Uma uhlushwa njengengane, cishe ukhumbule uzizwa ungenalutho, ungaphephile, ungaphephile futhi uyedwa. Eqinisweni, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukuxhashazwa owazibonela ebuntwaneni kungase kube yinkinga kakhulu kangangokuba usenemizwa ngisho nanamuhla. Ungabaza uqobo, unenkinga yokuthembela kubantu futhi ungabi nabangane bekhwalithi. Lokhu ukungabi nokuphulukiswa nokuvalwa kuqinisile uma ukuhlukunyezwa kungakaze kuxazululwe noma kuqondiswe lapho usencane.
Ngenxa yalokho, cishe usaphila nokulimala kokuzihlonipha kwakho. Lezi zimphumela eziqhubekayo azivele zivele nje ngoba ukhule. Empeleni, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu abadala abahlukumezekile njengengane basengozini enkulu yokukhathazeka kokukhathazeka , ukucindezeleka nokucabanga okuzibulala . Kodwa kukhona ithemba lokubuyiselwa. Nazi izinto eziyishumi ongayenza ukuze uphinde uthole ukuhlukumezeka owaye wabhekana nengane noma njengomfana osemusha.
Yazisa Ukuxhashazwa Okuthintekayo
Izisulu zokuxhashazwa ngokuvamile zichitha iminyaka ukunciphisa ukuxhashazwa, ukuyixosha noma ukuzenza sengathi akukwenzekanga. Noma, zithatha umuzwa wecala, ihlazo noma ukuziqhenya , zikholelwa ukuthi ngabe zihluke noma zivivinywe kanzima ukuhlukunyezwa kwakungeke kwenzeke. Indlela kuphela yokuqala inqubo yokuphulukisa ukuqaphela ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka futhi ukuthi awunabo obhekene nayo.
Yenza Impilo Yakho Nokubuyisela Kube Okubalulekile
Izisulu zokuxhashazwa ngokuvamile zibhekana nezinkinga zempilo.
Lezi zingabandakanya yonke into ekungalawuleki, izimo zokucindezeleka kanye nezinsizwa ekucindezelweni kokucindezeleka okulandela emuva , ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kokudla . Qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho nganoma yiziphi izimpawu ozizwayo. Khumbula, ukuxhashazwa kuthinta okungaphezu nje kwemizwa yakho kanye nokuzethemba kwakho. Kungaba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho.
Thatha izinyathelo zokuzinakekela wena.
UkuLawula Ukulawula
Imizwa yokungabi namandla nokungabi namandla ingakwazi ukubhekana nokukhula. Ngenxa yalokho, ugibela ingozi yokuphila impilo yakho njengesisulu esihlala njalo. Qaphela ukuthi ngenkathi ungakwazi ukulawula okwenzekile kuwe, ungalawula ukusabela kwakho. Qala ukutakula kwakho ngokulawula imicabango yakho, imizwelo nezenzo nokwenza izinqumo ezinempilo. Kubalulekile nokuba ne-akhawunti yakho futhi uqaphele ukuthi ungakhetha ukwenza izinqumo eziphilile. Unenketho yokuphila kwakho.
Qaphela Ukubaluleka Kwakho Nokubaluleka
Ukuxhashazwa ngokuvamile kubangela abantu ukuba balahlekelwe ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha ngoba kugcwele amanga ngokubaluleka kwakho njengomuntu. Yenqaba amanga awakhulunywa ngu-bully ngawe bese uwafaka esikhundleni seqiniso ngokuthi ungubani. Gxila ekufundeni ukuphinde uphinde . Ukuze uqalise, bhala phansi izici zakho ezinhle. Uyini okuhle? Yiziphi amandla akho? Abantu bathanda ngawe? Uthandani ngawe? Gxila ezintweni ezinhle ozenzile zona futhi unqabe amanga abahlukumezayo abakondla.
Gwema Ukuzihlukanisa
Ingxenye enkulu yokubuyiselwa ekuhlukunyezweni igcina ukuxhumana nabangani nomndeni osekelayo.
