Ukubhekana namantombazane ashoyo, ama-frenemies nezinye izinselele zobungane
Isikole esiphakathi sigcwele izigqoko neziphansi. Kusukela emagatsheni omandla kanye nokukhishwa kwamahemuhemu kuya kwemiqondo ephikisanayo nemizwelo eqinile, amantombazane anokuningi okubhekana nawo. Kodwa akuyona yonke into embi. Isikole esiphakathi kungaba yisikhathi esithakazelisayo samantombazane. Bakha ubungane obuseduze, bathola ukuzimela futhi basebenze imibuthano yabo yomphakathi.
Isihluthulelo ukwazi ukuthi yini okumele ulindelwe nokuthi ungayithola kanjani indlela yokuhamba amanzi angenakubalwa esikoleni esiphakathi kwabangane .
Nazi izinto eziyi-14 ezingaphezulu ongayenza ukuze ulungiselele indodakazi yakho esikoleni esiphakathi kanye nabangane abahamba nayo.
Ukusiza Indodakazi Yakho Yesikole Ephakathi Nokuxhashaza Nobungane
Qonda ukuguqulwa kobuhlobo esikoleni esiphakathi. Ngokungafani nesikole sokuqala, manje lapho amantombazane ehlangana ndawonye, ikakhulukazi bafuna ukukhuluma. Baxoxa ngomuntu ngomculo, amabhayisikobho, izingubo, ingcweti, izincwadi futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nabafana. Futhi uma bengakwazi ukukhuluma ngomuntu, bayothumela imiyalezo noma baxoxisane. Abazali abaqondayo lolu shintsho bazobe bekulungele ukusiza amadodakazi abo ngezinselele.
Khuluma njalo. Lalela ukuthi indodakazi yakho isho ngani esikoleni nabangane. Kodwa ungangeni ngokushesha bese uzama ukulungisa izinto. Kunalokho, vumela nje ukuthi akhulume. Uma uzwelana nalokho akushoyo, cishe uyokugcina e-loop lapho izinto zihamba kahle.
Yakha ukuzihlonipha kwendodakazi yakho. Ukuzethemba okunempilo kungenye yezindlela ezingcono zokuvimbela ukuxhashazwa emndenini wakho.
Qinisekisa ukuthi wenza konke okusemandleni akho ukumsiza ukuba azizwe kahle ngaye ngoba esikoleni esiphakathi singenza okuningi ukuhlukanisa ukuzethemba kwengane.
Qonda ukuthi ushintsho lwabaphathi bezenhlalakahle lushintsha. I-Cliques iqina; isidingo sokuba yilowo olawulayo siyancipha, kanti amanye amantombazane athola amandla. Okuningi kwalokhu kuziphatha kubangelwa ukufuna ukuhlala.
Kumantombazane athile, isidingo sokubamba iqhaza sinamandla kangangokuthi bazokwenza noma yini abangakwenza ukuze kuqedwe umncintiswano. Amantombazane ayaziwa ngokuthi amantombazane asho. Basebenzisa amahemuhemu nenhlebo ukulawula izimo nokuxhaphaza amanye amantombazane.
Zazi ngokwakho nazo zonke izinhlobo zokuxhashazwa. Kusukela ku- cyberbullying nokuthumelelana imiyalezo nge-imeyli ekuxosheni kanye nezinye izinhlobo zobudlova obuhlobene , kudingeka uqiniseke ukuthi uyazi ukuthi izingane zixhaphaza kanjani namuhla. Ngenkathi ukuhlukunyezwa ubuso nobuso kusekhona, ubuchwepheshe budale ipulatifomu entsha yokuhlukunyezwa. Amantombazane ikakhulukazi abonakala abamukela. Ungatholi ngakwesokunxele. Zifundise bese ufundisa indodakazi yakho.
Qiniseka ukuthi indodakazi yakho iyakwazi ukubona umngane omuhle. Umngane omuhle nguye ozoyibheka, amkhathalele, kumbandakanya emisebenzini futhi amphathe ngenhlonipho. Abangane abahle nabo banomusa, bathembekile futhi babambisana. Mkhuthaze ukuba athole abangane nalezi zimfanelo. Siza indodakazi yakho ukuthi ibone ukuthi amantombazane angabani abangane abalungile.
