Wonke umzali wenza amaphutha. Bathi into engalungile, benza ukukhetha okungalungile, babonisa ngesikhathi esingalungile. Ingane yakho izokukhamuluka, izokuhleka, izokukhathazeka nawe. Kungenxa yenkambo uma kuziwa ekuzalaneni.
Kodwa umgomo wakho akufanele ube ukuzama ukuba umzali ophelele-akulula ukufinyeleleka. Uma uzinika imvume yokuba 'kahle ngokwanele,' uzoba umzali ophumelelayo kakhulu.
Umgomo wakho ukukhulisa ingane enamandla engqondweni, ephethe kahle ezokwazi ukuhlomele izinto zangempela zokuphila kwabantu abadala. Uneminyaka engu-18 kuphela ukulungisa ingane yakho ezweni langempela, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukusebenzisa isikhathi sakho ngokuhlakanipha.
Nazi imikhuba eyisishiyagalolunye abazali abaphumelela kakhulu basebenzise ukwenza leyo njongo ibe yiqiniso.
Basebenzisa Imithetho
Imithetho yezindlu kanye nemingcele yenza okungaphezu kokukugcina ukhululekile; futhi basiza ingane ekhulayo ukuthi ihlale izinzile futhi ivikelekile. Umzali ophumelelayo uyacaca ukuthi ingane ingubani futhi akavunyelwe ukuyenza, imisebenzi ekulindeleke ukuba iqedele nokuthi kufanele iphathe kanjani abanye abantu ( nezilwane ) ekhaya.
Yiqiniso, zonke izingane ziyaphambuka lapha nalaphaya. Ngemuva kokuthi unikeze imiyalelo yengane yakho, sebenzisa i-if ... bese isixwayiso . Yithi, "Uma ungafaki amathoyizi akho manje, ngeke uvunyelwe ukuya epaki." Lokhu kubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi ngenkathi evunyelwe ukwenza iphutha, unesibopho sezenzo zabo eziqhubekayo.
Uma ephula umthetho omkhulu-njengokushaya wena- landela ngokulandela ngokushesha . Mbonise ukuthi umsebenzi wakho ukumsiza ukuba afunde ukulandela imithetho, futhi imiphumela yenzelwe ukumsiza ukuba afunde emaphutheni akhe.
Kodwa Futhi Ahlala Ahlala Flexible
Kukhona ukuphoqelela imithetho, bese kuba khona ngokweqile .
Udinga ukugcina ukuguquguquka okuncane okwenziwe ngezimo ezithile. Ucwaningo olwenziwe yiNyuvesi yaseNew Hampshire luphetha ngokuthi abazali abaqine ngokweqile ngempela bakhulisa izingane okungenzeka ukuthi ziphule imithetho.
Ukwengeza, ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi izingane ezinezingane eziqinile kakhulu zivame ukuzethemba ngokweqile futhi zinciphise ukuzibheka kunabantwana abanomzali abazulazula njalo ngesinye isikhathi.
Ingane yakho kufanele ikwazi ngokujwayelekile imiphumela yokuphula imithetho ethile, kodwa isiyalo esiphumelelayo akuyona into emnyama neyomhlophe. Lungisa imithetho kanye nomphumela njengoba umndeni wakho ukhula, ubudala bezingane kanye nezimo zishintsha.
Bakhuluma Nezingane Zabo
Ukubeletha okuphumelelayo kuqala ngokukhulumisana okuphumelelayo. Ngisho nalapho izingane zifunda nje ukukhuluma, ziyazuza ekukhulumisaneni nabazali bazo.
I-Chit-Xoxa ngakho konke, kusukela ngosuku lwakhe olusesikoleni ukuthi uzizwa kanjani nge-season ezayo ye-baseball kulokho akufunayo ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa kulo nyaka. Asikho isihloko okufanele sibe yimikhawulo.