Ngezikhathi eziningi, izisulu zokuxhashazwa zizihlukanisa futhi zizama ukubhekana nemiphumela yokuhlukumeza yedwa. Uma ukuhlukumezeka owawubona lapho ingane iqhubeka ikhanda ikhanda layo elibi, cabangela ukukhuluma nomeluleki mayelana nokudlula kwakho. Futhi kusiza ukukhuluma nabangani nomndeni noma ukuthola iqembu lokusekela endaweni yakini. Isihluthulelo ukuthi awuhambi ngendlela yokuphulukisa yodwa.
Funa Ukusekelwa
Ngesinye isikhathi ukuphulukiswa kusukela ekuguleni komntwana njengokuhlukunyezwa kudinga usizo ngaphandle nokusekelwa ngaphandle. Xoxa nodokotela wakho womndeni bese uthole izincomo zomeluleki othe ngqo ekuphulukiseni kusukela ezigulini zobuntwana.
Umeluleki uzokusiza ukucubungula nokuqonda lokho okwenzekile kuwe. Naye uzokwazi ukukhomba noma yiziphi izindlela ezingalungile zokubhekana nazo ozisebenzisayo.
Gxila ekukhuleni komuntu siqu
Thola izindawo lapho udinga ukukhula noma ukuphulukisa. Ngokwesibonelo, udinga ukwakha ukuzethemba kwakho noma ukuqinisa ngokwengeziwe ? Ngokufanayo, ungase uzuze ekufundeni ukubeka imingcele, ukuthatha isigaba sokuzivikela noma ngokujoyina iqembu lezempilo. Yenza uhlu lwezindawo lapho ufuna ukuthuthukisa khona noma ukushintsha. Kungcono ukwenza lolu hlu ngokwakho kunokuba ucele umbono womunye umuntu. Ngale ndlela, uzoba ngumnikazi wezinguquko ozodinga ukwenza. Kodwa uma unenkinga yokukhomba ubuthakathaka bakho, cela umngane wakho omncane noma ilunga lomndeni lokho abakubonayo.
Shintsha Izinqubo Zakho Zokucabanga
Izikhathi eziningi, abantu abaphulukisa bakha ukuhlukumezwa kwabantwana bakhanyisa ngalokho abakuzwayo noma abacabangelayo ngokungahlangabezi nalolu buhlungu futhi. Funda izindlela zokwenza imicabango yakho ithathwe. Beka imigomo bese ugxila ezintweni ezenza ujabule noma uletha injabulo empilweni yakho. Gwema ukugxila sonke isikhathi namandla akho ebuhlungu bakho obudlule nokuthola kwakho okwamanje. Akunempilo ukucabanga ngobuhlungu nokuthi yini oye wakhuthazela ngaso sonke isikhathi. Beka eceleni izikhathi ezithile ukuze ubhekane nalezi zinkinga kodwa ungazivumeli ukuthi zikudle.
Thola Ukuvalwa
Ingxenye ebalulekile yokutakula kwakho ukuhambisa ngaphezu kwalokho okwenzekile kuwe. Ngenkathi udinga ukuvuma ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka kukuthinte kanjani, udinga futhi ukususa kuwo ngesikhathi esithile. Ukuxhashazwa owazibonela akusho ukuthi ungubani. Kunalokho, thola ukuthi ungubani futhi uvale umnyango esikhathini esedlule. Ezinye izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ziye zathola ukuthi ukubhala incwadi (ukuthi awusoze uthumele) kulabo abahlukumezayo kubasiza ukuthi bathole ukuvalwa kulokho okwenzekile. Ukwenza kanjalo, kukuvumela ukuba ubonise konke ubuhlungu nentukuthelo owahluleka ukuyiveza lapho useyingane.
Iba nesineke
Ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantwana kushiya izibazi ezijulile nokulondoloza akuyona inqubo esheshayo, ikakhulukazi uma ungazange ubhekane nokuhlukunyezwa uma kwenzeka. Ngenxa yalokho, cishe unemiqondo eminingi engalungile nemikhuba emibi yokuphula. Gubha intuthuko yakho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuncane kangakanani futhi uzinike isikhathi nendawo yokuphulukisa. Izinguquko zingase zibe zincane futhi ziphuze kodwa zisashintsha. Ngolunye usuku uzovuka uphinde ubone umuntu omusha ebuka emuva esibukweni.
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