Thola ukuthi ungabheka kanjani intsha engumlutha ehlukumeza abanye
Abantu bakhuluma nge-narcissism ngaso sonke isikhathi. Bashayela abangane babo, abasebenza nabo kanye nomakhelwane babo. Kungenzeka umcimbi ubhale amakhwenyana wabo, omshade nabo ngisho nomfundisi wabo wengane abe narcisissis.
Futhi bashesha kakhulu ukubiza abasha abashayeli bezinkinga ngenxa yobuningi be-selfies kanye nokuthunyelwe okuphezulu kwe-Instagram ne-Twitter.
Kodwa ochwepheshe bakhombisa ukuthi kukhona umehluko phakathi kwezintsha ezizimele ezithumela ngokweqile kuma-social media kanye ne-narcissist yeqiniso.
Eqinisweni, kuningi kakhulu ekutheni uhlakulele kunokuba nomqondo wokuzicabangela, izakhamuzi zibuye zibonise izimpawu ezithile ezibenza bakwazi ukulawula nokuxhaphaza abanye. Nakhu okuningiliziwe kwezibonakaliso eziyisihlanu eziphezulu ukuthi intsha iyinaricissistic kanye ne-bully.
Ukungabi nozwela nokuhlakanipha kwengqondo . Ama-Narcissists akuthola kunzima, uma kungenakwenzeka, ukuzwelana nemizwa yabanye . Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, bavame ukukhathazeka nxazonke zokubonisa imizwelo. Futhi kaningi abaqondi ukuqonda kwemizwa yabanye futhi ngisho nokulwa ukuveza imizwa yabo siqu. Eqinisweni, lapho bethukuthele, ngokuvamile bayokwenqaba ukuzwa ngaleyo ndlela. Futhi uma behlukunyezwa noma bekhungathekile, bayovame ukuhlasela bese beqhuma ngokufutheka.
Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, bajwayele ukuxhaphaza abanye.
Akukhona nje kuphela ukuthi abanakho ukuzwelana okudingekile ukubenza bahlukumeze abanye, kodwa futhi abathinteki kakhulu nemizwa yabo yokuthi indlela kuphela eyazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani intukuthelo nokufutheka. Umphumela wokuphela uhlazisa abanye futhi usabise.
Khombisa imizwa yokufaneleka . Ama-Narcissist anemizwa ejulile yokufaneleka futhi ngokuvamile enza izinqumo ngaphandle kokucabanga okuningi emthethweni kwabanye abantu.
Ngenxa yalokho, bazizwa benelungelo lokuphathwa kangcono kunabanye abantu. Futhi uma abantu bengabaniki lokho abazizwa benesidingo, bangabe benesihluku ngokubuyisela. Futhi bangase bazizwe benelungelo lokuphatha abantu njengokungathi bangaphansi kwabo. Lokhu kusho ukuxhaphaza izingane ebhasini ngokuba "esihlalweni sabo" noma ukuthatha izinto ezingabanye. Bazizwa benelungelo lokuba nesimo esihle kakhulu eqenjini, indawo yokuqala emgqeni, indawo enhle kakhulu yasemini nokunye.
Bonisa izimpawu zokuzibandakanya . Ama-Narcissists bacabanga kuphela ngabo futhi abakwazi ukubona izidingo noma imizwa yabanye. Ngaphezu kokuzibandakanya, zibuye zilawule futhi zixhaphaze futhi zivame ukuxhaphaza abanye ukuze zithole indlela yazo. Zilawula izingxoxo, zikhulume ngokuzwakalayo noma ziphazamise abanye.
Ukungabangani nabanye ngokuvamile kudinga ukwethembeka okuphelele nokungaqondakali kubangane babo. Uma abangane beveza ukunganeliseki, i-narcissist izobavula. Amacebo asetshenzisiwe angase afake ukuxoshwa , ukusakazwa kwenhlebo , ukuhlambalaza nokuxhunywa kwe-cyberbullying . Baye bavame ukulwa nomhawu nomona futhi babuze izizathu nokuthembeka kwabanye. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu uphatha kahle kanjani umlobi wezincwadi, banomuzwa wokuthi awunakulungele.
Ukulwa nokuzifanisa nokuziqhenya komphakathi .
Nakuba izazi zezinhlamba eziningi zibonakala zingenakuziqhenya futhi zizikhukhumeza, empeleni zithintekile ngendlela ababhekwa ngayo ngabanye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, bahlambalaza kalula futhi bavame ukungachazi kahle wonke amazwana noma ukuphawula ukuthi kubekwe phansi noma ukuhlambalaza. Ngenxa yalokho, akuyona into engavamile ukuba babhikishe ukuthi bayisisulu sokuxhashazwa noma ukuhlukumeza esikhundleni senye indlela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, bavame ukuhleka usulu futhi bahlazise abanye, ikakhulu labo abasondelene nabo. Baphinde bakhulume kabi ngabanye ngemuva kwabo futhi bazoba namahemuhemu nokuhleba ngabanye, ngokuvamile bacekele phansi izimpendulo zabo.
Awunakho ikhampasi yokuziphatha . Izikhathi eziningi, ama-narcissist azohlanganyela ekuziphatheni okungekho emthethweni, aphikise iqiniso noma asebenzise izimo nabanye. Baye nokwenqaba ukwamukela umthwalo wemfanelo ngenxa yeziphambeko zabo futhi bavame ukufaka icala lokushintshwa . Ukwengeza, bazosebenzisa umlandu wokuphatha abanye noma bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni kwesisulu ukuze uthole ukuzwelana.
Ama-Narcissist nawo azinzibophezele kakhulu futhi ahlulele abanye abantu. Ngenxa yalokho, uma bexhaphaza abanye bavame ukukholelwa ukuthi isisulu sifanele ukwelashwa noma sifike ngokwazo. Ngenxa yalokho, abaze baphathe umthwalo wokukhetha kwabo ukulimaza abanye abantu.