Yini okufanele uyenze lapho ingane yakho izwa ukuthi ishiyekile emphakathini
Ukuzwa ngakwesokunxele noma ukuhlwithwa kungaba yingozi, ngisho nabantu abadala. Ake ucabange ukuthi ukulimaza nokulimaza kufanele kube kanjani ingane encane, ongenayo okuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila kanye namakhono okubhekana nokubhekana nabantu abadala, ukuzwa amagama anjengokuthi, "Awukwazi ukudlala nathi," noma "Asifuni wena ukuhlala lapha, "noma" Awumenyelwe kuphanga lami lokuzalwa. " Kodwa ngeshwa, lezi zibonelo zokuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwane nezenhlalakahle kanye nokungabandakanyi yizinto ezijwayelekile kakhulu phakathi kwezingane ezifunda esikoleni.
Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi kunezindlela eziphathekayo abazali nabafundisi abangenelela ukusiza izingane ezibhekana nezinkomba kanye nalolu hlobo oluhlukumezayo lokuxhaphaza umphakathi.
Kuyini Cliques?
Into yokuqala abazali kufanele bazi ukuthi yini ngempela echaza i-clique. Yize kungokwemvelo futhi kunempilo yabantwana ukuthi benze ama-attachments futhi benze abangani futhi baze babe nobuhlobo obuseduze nabantwana abathile kunabanye, ama-clique ahlukile eqenjini labangane ngezindlela ezithile ezibalulekile.
- UCliques ngokuvamile unomholi noma abaholi abakhetha ukuthi ngubani ozokwenza futhi angeke afakwe.
- I-Cliques ingafaka esikoleni esiphakathi nasesikoleni esiphakeme, kodwa singenza futhi siqale ekuqaleni kwebanga lesikoleni ngisho ne- enkulisa .
- Izingane ezinamalungu e-clique zingase zibe nomuzwa wokucindezela ukwenza izinto ezingafuni ukuzenza, njengokudambisa noma ukuxhaphaza umuntu ongekho eqenjini.
Okushiwo Abazali
Mlalele ngempela lokho ingane yakho ekushoyo lapho umbuza ukuthi isikole sini , futhi ubuze imibuzo ethize, "Ubani ohlala naye emini namuhla?" noma "Ubani owake wadlala naye ngesikhathi sokuphumula?" Uma ingane yakho ibonakala ibuhlungu noma ikhungathekile ngokuphendula le mibuzo, noma ithi ayihlali noma idlala nomuntu, buza ukuthi kungani.
Khuluma nothisha wengane yakho. Uthisha wengane yakho cishe uyazi izintandokazi zenhlalo ekilasini, futhi angakwazi ukunikeza ukuqonda ngalokho okwenzekayo. Yena noma kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangene nokubhekana nama-cliques futhi angase akhombise ezinye izixazululo zokusiza ingane yakho uma ingane yakho ingabanjwanga ngempela.
Ungacabangi ukuthi lokhu "yingxenye yobuntwana," noma umcimbi wevesi ozokwenza izingane ziqine, noma zizohamba uma zingazinaki. Ukungaxhasi noma ukuxhaphazwa komphakathi kungukuhlukumezeka, akukho ama-ifs, ne-ors, noma ama-buts. Ngenxa yokuthi ukuziphatha okunonya kungase kube into ejwayelekile ezizukulwaneni ezidlule futhi kungase kube yinto ethile izingane eziqhubekayo zenza namuhla, akusho ukuthi kufanele siyivumele ukuba iqhubeke, kusho u-Tracy Vaillancourt, PhD, uShrofesa noCanada Research Chair e-Health Mental Health kanye nokuVimbelwa kobudlova eNyuvesi yase-Ottawa. Futhi, okubaluleke nakakhulu, ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi imiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuxhashazwa ingadlulela amashumi eminyaka ngemuva kwalokho, futhi ixhunyaniswa nezinkinga zomzimba nezempilo nezinye izinkinga ekukhuleni.
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukudlala nezinye izingane. Uma sizizwa singabandakanyiswa, ngokwemvelo sizama ngisho nakakhulu ukuzivumelanisa, kusho uDkt. Vaillancourt. Yenza ingane yakho ibheke ezinye izingane futhi ugxile kude nezingane eziqonde. Setha idethi yokudlala ngemva kwesikole futhi uhlele ukuhlangana nabazali nezingane abangenalo ingxenye ye-clique ukuze ingane yakho idale amanye ubungane obuphilile.
Uma ingane yakho iyingxenye ye-clique, khuluma naye ngalokho okushiwo ngempela nokuthi yiziphi izinsizakalo ezingezansi (Angeke avunyelwe ukuba ngokwakhe; kungase kudingeke enze izinto angafuni ukuzenza ukuze afaneleke; angabandakanyi ezinye izingane ukuziphatha okulimazayo; njll).
Khuluma naye ngokuthi yini enamandla phezu kwabanye kusho, futhi ukhuthaze uzwela ngokumbuza ukuthi kungase kube nomuzwa kanjani ukuthi uvela ngaphesheya, ukushiywa ngaphandle, ukuxhashazwa, noma ukukhishwa ngaphandle.
Lokho Abafundisi Bangakwenza
Othisha bangadlala indima ebalulekile ekwakheni ama-clique. Ukuvimbela amaqembu enhlalakahle afana nalokhu ekwakheni nasekutholeni amandla ekilasini, othisha bangenza isiqiniseko sokuthi bahlele isiteji ukuze kungenzeki, kusho uDkt. Vaillancourt. Bangakwazi ukuqeda amaqembu aqinile abumba futhi ahlukanise izingane ezihlukene njalo njalo futhi akhuthaze zonke izingane ukuba zisebenzisane.
Bobabili abazali nabafundisi bangakwazi futhi kufanele benze umzamo wokuqondisa izingane ngendlela efanele ukuze izingane zifunde ngezinto ezifana nokubambisana nomusa , hhayi amakhono akhuluma izingxenye ezimbi kunazo zonke zokuziphatha komuntu njengokungaba nenhlonipho.
"Sivame ukugxila ezintweni ezintathu" zeR "zemfundo kodwa singanaki ukuqala kobudlelwano bokufundisa," kusho uDkt. Vaillancourt.