Emashumini ambalwa ambalwa adlule alethe ukwanda okuphawulekayo kwenani lemindeni eliholwa omama abangabodwa. Ngokungafani nemifanekiso emidala yemifanekiso yabasha abahluphekile, abangafundile nabasishiywe abasebancane noma abesifazane ababhekene nobuzali bodwa, abaphumelele ngokwengeziwe nangaphezulu, abafundele kahle, abesifazane abangabodwa abangashadile bafika ngobunina ngokuzikhethela nangokwamukelwa.
Ukwamukelwa Kwasemhlabeni Wonke
Abagqugquzeli bayiqaphele ukuthi inani lazo zombili ezisekhaya nezamanye amazwe zanda kancane. Uma kuqhathaniswa nabalingani babo abashadile, abesifazane abangashadile bathi inqubo yokutholwa kwamazwe ngamazwe isincane kakhulu futhi amathuba okuthola ingane encane kakhulu kakhulu. Abesifazane abangashadile banamathuba amaningi okuphishekela ukutholwa kwamazwe ngamazwe ngokutholwa kwekhaya. Owesifazane obeletha banamathuba amaningi okukhetha imibhangqwana phezu kwezingane zokuzalwa ezinganeni zabo ezisekhaya, kanti iminyaka iyadingeka kakhulu kuma-ejenti amaningi.
Kudinga Ukuthuthukiswa
Abesifazane abangashadile bavame ukuphishekela umama ngezizathu ezifanayo abashadile abashadile abakwenzayo. Bakhuluma ngesidingo esifanayo kanye nesifiso sokuthanda nokukhulisa ingane eyedwa. Kodwa ngokungafani nabesifazane abashadile, owesifazane ongashadile ubhekene nenqubo eqinile kanye nezindleko zokwamukelwa yedwa kanye neqiniso lokuthi angaqeda ukukhulisa ingane yakhe yedwa ngaphandle kobaba noma umlingani.
Omama abaningi abangabodwa abamukelayo bazokwabelana ngokukhululekile ukuthi akuyona into eyodwa ngokukhetha. Bathemba ukuthi ekugcineni umzali wabo umzali nomlingani wakhe. Abanye abakhululekile nje ngokuba abangashadile kodwa bakhetha ukuhlala bengashadile njengoba bekhulisa izingane zibe ngabantu abadala. Ebhekene namawashi wezinto eziphilayo, abesifazane abaningi baye baphumelela ekuhambiseni i-intrauterine insemination nge-donor umsizi kanye / noma amaqanda abanikelayo ngaphambi kokuphishekela ukutholwa njengendlela eya kubazali.
Umphakathi
Abangane, umndeni kanye nomphakathi bangase badumise owesifazane oshadile okhulisa noma obeletha ingane, kodwa omama abangashadile abahlale behlonishwa kakhulu ngoba izinhlelo zabo ziphishekela ukubeletha. Abaqapheli nabagxeki bangamangalela omama abangabodwa bokuzikhukhumeza ngoba abanikeli ingane ngendoda nekhaya elihle. Abanye bazokhipha ngamaphutha izibalo ezihlobanisa umama ongashadile ezikhungweni ezihlukahlukene zezenhlalakahle ezinganeni zabo. Owesifazane ongashadile angase adingeke ahlakulele isibindi esisha sokunqoba amademoni akhe angaphakathi futhi anciphise imicabango yakhe nezinkolelo zakhe zangaphambili eziphathelene nokwamukelwa.
Ukuziphendulela
Ngemuva kokutshala izimali ngokwezimali nangokwelashwa komuntu siqu noma ukuhamba emhlabeni jikelele ukuphothula imithetho yomthetho wokutholwa komhlaba wonke, abazali ababili abashadile nabazali abangashadile bangase balwe nokulindela okuphezulu nokuguquka kokuhlanganyela impilo yabo nengane. Omama abangashadile bangazizwa benecala futhi babe namahloni lapho befuna isikhathi sokuhlala bodwa futhi ukuzimela kwabo.
Systems Support
Ngenhlanhla, i-intanethi, ithelevishini, kanye nabezindaba baye bakhulisa ukuqwashisa ngezimpikiswano abesifazane abangabodwa abangabhekana nenqubo yokwamukelwa, kanye nezinselele abangase baziphathe ngemuva kokubekwa.
Imvelo ye-24/7 ye-intanethi kanye nokutholakala kolwazi oluningi kakhulu kanye nezinsiza kwiwebhu kuye kwaholela ekubeni omama abathuthuka kakhulu futhi abalungiselelwe kahle abazongayo. Umama ongashadile oshadile uyaqaphela ukuthi akuyona into ebuthakathaka noma isibonakaliso sokuhluleka uma efuna usizo nokusekelwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenza kanjalo ngokusebenzisa iqembu lokusekela imindeni ethatha umndeni, umeluleki wakhe noma umhlaba we-cyber, usizo luyatholakala kalula kuye kanye nengane yakhe esanda kutholwa. Njengoba enza ushintsho engxenyeni yakhe entsha njengomama, isiqondiso kanye nolwazi oluqoqwe kwabanye abaye bahamba ngalolu mgwaqo wedwa bangasiza ekuqapheleni futhi baqale ukuqonda izimo nezinkinga eziyaziwayo.
Akunengqondo ukucabanga ukuthi yonke imibhangqwana eshadile izohlala ishadile, futhi akufanele kucatshangwe ukuthi bonke abesifazane abangashadile bayohlala bangashadile. Esikhundleni salokho, ukugqugquzela ukwamukelwa ngabesifazane abangashadile bakholelwa ukuthi uhlamvu lomuntu, amandla akhe, namandla akhe okubeletha angabhekwa kangcono ekuhlinzekeni ingane enekhaya lokumamukela.
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