Sonke sizwile izwi elithi "ingwe ayishintshi izindawo zayo." Le ncaphuno ibonisa ukuthi uma ingane ingumhlukumezi, yena uzohlala engumhlukumezi. Kodwa lokho akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi nezingane ezisakhula futhi zifunda. Izikhathi eziningi nge coaching elungile kanye ukungenelela kwangaphambi, izihlukumezi zithola amakhono adingekayo ukwenza izinqumo ezingcono.
Uma ngabe usebenza noxhashazi ukuze wenze ukukhetha okungcono futhi uphathe abanye abafundi kangcono, ungase uzibuze ukuthi ungatshela kanjani ukuthi umsebenzi wakho unomthelela. Nazi izinkomba eziyisikhombisa ukuthi i-bully ivulekile ukushintsha.
I-Bully No Longer iyanciphisa Inkinga
Ngokuvamile, umhlukumezi uzothatha ngokushesha umsebenzi wakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, uzovame ukuzama ukunciphisa izenzo zakhe. Umgomo wukunciphisa ukubaluleka kokuhlukumezeka nokunciphisa umthelela owenzile kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Uma ungumfundisi, umphathi wesikole noma umeluleki, udinga ukwazi ukubona amasu wokunciphisa. Uma umhlukumezi eyeka ukusebenzisa lezi zindlela, angase avuleke ukushintsha.
Intukuthelo ayihlolisisi Ngokukhetha Kwakhe
Uma isihlukumezi sikwazi ukuzakhela izinqumo zakhe ngaphandle kokulinganisela noma ukulungiswa, lokhu kuyinyathelo langempela ekushintsheni. Umhlukumezi kufanele akwazi ukuchaza lokho akhethayo ngaphandle kokwenza izincazelo mayelana nokuthi kungani lokhu kukhetha kunengqondo.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthi uyaqhubeka.
Intukuthelo Ayifuni Isizathu Sokuziphatha Kwakhe.
Kuyinto engavamile kulabo abahlukunyezwayo ukuzama ukuziveza njengabahlukunyezwa ngakho-ke bazama ukuzithethelela ukuziphatha kwabo. Yilungiselele izindaba ngokuphila kanzima ekhaya, abazali abahlukanisile noma ukuxhashazwa ekhaya.
Yize zonke lezi zinto zimbi kakhulu lapho ingane isencane kufanele ibhekane nayo, namanje ayifuni ukuziphatha. Umhlukumezi kufanele abe nomnikazi wakhe. Ukuphila kwakhe ekhaya okungalungile akumniki imvume yokuphatha abanye kabi. Qinisekisa ukuthi ubonisa uzwela ngalokho akuzwayo ngenkathi esemphethe noma ephendula .
Imibukiso Yokuxhashaza Abanye Abazisola Ngezinqumo Zakhe noma Zakhe
Uma umhlukumezi ezwa ngempela ukudabuka ngenxa yobuhlungu abubangele abanye, uzokwazi ukuthi wenza umthelela. Emva kwakho konke, uma umhlukumezi ebona umphumela izenzo zakhe ezinawo komunye umuntu, khona-ke ukungenelela kwakho kusebenza. Uyenze intuthuko yangempela lapho ekwazi ukuzisola.
I-Bully Ayinakusiza Le Nkinga
Uma umhlukumezi angakhuluma ngesigameko sokuhlukumezeka ngaphandle kokungaziphathi kahle, uzokwazi ukuthi usondelene nokushintsha. Ngeke aphinde ahlukumeze lolu daba, kepha kunalokho akwazi ukukuxoxa ngokukhululekile nangokwethenjelwa ngenkathi ethatha umthwalo wemisebenzi yakhe nezenzo zakhe.
I-Bully No Longer izama ukushiya i-Blame
Cishe bonke abahlukumezayo bazama ukusola omunye umuntu ngokukhetha kwakhe. Ngokuvamile, bahlanganyela ekuhlukunyezweni futhi bazame ukukholisa ukuthi isisulu sabakhuthaza noma sifanele ukwelashwa ngandlela-thile.
Futhi bangase bakhombise amaphutha esikhungweni futhi bakhombise ukuthi uma behluke ngandlela-thile ukuxhashazwa kwakungeke kwenzeke.
Intukuthelo Inesihe Kuyabanye
Lokhu mhlawumbe isibonakaliso esikhulu soshintsho ku-bully. Uma uqaphela ukuthi lo mhlukumezi manje ungazizwela futhi akaqondi kahle ukuthi isisulu singase sizizwe kanjani kodwa ukuthi abanye besesimweni esifanayo bangase bazizwe kanjani, khona-ke uzokwazi ukuthi wenze intuthuko yangempela. Noma kunini lapho othile engakwazi ukuveza futhi aqonde ngempela ukuthi abanye bangase bazizwe kanjani, uzokwazi ukuthi ukungenelela kwakho ukuxhaphaza kwenza kube nomthelela.