Ukubheka ngokucophelela ukuthi iziphi izisulu zokuxhashazwa zihlangabezana nakho
Ukuhlukunyezwa kuyisenzakalo esibuhlungu esithinta izisulu ngezindlela abantu abaningi abangaziqondi. Kusukela emzimbeni ojulile kanye nesisu esidabukisayo kuya emicabangweni emibi nokucindezeleka, imiphumela yokuxhaphaza iqhuma i-gamut. Nazi amaqiniso ayisikhombisa mayelana nokuhlukunyezwa okuwukuphela kwezihlukumezi zokuhlukunyezwa okuqondayo.
"Ukuxhashazwa ngokuhlukumezeka ngengqondo yakho." Ukuxhashazwa kusebenzisa imicabango yomuntu.
Eqinisweni, izikhathi eziningi izisulu zokuxhashazwa zizoqala ukukholelwa zonke izinto ezimbi okushiwo yi-bully. Futhi bakholelwa ngamanga ukuthi wonke umuntu ucabanga izinto ezifanayo ezinyantisayo ngabo abahlukunyezwayo. Ngokushesha amazwi amabi angamabomu abe yiqiniso kubo, futhi aqala ukukholelwa imilayezo emibi futhi. Lokhu kuthinta umuzwa womuntu oyisisulu nokuzihlonipha kwakhe .
"Imizwa yokuhlukumeza imizwa ayigxili." Imizwelo abahlukunyezwayo, okubandakanya ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokucindezeleka akuzona ezinhlokweni zabo. Le mizwa nemizwelo ingokoqobo. Futhi, banemiphumela yangempela kakhulu. Ngeshwa, abantu abaningi abaqondi imiphumela yokuhlukumezeka futhi bahlale bebuza umphumela wokuphendula kwesisulu. Baqamba amanga ngokuthi isisulu senza into enkulu kunalokho.
"Ukuxhashazwa ngempela kungakwenza ugula." Imiphumela yokuxhashazwa ingazibonakalisa ngobuningi bezimpawu zomzimba.
Izingane eziye zahlukunyezwa zivame ukukhononda nge-stomachaches kanye nekhanda. Bangase babe nezinkinga zokucindezeleka , ukukhathazeka ngisho nemicabango yokuzibulala. Okwamanje, ukucindezeleka okungapheli ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kungaholela kuzo zonke izinto ezivela emzimbeni wezinsizi kanye nemisipha, ukuphefumula okusheshayo, izinga lokushaya kwenhliziyo ngokushesha, kanye nesicanucanu.
Futhi kuyinto evamile ukuthi izisulu zokuhlukumezeka zibhekane nokuzilimaza nokudabuka kokudla .
"Ukutshela othile ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka akuyona into enkulu noma ukuphoqa, akusizi." Akusizi ngalutho ukutshela isisulu sokuxhashazwa ukuthi lokho abakutholayo akuyona into enkulu noma ukuthi kufanele baphumule noma bephumule phansi. Kunalokho, izisulu zokuxhashazwa zidinga ukuzizwa ziqinisekisiwe. Babuye badinga imibono yokuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokuthi baphendule kanjani ukuxhashazwa. Yiba nokuqonda nokubekezela lapho usebenzisana nesisulu sokuxhashazwa.
"Ukuhlukumezeka kungakushintsha." Ukuxhashazwa kushisa impilo kanye namandla avela ezisulu. Kanye izingane ezijabule ziba nzima futhi zicindezelekile. Ziyizigobolondo zomuntu ababekade bekhona. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi ukuxhashazwa akuyona into enkulu. Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi imiphumela yokuxhashazwa ingaba nomthelela ohlala njalo. Ukuxhashazwa kungalithinta ngisho nempilo yengqondo kude kube umuntu omdala.
"Ukuxhashazwa kwenza uzizwe ungenamandla futhi uwedwa." Akukho okubi kakhulu kunokuhlukunyezwa. Ngisho nalapho bezungezwe abangane nabomndeni, isisulu sokuxhashazwa singase sibe nomuzwa wedwa. Ingxenye yalokhu ingenxa yokungabi namandla ngaphezu kwesimo esithintekayo. Ngokuvamile, abazi ukuthi bangaqeda kanjani ukuhlupheka kwabo.
Bazizwa nokuthi abanye abantu abanamandla okubasiza futhi, ikakhulukazi uma ukuxhaphazwa kuqhubeka ngisho nangemva kokubikwa. La maqiniso akhulisa umuzwa wecala lozungu.
"Umusa womuntu oyedwa ungashintsha konke." Ngezinye izikhathi konke okudingekayo kumuntu oyedwa ukumomotheka noma ukunikeza igama elikhuthazayo. Lesi senzo esincane singenza umqondo wethemba lokuthi umhlaba akuwona wonke omubi, ukuthi kukhona okuhle emhlabeni. Qinisekisa ukuthi uthatha isikhathi sokwamukela noma uxhumane nesisulu sokuxhashazwa. Isenzo sakho somusa esilula singashintsha konke kubo.