Kusukela ngesikhathi ingane yakho isayina isivumelwano sabo sokubhalisa futhi isifungo, usuwazi usuku lokuhamba luzofika. Njengoba lusondela, izinkumbulo zamadolo abukisiwe nobisi amadevu adlala emoyeni wakho, okwenza uzibuze ukuthi kuphele iminyaka. Njengoba ukukhathazeka kwakho kwanda, kanjalo uhlu lwakho lwemibuzo. Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi ngezimpendulo, uvula ukuhamba komntanakho osondelayo ube yi-quest yokuxazulula izinkinga.
Qaphela, awodwa. Ukuzwa imizwelo eminingi ngalesi sikhathi kuvamile. Ukuziqhenya okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, nokwesaba okungaziwa yizizwa zomhlaba jikelele zabazali bezidingo zabasebenzi. Ukuqonda ukuthi yini ongayilindela lapho ingane yakho ishiya ekamelweni le-boot, ngethemba lokuthi, kuzokwehlisa ukwesaba kwakho futhi kunciphisa ukukhathazeka kwakho.
Ukuxhumana okulinganiselwe
Enye yemibuzo yokuqala yokudlulisela ingqondo yomzali ithi, "Ngizokwazi yini ukukhuluma nengane yami ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo?" Isinqumo esiphathelene nokukhulumisana ncamashi kubalimi abaqeqeshwayo noma abaqeqeshi bokuqeqesha. Ezimweni eziningi, ukuzwa okuvela kumntanakho okungenani kanye kuyisilinganiso esifanele. Ukuze uthole ukuthula kwengqondo okungeziwe, faka ingane yakho ilayishe ikhadi lefoni.
Izinguquko zemizwelo
Ungamangali uma ubona ukushintsha kwemizwelo yengane yakho lapho bhala noma bebiza. Isibonelo, ingane yakho ekhuphuka, ingane ejabula-go-lucky ingase izwakale ibuhlungu, igxilile, noma ihlukunyezwe kunokujwayelekile.
Ama-bouts of homesickness avamile phakathi kwamalungu enkonzo ahamba ngokuqeqesha okuyisisekelo, ikakhulu uma ngabe okokuqala ngqa beye ekhaya.
Ukusabela kwengokwemvelo komzali kumntwana ocindezelekile kungukungena bese ulondoloza usuku. Phela, lokhu bekuyi-modus operandi yakho kusukela umzuzwana wokuqala umbeka ezandleni zakho.
Ngeshwa, lokhu akuyona inketho-okungenani hhayi ngokomqondo.
Ongakwenza unganikeza indlebe ezwelayo; bonisa ukusekela kwakho nokuziqhenya; futhi uqinisekise ingane yakho ukuthi ukuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo ngeke kuhlale kuze kube phakade. Ngokushesha, ingane yakho izothola iziqu futhi iqale ukuqeqesha okuzimele okuyiyona isigaba sokugcina sokuqeqesha nalapho iqinisekiswa khona kuMOS yabo (isipesheli somsebenzi wezempi - umsebenzi abazokwenza). Ngokuvamile, ukumane ukhombise ukukholelwa kumntanakho, kuhlangene nezikhumbuzo ezinomusa zesikhathi esizayo, kuzophinde kuhlolisise lapho uya khona esikhundleni sokuhamba kanzima.
Ukuthumela Izincwadi
Khumbula ukujabula okuthola lapho umuntu ethatha isikhathi sokukuloba futhi akuthumele incwadi esikhundleni sokudubula i-e-mail esheshayo? Ama-servicemembers ekuqeqesheni okuyisisekelo awafani. Izincwadi ezivela ekhaya zamukelwa futhi zithandwa. Ngokwezifiso ezihlukahlukene, abazali abaningi bafaka izinto ezihambisanayo. Izinketho ezijwayelekile ziyizitembu, ukheshi, amakhadi efoni, ukuchofoza iphephandaba nezithombe.
Ngesinye isikhathi, abazali bathola umqeqeshi wokuqeqesha noma umqeqeshi wokuqeqesha eyala ingane yakhe ukuba yenze amanye ama-push-up noma imisebenzi yasekhaya ukuze bathole i-imeyili yabo. Uma bebona isenzo njengesijeziso, abazali bayabuza ukuthi kufanele bayeke ukuthumela izincwadi.
Lapho ebuzwa, iningi labaqeqeshi abayisisekelo bavumelana nezinhlamvu ezifanele ukusebenza komzimba owengeziwe. Ngaphandle kokuba ingane yakho ikhulume ngenye indlela, gcina lezo zincwadi ziyeza.
Ithumela amaPhakheji Okunakekela
Imithetho nemithethonqubo mayelana nokuthola amaphakheji wokunakekelwa ngesikhathi sekampu ye-boot zihlukile kunokwamukela iposi leposi. Isici sokuqhathanisa sincike egatsheni lenkonzo nokufakwa. I-Army, isibonelo, ineziqondiso eziqinile ezilawula okuqukethwe kwephakheji.
Abasebenzi bakhona bayazi ukuthi bangakwazi yini futhi abakwazi ukuthola. Uma ingane yakho icela into ethize, qhubeka futhi uyithumele.
Ukuvakashelwa
Abazali abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi bayothola yini ithuba lokubona ingane yabo ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo.
Okunye futhi, impendulo ixhomeke kakhulu egatsheni lenkonzo nokufakwa. Kodwa-ke, uma ukuqeqeshwa okuyisisekelo kwengane yakho kwehla ngesikhathi seholide enkulu, njengoKhisimusi, bangathola iphasili lokuvakashelwa ekhaya elifushane.
Iziqalo ezintsha
Ingane yakho yenza ukukhetha ukujoyina amasosha nokukhonza izwe labo. Yebo, lokhu kungase kube ukuphela kwesikhashana izinkulumo zakho zansuku zonke noma ukuzwa bekhala ebusuku, "Hayi, yini okudliwayo?"
Njengomntwana wakho, uzobhekana nezinkinga futhi unqobe izinselelo. Thatha induduzo ukwazi konke ukuphela okuholela ekuqalisweni okusha. Njengoba indodana yakho noma indodakazi yakho iqala ukuguqula impilo enkulu, indima yakho ishintshile futhi yanda. Manje usumzali we-US servicemember.
Kubuyekezwe ngu- Armin Brott