Uma usuzoba umama noma ungumama wengane entsha, kungenzeka ukuthi uzwe okuningi ngokuphathelene nemilingo, isibopho samanga samama namantana.
"Akukho lutho olufana nothando lomama nengane!" abantu bamemezela, amehlo abo ahamba yonke imimoya emcabangweni wesikhashana somlingo. Futhi ngenkathi uthando lomama luyinto enhle, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi akuwona wonke omama abawela othandweni olusheshayo nabantwana babo wesibili abazalwa-futhi lokho kuvamile.
UKatherine Stone, ogijimela inhlangano engeyona inzuzo i-postpartum Progress, ehlinzekwa ekuqapheliseni kokucindezeleka kokuthunyelwa komzimba, ichaze isipiliyoni sakhe ngokungahlali phansi kwezithende ngothando nomntanakhe. "Umcindezelo wokuthi 'umama ungishintshe mina' futhi uthando lwami ukuba 'lube lukhulu' lwalukhulu kakhulu," wabhala. "Kwakungeke kwenzeke ngobusuku bonke." Lokhu kunzima kakhulu kimi ukuthi ngivume, futhi nginezinyembezi ezihamba phansi ebusweni bami njengoba ngibhala lokhu. Akunjalo ngoba ngisenomuzwa ofanayo, kodwa ngoba akekho owangitshela ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka, ngakho ngacabanga ukuthi angivamile. Ngazishaya phezulu, futhi ngahlephula inhliziyo yami. Ngaqiniseka ukuthi angimthandi ngokwanele futhi kukhona okungahambi kahle nami. "
Wonke Amamama Ahlukile
Iqiniso liwukuthi, owesifazane ngamunye uhlangabezana nokukhulelwa kanye nomama omusha ngokuhlukile. Omunye wesifazane ngempela uthandana nezinsana zabo ekuboneni kuqala kanti abanye abakwenzi. Ayikho indlela engalungile noma engalungile yokuthandana nomntanakho futhi into yokugcina noma yimuphi umama omusha okudingeka abe nomuzwa wokuthi unecala ngokuthi ubopha kanjani nengane yakhe.
Futhi kungase kube khona ukuhlukahluka kwamakhemikhali ebuchosini besifazane ukuthi kubhekwe amazinga ahlukene okukhulisa umama nomntwana okuqhubekayo. Ucwaningo olusha luhlolisisa imiphumela ye- oxytocin , i-hormone "yothando" ebuye iqhaza ekusebenzeni, ekuletheleni nasekunceliseni, nokuthola ukuthi abesifazane abanenkinga yokucindezeleka noma ezinye izinselele zempilo yengqondo kungenzeka ukuthi behlise amazinga e-oxytocin angaphazamisa imizwa yokunamathela kwengane yabo.
Usengaba Umzali Omuhle
Iphuzu liwukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ulindele ukuthandana nomntanakho nje emva kokuzalwa kwakhe, noma ngemuva kokwamukela ikhaya lakho elincane ngokutholwa noma ezinye izimo zomndeni, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, lokho akukwenzeki nje. Kunezinselele eziningi ezinzima ohlangabezana nazo ekuletheleni ikhaya elisha ne-head-over-isithende "othandweni" kanye nomntanakho ngokushesha akuyona isidingo sokuba umzali omuhle. Usengathanda ingane yakho futhi unakekele omncane wakho, ngisho noma ungaboni ukuthi ngaphezu kwenyanga, ubuhlungu bomsindo.
Uma ungezwa ngempela uthando lwengane yakho esanda kuzalwa nje, noma ukhulelwe futhi uzibuza ukuthi ngabe leso sibopho somama sizokhahlela, ungesabi. Zinike isikhathi sokuthola umama ngokwemibandela yakho futhi ungazishayi phezulu uma udinga isikhathi esincane ukuze ulungiselele ukunakekela ingane yakho. Vula futhi uthembeke ngemizwa yakho bese ugxila ekuzinakekeleni, futhi. Kodwa-ke, uma unenkinga yokuzihlanganisa isikhathi eside nengane yakho noma uhlangabezana nezinye izimpawu ezifana nokufuna ukuzilimaza wena noma ingane yakho, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho mayelana nemizwa yakho, njengoba kungenzeka ukuthi umphumela wokucindezeleka okulandelayo, okuwukuthi ephathekayo.