Enye yeZindlela Ezikhula Ngokushesha Kokuxhaphazwa Kwe-Cyberbullying
KuNathaniel Hawthorne's "The Scarlet Letter," uHerter wagqoka incwadi ethi "A" esifubeni sakhe ukuze umhlaba ubone. Kwakuyindlela yokuba umphakathi uhlazeke ngenxa yokuphinga kwakhe. Namuhla, amantombazane agqoke uhlobo olusha lwencwadi ebomvu okunamandla kakhulu futhi okunamandla ukubhekana nayo. Incwadi yabo ebomvu isesimweni sokuthi "slut-shaming" kokubili kuyi-Intanethi nasendlini yesikole.
"Ukuhlambalaza ngamathambo" uhlobo lwe- cyberbullying lapho amantombazane ahloswe khona emphakathini wezokuxhumana kanye nokuxhashazwa ngenxa yokwehla noma ukuhlazeka ngenxa yobulili babo. Lokho kusho ukuthi amantombazane avame ukuhleka usulu ngendlela abheka ngayo, indlela abagqoka ngayo kanye nezinga labo lokucatshangelwa ngokocansi.
Ngokusho kocwaningo oluqhutshwa yi-American Association of Women's University , ukuhlambalaza ngamakhwenyana kungenye yezindlela ezivame kakhulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili abafundi abafunda esikoleni esiphakathi nasesikoleni esiphakeme. Eqinisweni, owesithathu wabo bonke abafundi bahlangabezana "nokwenza umuntu enze amazwana angacabangi ngokobulili, amahlaya, noma izenzo" ngazo.
Izinhlobo ze-Slut Shaming
Ngenkathi lezi zindlela zihluka, izihlukumezi zivame ukusebenzisa izingosi zomphakathi ukuze zihlanganyele izithombe namavidiyo acacile. Isibonelo, izihlukumezi kanye namantombazane asho ukuthatha izithombe zamantombazane ababhekene nawo kanye nokubeka imibono ehlambalaza noma ecacile ngokobulili ngemizimba yabo. Futhi bangase bahlanganyele ekubizeni amagama nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi .
Izikhathi eziningi, lezi zithombe namavidiyo athathwa ngaphandle kolwazi lwesikhangiso.
Ngezinye izikhathi umfundi angadala isithombe somunye umfana owamthengisa umshini noma ahlamba umzimba wakhe ngendlela ethile. Ngokwesibonelo, esimweni esisodwa intsha yakha uchungechunge lwezithombe eziningi ezihambisana namazwibela futhi zithumele ku-Instagram.
Esinye isibonelo sasihlanganisa umfanekiso wentombazane ene-cleavage ecacile kanye nesigcawu esithi: "Hey Hey girls ukuthi wazi ukuthi ama-boobs akho angena ngaphakathi kwehembe lakho?"
Phakathi naleso sikhathi, abafana beyaziwa ukuthi balala nentombazane bese beqopha isenzo kwi-smartphone yabo ngaphandle kolwazi lwakhe. Bese bahlanganyela la mavidiyo nabangani noma ngisho naku-intanethi. Kodwa lokho ngokuvamile abaqapheli ukuthi leli fomu lokuxhashazwa ngokocansi liphikisana nomthetho. Ngenxa yalokho, kungabangela amacala okuhlaziya izingane ezingcolile. Eqinisweni, amacala angadluliselwa kokubili kumfana owathatha le vidiyo futhi wabelane ngawo nangokumelene nabafundi abanekhophi yevidiyo - noma ngabe abazange babuze ividiyo. Uma ku-smartphone yabo bangakhokhiswa ukuthi banezingane ezingcolile zobulili.
