Izingane ezinamandla ezinamandla zilungele izinselelo zezwe. Bakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga, bahlehlise ekuhlulekeni, futhi babhekane nobunzima.
Ukuze kucace, amandla engqondo awakhiwo ngokusebenza okunzima noma ukucindezela imizwelo. Akukona futhi ngokungabi nomusa noma ukwenza izinto ezingcolile.
Esikhundleni salokho, izingane ezinamandla ngokwengqondo ziyaqina futhi zinesibindi nokuqiniseka ukuthi zikwazi ukufinyelela okugcwele.
Ukusiza izingane ukuba zithuthukise amandla engqondo zidinga izindlela ezintathu ezithandwayo: zibafundise ukufaka imicabango engafanele ngemicabango eminingi engokoqobo, ibasize bafunde ukulawula imizwelo yabo ukuze imizwelo yabo ingabizi, futhi ibonise indlela yokuthatha isinyathelo esihle.
Kukhona amasu amaningi wokubeletha, amasu okuziphatha, kanye namathuluzi okufundisa azisiza izingane ukuba zenze imisipha yengqondo. Nazi izindlela eziyishumi ezizosiza ingane yakho ukuba ithuthukise amandla adingekayo ukuba abe ngumuntu omdala onamandla:
1. Fundisa Amakhono Okucacile
Isiyalo kufanele sibe mayelana nokufundisa izingane zakho ukuba zenze kangcono isikhathi esilandelayo, hhayi ukuba zihlupheke ngenxa yamaphutha abo. Sebenzisa imiphumela efundisa amakhono athile, njengamakhono okuxazulula izinkinga , ukulawula ukucindezela , nokuzithiba . Lawa makghono azokusiza ingane yakho ifunde ukuziphatha ngendlela enenzuzo, ngisho nalapho ibhekene nesilingo, izimo ezinzima, kanye nezinselelo ezinzima.
2. Vumela Ingane Yakho Yenze Amaphutha
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi amaphutha ayengxenye yenqubo yokufunda ukuze angabi namahloni noma abe namahloni ngokuthola into engalungile.
Vumela imiphumela yemvelo uma iphephile ukwenza kanjalo futhi ukhulume ngokuthi ungagwema kanjani ukuphindaphinda iphutha elifanayo ngesikhathi esizayo.
3. Fundisa Ingane Yakho Indlela Yokuthuthukisa Ukuzikhulumela Okunempilo
Kunzima ukuthi izingane zizwe ziqinile ngokwengqondo uma zizihlahlela ngokubeka phansi noma uma zibikezela imiphumela embi.
Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ivuselele imicabango engalungile ukuze ikwazi ukucabanga ngokucophelela. Ukuhlakulela umbono onengqondo futhi othembekile kungasiza izingane zifinyelele izikhathi futhi zifeze phezulu.
4. Khuthaza Ingane Yakho Ukubhekana Nokwesaba I-Head-On
Uma ingane yakho igwema noma yini eyesabekayo, ngeke izuze ukuzethemba okudingeka akusingathe ukuzwa engakhululekile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho iyesaba ubumnyama, noma isaba kakhulu ukuhlangana nabantu abasha, sisiza ingane yakho ukuthi ibhekane nesaba sayo isinyathelo esincane ngesinye isikhathi. Hamba naye, udumise imizamo yakhe, umnike umvuzo ngoba unesibindi futhi uzofunda ukuthi uyinkinga ekwazi ukubhekana nokuhamba ngaphandle kwendawo yakhe yokududuza.
5. Vumela Ingane Yakho Ukuba Izwe Ingakhululekile
Nakuba kungase kube ukulingana ukusiza ingane noma kunini lapho ehluleka, ukumkhulula ekucindezelekeni kuyomqinisa ukuba angenasici. Vumela ingane yakho ilahlekelwe, imvumele ukuba azizwe enesithukuthezi, futhi imele abe nomthwalo wemfanelo ngisho nalapho engafuni. Ngokusekela nokuqondiswa, izingxabano zingasiza ingane yakho ukuba ikhulise amandla.
6. Yakha isici
Izingane zidinga ikhampasi yokuziphatha eqinile ukuze ibasize benze izinqumo eziphilile. Sebenza kanzima ukufaka amanani akho kumntanakho. Dala amathuba okufunda okuphila okuqinisa amanani akho njalo.
Isibonelo, gcizelela ukubaluleka kokuthembeka nokuzwelana, kunokunqoba zonke izindleko. Izingane eziqonda amanani azo zenzele ukhetho oluhle-ngisho nalapho abanye bengavumelani nezenzo zabo.
7. Yenza ukubonga kuqala
Ukubonga kuyisisombululo esihle sokuzihawukela kanye neminye imikhuba emibi engavimbela ingane yakho ukuba ingabi ngokwengqondo. Siza ingane yakho ukuthi iqinisekise konke okuhle emhlabeni, ngakho-ke ngisho nasezinsukwini zakhe ezimbi kakhulu, uzobona ukuthi unomuzwa wokubonga kakhulu. Ukubonga kungakhuphula imizwa yengane yakho futhi kukhuthaze ukuxazululwa kwezinkinga.
8. Qinisekisa umthwalo wemfanelo yomuntu
Ukwakha amandla engqondo kuhilela ukwamukela umthwalo wemfanelo yomuntu siqu.
Vumela izincazelo-kodwa hhayi izizathu lapho ingane yakho yenza iphutha noma i-misbehaves. Lungisa ingane yakho uma ezama ukusola abanye ukuthi ucabanga kanjani, uzizwa kanjani noma uziphathe kanjani.
9. Fundisa Amakhono Okulawula Umzwelo
Ungathuli ingane yakho phansi lapho ethukuthele noma ejabule njalo lapho edabukile. Kunalokho, mfundise ukuthi angabhekana kanjani nemizwelo engakhululekile , ngakho-ke akayikukhula ukuba ancike kuwe ukulawula isimo sakhe sengqondo. Izingane eziqonda imizwa yazo futhi zikwazi ukubhekana nazo, zilungele kangcono ukubhekana nezinselele.
10. Isibonelo Sokuqinisa Amandla Amandla
Ukubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi ingabe ingabe isengamandla engqondweni kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokumkhuthaza ukuba akhe amandla engqondo. Khuluma ngemigomo yakho bese ubonisa ingane yakho ukuthi uthatha izinyathelo zokukhula. Yenza amandla okuzicabangela nokwengqondo ibe yinto ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho futhi ugweme izinto abazali abaqine ngokwengqondo abangenzi .
> Imithombo
> Morin A. Izinto 13 Abazali Abanamandla Abazenzisi: Ukukhulisa Izingane Ezizimeleyo Nokuqeqesha Ubunjiniyela Babo Ukuze Baphile Injabulo, Injongo, Nokuphumelela . New York, NY: UWilliam Morrow, umshicileli weHarperCollins Publishers; 2017.