Uma isikhathi eside sixoxa, izinzuzo ezinikeza izingane zakho. Ubafundisa ngolimi, amakhono omphakathi kanye nokucabanga okucabangayo.
Izingxoxo njalo zisiza ukwenza ingane yakho izwe iphephile futhi ihlonishwe ngoba ibonisa ukuthi uyakhathalela lokho abakucabangayo.
Ngakho khuluma nengane yakho kakhulu lapho esemncane futhi cishe uzokhuluma nawe lapho esemusha.
Bafunda Izingane Zabo
Lokhu kuyahambisana nokukhuluma nengane yakho kaningi. Ukufunda ngokuzwakalayo kuveza ingane yakho ngesilulumagama esisha, kufundisa imiqondo emisha futhi kumvumela ukuthi azicwilise emasimini amasha.
Ingane efundelwa njalo izoba nokuqonda okukhulu kwezakhiwo zohlelo lolimi kanye nomcabango onamandla-ukungasho lutho lwezimangalo ezingasetshenziswa uma bekhetha izincwadi ezingenabuqili!
Hlela ukufunda ingane yakho ngabanye okungenani imizuzu engu-20 ngosuku; isifundo esenziwe yi-Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and Development sathola ukuthi abazali abafundela ngokuzwakalayo nezingane zabo besencane bonyaka bangaphezu konyaka ngaphambi koontanga babo bezemfundo abaneminyaka eyi-15.
Bachitha isikhathi ndawonye
Kuyo yonke impilo yakho yansuku zonke, uchitha isikhathi esiningi nengane yakho, akunjalo? Emva kwakho konke, uhamba ngesimiso sasekuseni, uhamba uye esikoleni bese usebenza ndawonye, udla isidlo sakusihlwa kulolu suku, uhamba nabo ebusuku.
Kodwa-ke, akukho nalokhu isikhathi sekhwalithi yangempela, okudingeka ingane idinge nomzali ukuze ikhule. Hlela ukubeka eceleni imizuzu engu-10 kuya kwengu-15 ngosuku ukuze unike ingane yakho ukunakekelwa okungafani ukwenza umsebenzi owukhethile.
Dlala umdlalo, ukudlala ugqoke up, noma ugijime ngaphandle. Ukunika ingane yakho isikhathi esiningi-kungase kuncishiswe isikhathi esizoyichitha ngesikhathi sokuphuma .
Bavumela izingane ukuba zibhekane nezinselele
Izinkinga zakha umlingiswa, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kulula ukubuka umzabalazo wengane yakho. Kuzohlale kukhona izimo lapho ingane yakho idinga khona usizo lwakho-noma ngisho nokwehliswa kwemali ethile-kodwa njengoba ikhula, thatha isinyathelo emuva ukuze ubone ukuthi unqoba kanjani izinselele ebhekana nazo.
Uma, isibonelo, ingane yakho isebenze kanzima ukubizwa ngokuthi i-pitcher eqenjini le-Little League futhi umqeqeshi ukhetha omunye umuntu ukuba abe umgeli wokuqala, ungangeneli ngezikhalazo kanye nezicelo zokuhola kweqembu ukulungisa isimo .
Chaza ingane yakho ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi, naphezu kokusebenza kanzima, izinto azihambi ngendlela ohlele ngayo. Mkhuthaze ukuba aqhubeke nokwenza amakhono akhe futhi azame futhi ngonyaka ozayo.
Leli qhinga alisifundisi izingane kuphela ukuthi abazali bazo ngeke baxazulule njalo izinkinga zabo, kodwa nokuthi ngezinye izikhathi izinto ngeke zihambe-futhi akusona isizathu sokuyeka. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingakwazi ukubhekana nemizwa engakhululekile , njengokuhluleka nokwenqatshwa, ngendlela enempilo.
Bahlonipha Isidingo Sengane Yabo Yokuzimela
Uma uneminyaka engu-2 ubudala, ingane ifunda ukuzikhethela (futhi uzovame ukukhuluma kakhulu ngabo!) Njengoba ekhula, lezo zikhetho ziyoba nomthelela omkhulu.
