Izingane azifiki emhlabeni zilungele ukudlala kahle. Kudingeka bafunde ukuziphatha okumamukelekayo emphakathini, futhi kwabanye abantwana, okungathatha iminyaka. Lokho akusho ukuthi bazalwe ama-slates angenalutho alungele ukubhaliswa. Phela, akudingeki bafundiswe ukushaya noma ukuluma ezinye izingane. Kudingeka bafundiswe ukuziphatha okufanelekile esikhundleni sokuziphatha okungamukeleki njengokushaya, ukulimaza nokukhahlela.
Izingane ziwumkhiqizo wazo zombili izici abazalelwa nazo kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okukhulayo, kokubili ekhaya nakusesikoleni. Lesi yisinye sezizathu ezinye izingane ezingase zibe yizihlukumezi noma zibe yi-bossy nokuthi kungani kungase kuthathe isikhathi eside kunabanye ukuthi bafunde ukubuyisela lezo zihlukumezi kanye nezimo eziphathekayo ngezindlela ezamukelekayo ezengeziwe.
Ukuxhashazwa
Akekho othole ukuziphatha okuxhaphaza. Yini ngempela ukuxhashazwa? Sicabanga ukuthi siyakwazi uma sikubona, kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi sesikhathazeke kakhulu ngokuxhaphazwa ukuthi sibona zonke izingane ezinomusa zisenza njengesenzo sokuxhashazwa. Kodwa ukuhlukumezeka kunezici ezithile ezingezona zonke zezenzo ezingenamusa zezingane. Izingane azihlukumezi izingane ezinamandla, ezinamandla, noma ezithonya kakhulu kunalokho. Bayazi ukuthi ngeke baphume ngokukhetha lezo zingane, ngakho-ke bakhetha abantwana ababuthakathaka, abangenamandla, nabathonya kakhulu.
Izingane ezixhaphaza nazo zihlose ukulimaza isisulu sabo. Umonakalo akudingeki ube ngokomzimba; Kungaba ngokomzwelo kanye. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ngokubambisana kwe-cyberbullying, lapho kungekho khona ukuthintana ngokomzimba phakathi komhlukumezi kanye nengane ekuhlukumezweni. Inhloso ekuqhubeni i-cyberbullying ukulimaza ngokomzwelo. Ngisho noma ukuhlukunyezwa kungokwenyama, kunesinye isisusa sokuhlazisa isitshe.
Akukhona nje ngokulimala ngokomzimba. Ngokuvame ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo kokuxhashazwa okubangelwa izinkinga eziningi izingane ezixhashazwayo.
Zonke izingane zithola uhlobo oluthile lokulwa nezinye izingane, ngisho nabangane babo. Ukulwa akusiyo njalo emzimbeni, kodwa kungabangela ubuhlungu. Ukuthukuthela nokubiza umngane igama noma ukusho kusho izinto eziphathelene nabo kuyindlela yokubhekana nengane evamile ekuphikisana okuthile. Lokhu kuziphatha akuzona ukuxhaphaza, noma kunjalo. Kukhona umehluko phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa nezinye izenzo ezingenamusa . Ukuxhashazwa kuqukethe izenzo eziphindaphindiwe, hhayi isenzo esisodwa "sokuziphindiselela" somuntu obonakala kancane noma ongenomusa.
Kungani abanye abantwana behlukumeza? Kunezimbangela ezihlukahlukene zokuxhashazwa . Ezinye izimbangela zibangelwa okuhlangenwe nakho okufana nokukhulisa izingane, kodwa ezinye zihilela izinkinga ezingokomzwelo njengokungabi nesihawu kwabanye noma ukuzithoba.
Bossiness
Ukuzikhandla akufani nokuxhashazwa. Ukuziphatha okuhle kungabuyekezwa, kepha akukwenziwanga ngenhloso yokulimaza noma kugxile kwelitshe elilodwa. Umntanakho uthanda ukuthatha indlela yakhe. Ukuze uthole indlela yakhe, ingane engumfana ixoxela abanye ukuthi benzeni nokuthi yini ayifunayo. Umgomo womntwana ohlukumezayo awukona ukulimaza umuntu, kepha ukuthola lokho akufunayo uma efuna.
Umntwana ohlukumezayo akafuni omunye umuntu ukuba abe ngumphathi. Asikho isisindo sokuziphatha okuhle. Umntanakho uzomele afune ukuhamba naye nanoma ubani onesikhundla sokumnika yona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yizinye izingane noma abantu abadala.
Ukuqashwa kwabantwana abanesiphelo ngokuvamile kubangelwa izidingo ezithile zangaphakathi noma ukuziphatha, okufana nesidingo sokuhlela noma uthando lwemithetho eyinkimbinkimbi. Umntwana onomusa angase futhi aphelelwe isineke ngokuntuleka kwamanye abantwana ukugcina noma ukulalela. Izingane ezinezinwele aziqondi njalo ukuthi ezinye izingane azizinandaba nemithetho yomdlalo njengoba zikhona noma ukuthi ezinye izingane zingeke zikhumbule yonke imithetho noma zihlukumeze bonke.
Kungukuthi ukubekezela okuyingxenye engenza ingane iqale ukutshela ezinye izingane ukuthi zenzeni. Kulula kakhulu ukutshela izingane ukuthi benzeni kunokuba ulinde ukuba ziqaphele.
Ezinye zezingane zisebenza kahle, ngoba zijwayele ukwenza indlela yazo. Ukuziphatha kwabo ngokuvamile kubangelwa lokho okuye kwabizwa ngokuthi "ukuphuza ngokweqile." Abazali bezingane ezinjalo bavame ukubizwa ngokuthi "ama-brat spoiled," ake ingane ikwenze futhi yenza noma yini ayifunayo, evame ukugwema ukudabuka nezinye izinto ezimbi.
Ukubaluleka Kwezingxabano
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa nokuziqhenya akuyona into efana nayo, kanti ngenkathi kokubili ukuhlukumezeka nokuqokwa kungabangelwa ukubeletha okuvumelayo, kunezinye izizathu zalezi zimo zokuziphatha. Kubalulekile ukwazi umehluko ekuziphatheni nasezimbangela zabo ukuze uthole izixazululo ezinhle kakhulu.
Ukuxhashazwa kuyinkinga enkulu kakhulu njengoba kwenziwa ukuze kubangele ukulimala. Kungaba nzima nakakhulu ukuxazulula ukuxhaphazwa ngenxa yobuntu nobungqingili bezindaba ezenza umntwana abe nobungozi bokuba ngumhlukumezi. Ukuzithoba, ukungahawukeli, ukungabi nethonya kungenye yezimfanelo ezingabangela ingane ukuba ihlukumeze abanye. Kungenzeka ukuthi izihlukumezi zishintshe , noma kunjalo, ngolunye usizo. Izingane ezise-bossy nazo zingafunda ukushintsha ukuziphatha kwazo. Ngenxa yokuthi izimbangela zihlukile, izixazululo zokuqashwa zihlukile.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna ukuqeda ukuxhashazwa noma ukuxhashazwa kwengane yakho, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale ukuqonda ubuntu obuntwaneni bakho owazalwa nabo kanye nemithonya yemvelo eye yaba negalelo ekuziphatheni. Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukuqeda ukuziphatha okungamukeleki.