Ukufakazela ukuxhaphazwa kuyisimo esibuhlungu kubantu abaningi abasha. Eqinisweni, izingane eziningi ezibona ukuhlukunyezwa esikoleni zivame ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka nokungenasici. Akukhona nje ukuthi ukuxhaphaza esikoleni okuqhubekayo kuthinta isimo sezulu esikoleni nokufunda, kodwa futhi kungaba nethonya empilweni yomuntu kanye nokuphila kahle. Ngokwesibonelo, ucwaningo oluthile lubonisa ukuthi ukuxhashazwa kungaba nomthelela omkhulu kubantwana abayibona njengabantwana abahlukunyezwayo.
Noma kunjalo, bambalwa izingane ezibika ukuxhashazwa. Akugcini nje ukuthi abahluleka ukumelana nomuntu ohlukumezayo, kodwa futhi akalokothi abike lokho abakubonayo kumuntu omdala. Nakuba izingane eziningi zingazi ukuthi yini okufanele zenze, kunezinye izizathu ezihlukahlukene ezenza kube nokuthula. Nazi izizathu eziyisikhombisa eziphezulu ukuthi kungani abahleli behlala bethule.
Isizathu Sokuba Abaphikisi Abavame Ukuthi Akukho Okuphikisana Nokuhlukunyezwa
Ukwesaba umhlukumezi uyoziphindiselela . Ukwesaba mhlawumbe isizathu esisodwa izingane ezithula. Besaba ukuthi uma betshela umuntu, lo mhlukumezi uzozikhomba ngokulandelayo. Le nkolelo iqinisile kulabo abaphikisanayo abaye baba yizisulu zokuhlukunyezwa ngaphambili. Bavame ukubheka izimo zokuxhashaza futhi babonga kuphela ukuthi abahlosiwe.
Thola ukucindezeleka ukuthula . Izikhathi eziningi, i- clique noma iqembu lamantombazane asho ukuthini ukuxhaphazwa. Ngenxa yalokho, abamekeli bavame ukuba izingane ezifuna ukwamukelwa yiqembu noma ziyingxenye yeqembu.
Ngakho esikhundleni sokumelana nesisulu, bahlukunyezwa nokucindezela kontanga futhi bayathula ngendaba.
Ukulwa nokungaqiniseki . Izikhathi eziningi, ababukeli bazobona isigameko sokuxhaphaza futhi bayazi ukuthi akulungile, kodwa abazi ukuthi kufanele benzeni. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali, abaqeqeshi, kanye nothisha ukuthatha izinyathelo zokunika amandla abagibeli ukuba bathathe isinyathelo .
Esikhathini esiningi, ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka phambi kwabanye abantu. Uma abalaleli beyala ukuthi yini okufanele bakwenze lapho befakaza ukuxhashazwa , bayobe bengase bangene futhi basize othile.
Ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ubizwa ngokuthi u-snitch . Uma kuziwa ngokuxhaphazwa esikoleni noma ukuxhashazwa ezemidlalo , ngokuvamile kuvame ukuba ngumthetho ongaqondile mayelana nokufihlwa, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwezingane ezineminyaka ephakathi kweminyaka engu-11 no-14. Akekho ofuna ukubizwa ngokuthi i-tattletale noma i-rat, ngakho-ke ajika izinhloko bese uzama ukukhohlwa ngakho. Ukubhekana nalesi simo sengqondo, othisha, abaqeqeshi nabazali kudingeka bafundise izingane umahluko phakathi kokubika okuthile nokuba umbala obala. Ukuma umuntu ohlukunyezwayo kufanele abe nesenzo esinesibindi.
Cabanga ukuthi abantu abadala ngeke benze noma yini . Ngeshwa, izingane eziningi ziye zabika ukuxhaphazwa kuphela ukuze zithole ukuthi omdala babika ukuthi bangayinaki noma bahluleka ukuthatha isinyathelo. Naphezu kwazo zonke izinqubekela phambili zokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa , kunabantu abaningi abadala abangeke banakekele isimo sokuxhashaza kunokuba babhekane nakho. Ukwengeza, kunezinye izikole ezikhuthaza izingane ukuba zizulazula lezi zimo zodwa. Lokhu kushiya izingane zizwe zingenandaba nokuhlukunyezwa. Basuke benesimo sengqondo "ngeke senze noma yini enhle." Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, izikole zidinga izinqubomgomo zokuvimbela ukuxhaphazwa okudinga othisha nabaqeqeshi ukuba benze.
Zizwa ukuthi akekho ibhizinisi labo . Izingane eziningi ziye zafundiswa ukuba ziphume ezimweni ezingabandakanyi kuzo. Nakuba lokhu kuyiseluleko esiqinile sokuxabana okuvamile , akusona iseluleko esihle sokuzihlukumeza. Lapho ukuhlukunyezwa kwenzeka, kukhona ukungalingani kwamandla futhi isisulu sidinga usizo nokusekelwa kwabanye. Abavele bangakwazi ukusingatha isimo sokuxhashazwa besodwa. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubalulekile ukuthi abazali, othisha, nabaqeqeshi bazise izingane ukuthi uma othile ehlukunyezwa, banesibopho sokubika kumuntu omdala.
Kholwa ukuthi isisulu sifanelekile . Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zizokwenza izahlulelo mayelana nezisulu lapho zifakaza ukuxhashazwa.
Ngokwesibonelo, bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi isisulu sakhuthaza ukuxhaphazwa ngokuthi "ukucasula" noma "ukuzidla." Kodwa izingane kudingeka zifunde ukuthi wonke umuntu ufanelwe ukuphathwa ngenhlonipho. Futhi akekho ofanelwe ukuhlukunyezwa. Kuze kube lokhu kuguquka kwengqondo, izingane zizoqhubeka zithule lapho abanye bexhaswa.