Nakuba kungadingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi uvumelane nalabo abakhethayo, kufanele ubahloniphe (uma nje kungaphazamisi ingane yakho noma omunye umuntu ngendlela ephawulekayo, ngokwemvelo-sebenzisa isahlulelo sakho kulokho). Qaphela ukuthi ngenxa nje yokuthi akenzi izinto ngendlela ongayenza ngayo, akusho ukuthi umqondo omubi.
Uma lokho kukhetha kungasebenzi, ingane yakho ifunda ukuthi izinqumo azenza zingabuya nemiphumela. Uma kuhamba naye, uzofunda umthelela omuhle okwenza izinqumo ezihlakaniphile zingaba nokuphila kwakhe.
Ngakho, ake ingane yakho ibhekane nemiphumela yemvelo kanyekanye. Uma ephikelela ekuphumeni ngaphandle ngengubo, futhi engekho engozini yokuqhwaza, akeke akwenze. Uma ebanda, cishe uzogqoka ijaji lakhe esikhathini esizayo.
Bachitha Isikhathi Abantwana Babo
Ungase uzizwe sengathi izingane zakho zingukuphila kwakho konke nezwe lonke-kungokwemvelo. Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ube nawo amahora angu-24 ngosuku, izinsuku ezingu-365 ngonyaka.
Abazali badinga ikhefu ngezinye izikhathi. Hlela isikhathi esithile kude nezingane zakho ukuze uzinakekele noma uvuselele ubuhlobo bakho.
Wena (kanye nomlingani wakho) uthola isinqumo mayelana nokuthi udinge isikhathi esingakanani nokuthi uzodinga nini; ungavumeli abanye bakutshele ukuthi yini efanele nokuthi yini engamukeleki. Kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho uthatha izingane ngaphandle kwezindlu ngeSonto ekuseni ukuze ulale, uphuze ikhofi yakho ngokuthula uphinde upheqa i-intanethi ngokuzilibazisa kwakho.
Noma mhlawumbe uhlela ubusuku obusuku nosuku ngokubeletha kanye ngenyanga, ngakho nobabili ningakwazi ukuxhuma kabusha ngokudla komuntu omdala. Ungakhohlwa ukuba nobusuku njalo njalo ngesikhathi esisodwa, futhi, ngokubuza ugogo nomkhulu, umfowenu noma umngane wakho omethembayo ukuthatha abancane bakho ubusuku bonke.
Kunempilo ukukhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi unentshisekelo, izinto zokuzilibazisa, kanye nemisebenzi ngaphandle kwendlu. Futhi ukuhamba kanyekanye ngesikhathi esisodwa kuzomfundisa ukuthi angaba ngcono ngaphandle kwakho.
Bathanda Izingane Zabo Ngokungaqondile
Uthando lwakho ngomntanakho akufanele lube nemingcele noma imingcele, futhi ingane yakho kufanele ingabe izwa sengathi ifuna ukusebenzela uthando lwakho. Abazali abaphumelelayo bakwenza kucacile ukuthi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi amaphutha amantombazane akwenzayo, azohlale ekhona.
Banikeza ukusekela, ukuqondiswa nothando njengoba ingane yabo ikhula. Futhi baqaphele ukuthi ingane iba umuntu omdala ojabulayo, onomthwalo wemfanelo-futhi leyo njongo jikelele yokukhulisa izingane.
Ungalondolozi udumo ngezikhathi ingane yakho iphelele. Kunalokho, dumisani ukuzimisela kwakhe ukuzama kanzima noma isifiso sakhe sokuzama futhi ngemuva kokuhluleka. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho iyazi ukuthi uthando lwakho ngaye aluxhomekile empumelelweni yakhe noma empumelelweni yakhe. Kunalokho, mbonise ukuthi uyamthanda kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yini.
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