe zesikhathi esizayo. Ukuze uqale, ingane yakho idinga ukuvuma ukuthi kwenzekani kuye kepha ingagxila kuyo. Kunalokho, kufanele agxile ekuzinakekeleni nasekukhuleni njengomuntu.
Kubalulekile futhi ukusiza ingane yakho ithole ukuvalwa kwalesi simo. Futhi njengento engaqondakaliyo njengokuzwakalayo, ukuthethelela umhlukumezi kuhamba phambili ekukhululeni ingane yakho ebuhlungu besipiliyoni. Mkhumbuze ukuthi impindiselo ngeke imenze azizwe engcono. Esikhundleni salokho, kufanele akhiphe lokho okwenzekile kuye futhi agxile ezintweni angazilawula empilweni yakhe. Ukuba nomeluleki kusiza ingane yakho ngenqubo yokutakula ingasheshisa izinto ndawonye. Xoxa nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho ukuze uthole iziphakamiso mayelana nokuthi ubani ongaxhumana naye endaweni yakini.
Abadala Bangabhekana Kanjani Nemiphumela Yokuxhashazwa Kwezingane?
Lapho ingane ixhashazwa, ingaba nemthelela engokwengqondo engahambi ngoba nje umuntu ekhula. Uma uhlukumezekile usencane futhi usabhekana nemiphumela emibi, isinyathelo sokuqala sokuvuselela kusukela ekuhlukumezweni kwasebuntwaneni sivuma ukuthi kwenzekani kuwe. Ungaxoshi okwenzekile kuwe noma ukunciphisa ubukhulu. Yiba neqiniso kuwe ngobuhlungu obhekene nakho.
Kumele futhi wenze ukuphulukiswa kuqala. Thatha isikhathi sokuzinakekela wena futhi ucabangele ukukhuluma nomeluleki mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Umeluleki angakusiza ukuba uzwele imizwa yakho futhi uhambe phambili ekuhlangenwe nakho okubi kokuxhashazwa. Futhi angakusiza uvuselele ukucabanga kwakho futhi uphinde ulawule ukulawula impilo yakho.
Nakuba kungase kube buhlungu ukucabanga ngokuhlukunyezwa owawubhekene nezingane, uma kusengathi ukuphila kwakho kwansuku zonke nendlela ozibheka ngayo, ngakho-ke kungcono ukubhekana nenhloko yenkinga. Uma usuhambelane nalokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho futhi ushintshe indlela ozibheka ngayo wena nabanye, uzobe usendleleni ozoyithola. Kungathatha isikhathi esithile. Ngakho-ke yiba nesineke kuwe. Nokho, ngokusebenza kanzima, uzobe usendleleni eya endleleni yokucabanga enempilo.