Qaphela indodakazi yakho mayelana nobungane obuyingozi. Lezi zinsuku zivame ukubonakala ngokubeka izinto ezicashile, ukuxhaphaza, ukukhipha kanye nezinye izimo ezilimazayo. Uma indodakazi yakho inebahlobo abanjengalokhu, uzomelana nemizwa emibi ngaye.
Ama-Frenzi avame ukuwela kulolu hlobo. Laba bangabangane abathandekayo ebusweni bendodakazi yakho, kodwa bamhleka ngaye ngemuva kwakhe. Ama-Frenemy nawo azama ukulawula abangani bawo futhi azosebenzisa ukubeka phansi okucashile ukuze kugweme ukuzethemba.
Mtshele ukuba agweme ubungane namantombazane ashoyo. Amantombazane asho njalo avame ukuhleka amahemuhemu, ukuhleka noma ukuhleka lapho amanye amantombazane ehamba futhi ekhuluma ngokukhululekile ngamaqembu akhethekile. Baphinde bahlebe, bakhulume amanga futhi baxoshe amanye amantombazane. Nakuba la mantombazane angase abonakale ethandwa futhi athandwa kahle, abafundi abaningi bavame ukubekezelela ukuziphatha kwabo ukugwema ukuba yisisulu esilandelayo. Nxusa indodakazi yakho ukuba ihlukane nalezi zinhlobo zamantombazane.
Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuthi ibe nabangane abahlukahlukene. Nakuba ube ne-BFF (umngane ongcono kakhulu kuze kube phakade) kungase kubonakale kujabulisa, ngalesi sikhathi amadodakazi adinga okungaphezu kokukodwa, ubungane obukhethekile. Kuwukuhlakanipha ukuthi indodakazi yakho ibe nabangane ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene empilweni yakhe, njengabangane basendaweni, esikoleni, esontweni nasezemidlalo. Lokhu kusho ukuthi uzoba nabanye abantu ukuthi baphenduke uma kukhona okungalungile ngenye yobungane bakhe.
Yazi abangani bendodakazi yakho. Khuthaza indodakazi yakho ukuba imeme abangani bayo ngaphezulu. Uma amanye amantombazane evakashela, uthola ithuba lokubheka ngokuthula ukuxhumana kwengane yakho. Ungakwazi futhi ukuthatha noma yiziphi izinkinga. Uma ubona noma yini engaphazamisi, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nendodakazi yakho ngakho kamuva.
Bheka ukuthi uzizwa kanjani. Nakuba esikoleni esiphakathi yisikhathi esithintekayo samantombazane ngenxa yazo zonke izinguquko ezenzeka emizimbeni yazo, kubalulekile futhi ukuthi ubuke izinkomba ukuthi kukhona okunye okubahluphayo. Qaphela noma yiziphi izimpawu zokuxwayisa ukuxhashazwa. Futhi qaphela uma ethi kukhona "idrama" esikoleni noma ukuthi "akanalo abangane." Ngokuvamile, lezi zibonakaliso zokuthi ukuxhashazwa kuyenzeka.
Vumela indodakazi yakho ukuba ihlele izici zobungane yedwa. Ungangeneli ngaphandle kokuthi uxhaswe. Ukumvumela ukuba aphumelele izinkinga yena ngokwakhe ufundisa amakhono akhe okuphila okubalulekile. Uzofunda ukuxazulula izingxabano, ukuqinisekiswa nokuxazulula izinkinga .
Siza indodakazi yakho ifunde ukubaluleka nokuveza imibono yakhe. Yize kubalulekile ukucabanga ngezidingo zabanye abantu, kubalulekile futhi ukuba amantombazane afunde ukufakazela, ikakhulukazi azungeze abahlukumezayo. Umgomo wukuthi indodakazi yakho izofunda ukuveza umehluko wemibono ngendlela ehloniphayo. Ufuna futhi ukuthi afunde ukuzivikela lapho abanye bekumncenga noma behlukumeza.
Khumbula ukuthi usengumthelela omkhulu empilweni yakhe. Nakuba kungase kuphazamise ukubona abangane bebathonya izinketho zokugqoka nomculo, khumbula ukuthi lezi zikhetho ziyisikhathi esifushane. Uma ukhuthaza ubuhlobo obuhle futhi obuvulekile nendodakazi yakho, uzoba nethonya elikhulu kakhulu ezindinganisweni zakhe nasekuziphatheni kwakhe. Ngakho ungadikibali yizinguquko ezincane ozibonayo. Kunalokho, gxila esithombeni esikhulu.