Ukuthumela imiyalezo nge-sexting kungabangela ukuhlambalaza. Ngokwesibonelo, lapho umfana nentombazane bephola bangase babelane ngezithombe zobulili ezicacile noma ezingcolile. Khona-ke, lapho behlukana, isoka elicasulayo lihlambalaza intombi ngokuhlanganyela izithombe zakhe ezinamabala noma ezingenasici kwi-intanethi. Lolu hlobo lomsebenzi luphikisana nomthetho futhi lungabangela amacala okuhlaziya izingane ezingcolile. Kwezinye izimo, intombazane ingathanda ngempela umfana iphinde imthumelele izithombe ezimnandi. Wabe esabela ngokuwabelana nabo nangokumhlambalaza.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izingane ziqonde izingozi nemiphumela ehlobene nokuthumela imiyalezo nge-SMS .
Izikole nazo zingadlala ngokungaziwa emasikweni okuhlambalaza ngokudala amakhodi wokugqoka okuvimbela amantombazane ekuboniseni isikhumba esiningi ngenkathi evumela abafana ukuba bakhululeke kakhulu. Khona-ke, uma amantombazane eyala ngenxa yokungahambisani nemihlahlandlela yesikole, ayatshelwa ukuthi kufanele agqoke ngendlela ethile ukugwema abafana "abaphazamisayo". Ngokusho kwezishoshovu, lokhu kuyindlela eyingozi yokucabanga. Lokhu kusho ukuthi amantombazane ngandlela-thile abekwe icala noma abe nesibopho sokuhlambalaza ngamashukela futhi kubi nakakhulu, ngenxa yokuxhashazwa ngokobulili noma ukuhlaselwa.
Umqondo wokuthi amantombazane anesibopho sokuphendula abafana, noma ukuthi abafana abakwazi ukuzilawula, kuyindlela yokuhlukunyezwa.
Imiphumela ye-Slut-Shaming
Kubantu abaningi, izinga eliphindwe kabili likhungathekisa. Abafana ngokuvamile bathola indumiso nokudumisa ngobufakazi bokunqotshwa kwabo ngokocansi ngenkathi amantombazane ebizwa ngokuthi avulekile, alula, i-slut, isikhwama noma isifebe. Ngenxa yalokho, amantombazane avame ukushiywa nomuzwa wokuhlazeka okujulile, amahloni, amahloni kanye nobuhlungu. Futhi bangase bazizwe bengenanzuzo futhi bengenathemba futhi basebenzise ukuzihlukumeza nokudabuka kokudla ukubhekana nobuhlungu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amantombazane amaningi asebehlambalaza anezimpikiswano zomzimba . Ngisho nokucindezeleka , ukukhathazeka nemicabango yokuzibulala kuhlobene nokuhlambalaza.
Eqinisweni, kunemibiko eminingi yamantombazane amancane ahlazola ngokocansi kamuva abulala impilo yawo. Lokhu kuhlanganisa u-Amanda Todd, uJesse Logan, Hope Witsell, uSarah Lynn Butler, uPeebe Prince, uFelicia Garcia nokuningi. Intombazane ngayinye yayihlazola ngokocansi ngandlela-thile, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izinto ezingakaze zenze, ukubenza bazizwe njengokuzibulala kwakuwukukhetha kwabo kuphela okubalekela ekuhluphekeni okuqhubekayo.
Abazali bangavimbela ukuhlambalaza emadodaneni abo ngokukhuluma ngezingozi zokuthumelelana imiyalezo ngezocansi kanye nokuxhashazwa ngokocansi. Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza intsha ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngezindlela zokuziphatha zobulili zabanye, ukuhlambalaza ngamathambo akuvumelekile. Futhi uma ingane ibanjwe ukuxhashazwa ngokobulili noma i-slut ihlambalaza idinga ukuqeqeshwa futhi ifunde ukuthi ithatha kanjani umthwalo wokukhetha ukuxhashazwa .
> "Ukuwela Umzila: Ukuhlukunyezwa Ngokocansi eSikoleni." Association American of Women University, 2011. https://www.aauw.org/files/2013/02/Crossing-the-Line-Sexual-Harassment-at-School.pdf