Izingane ezinesifiso esinamandla zingaphezu kwenkani nje.
Nakuba zonke izingane zingahle zifuneke ngezinye izikhathi, ingane ephikisiwe kakhulu iveza izici ezithile ngokuqhubekayo. Ebizwa nangokuthi "izingane ezinomoya ovuthiwe," izinhliziyo zezingane ezinamandla zivame ukubonakala kusukela ngomzuzu abazalwa ngawo.
Ukuba nesifiso esinamandla akufani nokufana "nezingane ezimbi." Izingane ezinamandla kakhulu zizimisele ukwenza izinto ngokwemigomo yazo.
Futhi kaningi, lokho kubangela izinkinga kubantu abadala abakuzungezile.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale ucabange ukuthi ukungamhloniphi kwengane yakho kuyomenza kube yingozi emphakathini, khumbula ukuthi isimo sakhe sengqondo singase sibe yimpahla kwamanye amaphuzu empilweni yakhe. Eqinisweni, isifundo seminyaka engama-40 eshicilelwe ku- Developmental Psychology sathola ukuthi izingane eziphula imithetho ziba ngabaningi abahola imali kakhulu njengoba abadala.
Nazi izici eziyishumi ezivame kakhulu neziphathamandla zezingane eziqinile:
1. Bakhombisa Ukuqhuma Okumangalisayo Okuthukuthele
Ngenkathi zonke izingane zithukuthela , izingane ezinamandla zibonisa ukuthukuthela okukhulu okungapheli isikhathi eside. Banokubekezelelana okuphansi kokucindezeleka futhi balwela ukuveza intukuthelo yabo ngendlela efanele emphakathini. Ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi uthola ingane enamandla enezinwele eziphoqa izinyawo zayo, ijikijele phansi, noma ikubonise ukuthi ingamemeza kangakanani.
2. Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi kungani
Enye yezinto ezimbi kunazo zonke ingane enamandla enamandla ezwayo, "Ngoba ngishilo." Bafuna ukwazi ukuthi kungani bengenakukwenza okuthile noma ukuthi kungani ubeke imingcele ethile.
Bazobuza imibuzo futhi baqiniseke ukuthi imithetho yakho ayilungile.
3. Bangakwazi Ukuphikisana Phakade
Izingane ezinamandla ezinamandla azilahli amandla uma zingavumelani. Bathanda ukuhlanganyela emibutshweni yamandla nokuphikelela kwabo okunenkani kuyabasebenza kubo njengoba bekhathele abanye abantu ngaphandle. Bangabantu abahlukumezayo abahle ekutholeni izintambo kanye nokunye okuhlukile.
4. Bayaboshwa
Izingane ezinesifiso esinamandla zinombono engqondweni yabo mayelana nendlela izinto okufanele zibe ngayo futhi ngokuvamile zizokwenza izindlela zokuguqula lo mbono zibe yiqiniso. Abanenkinga yokutshela ontanga ukuthi bangabe bemi noma kanjani ukuziphatha futhi abanamahloni ngokutshela abantu abadala ukuthi benzeni.
5. Abafuni ukwenza izinto abafuni ukuzenza
Musa ukuchitha amandla akho ezama ukuqinisa ingane enamandla ukuyenza into ayifuni ukuyenza. Ukungena, ukucela, nokulinganisa akunakwenzeka ukukuthola noma ikuphi. Izingane ezinamandla ezinamandla zizobamba izithende zazo futhi zenqabe.
6. Abangapheli
Izingane ezinamandla zifuna ukwenza konke ngokuvumelana nezinhlelo zabo. Bazonda ukulinda emgqeni esitolo, abathandi ukulinda isikhathi lapho bedlala umdlalo, futhi abanandaba nokuhlala egumbini lokulinda ehhovisi likadokotela. Abafuni ukuchitha ukulinda kwesibili komunye umuntu.
7. Benza Imithetho Yabo
Izingane ezinamandla kakhulu azifuni ukuzwa umbono wakho mayelana nesikhathi sokulala. Esikhundleni salokho, kungenzeka ukuthi bafuna ukuthi bazolala lapho bekhathele. Bakhetha ukwenza izinqubomgomo zabo futhi bahlele iziqondiso zabo kunokuba balandele imithetho yegunya lomuntu.
8. Bakhuthaza ekutholeni lokho abacabanga ukuthi bafanelwe
I-Strong-willed kids impi ukuqonda umehluko phakathi 'isidingo' kanye 'nokufuna.' Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bafuna ukudlala ngaphandle kwemvula noma badle inja eshisayo yokudla kwasekuseni, bayothi bayadingeka ukuthi bayenze. Futhi ngisho nalapho bezuza kakhulu, bayobambelela ukuthi abatholi ingxenye yabo enhle.
9. Bayishaya indiva izixwayiso abafuni ukuzwa
Tshela ingane enamandla kakhulu ukuba 'uqaphele,' noma 'sebenzisa izinyawo zokuhamba,' futhi uma engenasithakazelo, uzokungakunaki. Izingane ezinesifiso esihle zikwazi ukusebenzisa ukuzwa okukhethayo futhi zilulaza kalula noma yini engahambisani nezidingo zabo.
10. Bahamba Ngezinyathelo Zabo
Tshela ingane enamandla kakhulu ukuthi angaya epaki futhi kungenzeka ukuthi uhambe njengenkunzi esitolo se-china ngomzamo wokuphuma emnyango. Mtshele ukuthi alungele ukuya esitolo futhi angase ahlasele isikhathi . Izingane ezinamandla kakhulu zidla ngokusheshisa futhi zikhuluma ngokushesha kodwa zihamba ngezinyathelo zomnenja lapho zenza okuthile abangenaso isithakazelo ekwenzeni.
> Imithombo
> I-American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Isiyalo.
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