Nakuba umhlinzeki wokunakekelwa kwezingane wesilisa akuwona umqondo omusha, ukuthola abantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho njengabaqeqeshi bokunakekelwa kwengane yesikhathi esigcwele kusekude futhi bambalwa phakathi. Kodwa-ke, asikho isizathu sokuba owesilisa angeke abe nomsebenzi ophumelelayo njengomhlinzeki womnakekeli womntanakho noma ngisho nendoda .
Njengoba indima yendabuko kanye nemisebenzi eqhubekayo ishintsha, umphakathi uvuma ngokwengeziwe amadoda njengabahlengikazi, othisha, izikhonzi zokuhamba, kanye neminye imisebenzi eyayiqhutshwa abesifazane.
Kunjalo nakumhlinzeki wesondlo wesilisa. Ngenkathi kungase kungabambeli abanye abazali, imindeni esebenzisa amadoda njengabanikeli bokunakekelwa kwengane ngokuvamile ivame ukwaneliseka ngokwedlulele ngokunakekelwa kwezingane zabo.
Njenganoma yikuphi umsebenzi, ukusebenza kanye nendawo yonke yokududuza umhlinzeki wokunakekelwa okukhathalelwe ukunakekela izingane kusekelwe ezifundeni, isipiliyoni, indlela umuntu asebenzisana ngayo futhi aphendule ngayo izingane, izinsizakalo zokunakekelwa ezibalulekile, kanye nokukwazi ukugcina izingane ziphephile, zijabule futhi zinempilo . Ubulili akufanele kube ukucatshangelwa; Izitifiketi jikelele ziyimigomo eyinhloko okufanele iqondwe lapho ikhetha abahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwezingane noma unina.
Noma kunjalo, ukunqoba noma yikuphi ukungabaza kwabazali, abahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwezingane abesilisa bangakhetha ukuhleleka futhi okuningiliziwe ukuze banikeze izinga eliphakeme lokuthembela nabazali. Imindeni ekhona ingayazi izinhlelo zokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke; ukuthi umnakekeli uzosabela kanjani ezimweni ezithile; ukuthi izikhathi zokudla, izikhathi zokudlala, kanye nezikhathi zokunakekelwa komzimba zihlanganiswa; izindlela zokuqondiswa kwezigwegwe; nokuthi ngabe umhlinzeki unamandla okwenza izimo ezihlukahlukene zokunakekelwa kwezingane ngesikhathi esisodwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda angase afune ukuqala izingxoxo mayelana nabasunguli bezocansi futhi avumelane nesheke sangemuva ukuze alungise noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka okungenzeka umzali angabi nakho mayelana nobulili nokufaneleka kokuxhumana. Abazali bangase bazizwe bengacabangi ngendoda eguqule umdwebo womntwana wesifazane, isibonelo, ukuthi banganqikazi ekukhuliseni.
(Abazali kufanele bahlale bekhumbula ukuthi abantu abahlukumeza ngokocansi bangabesifazane kanye namadoda.) Njengoba amadoda namuhla ejwayele ukubhekwa ngemithwalo yemfanelo efanayo yokubeletha njengabesifazane, noma yikuphi ukukhathazeka kungadluliselwa ngokukhulumisana okuqotho, okuphambili.
Abahlinzeki bokunakekelwa kwengane kufanele bathathe uqeqesho olufanele lokunakekela izingane, futhi balungele ukuxoxa ngeziqu zabo zokusiza kanye noCPR phakathi kwanoma yikuphi ukuqeqeshwa kwasebuntwaneni noma iziqu ezikhethekile abangaba nazo.
Abazali basebenzisa abanikazi bokunakekelwa besilisa bavame ukukhuluma ngokuthi ubukhona besilisa bunamandla kangakanani kumntwana wabo. Njenganoma yimuphi umhlinzeki wokunakekelwa kwengane, isinqumo sokugcina siwukuthi abazali nabazali bajabule yini futhi bajabule mayelana nelungiselelo elithile kanye nesimiso futhi bazizwa behlobana nomhlinzeki (wesilisa noma wesifazane) abakhethayo.
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