Ukunquma ukuthi kulungile yini ukushiya ikhaya lakho elisencane ubusuku kuphela akusona isinqumo okufanele uthathe kalula. Ukushiya ingane yakho kungakapheli amahora angu-24 noma ngaphezulu kuyinto enkulu. Izinto zingahle zihambe kahle.
Naphezu kwezingozi ezingase zibe khona, ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuba ihlale ekhaya yodwa ingaba nenempilo. Phela, intombazane engakaze ibe ngaphandle kokuqondisa omdala ingase ihlukane nenkululeko yakhe entsha etholakala okokuqala okokuqala lapho eya ekolishi.
Njengoba intsha ikhulile, cishe ayifuni ukuhamba nawe kuzo zonke izinyawo noma eholidini oqhubekayo. Ukuthola "umntanami" womntwana oneminyaka engu-16 akulula kakhulu, noma kunjalo.
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isinqumo sokuthi ucindezele ingane yakho ukuba iya endlini kaGogo noma ivumele ukuba ahlale ekhaya yodwa, cabanga ngalezi zinto.
Ubani Ubudala obufanele Ukushiya Ingane Yakho?
Amazwe ambalwa athi amazwe anemithetho echaza ngokucacile ubudala obuncane lapho ungashiya khona ingane yakho eyedwa yedwa ebusuku. Kodwa izindawo eziningi zishiya isinqumo kubazali ukuba banqume.
Ungabeki isinqumo sakho kuminyaka yakho yengane yodwa. Ngesikhathi abanye abaneminyaka engu-17 sebekhulile ngokwanele ukuba babe yedwa yedwa iminyaka embalwa, abanye bengakalungeli umthwalo wemfanelo.
Ngokuvamile, intsha encane engaphansi kuka-16 ayifuthi ngokwanele ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa ebusuku. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukusekela isinqumo sakho ezingeni lakho lokuvuthwa kwentsha .
Uma ucabanga ngekhono lengane yakho ukuhlala ngokuphepha ekhaya uqobo, zibuze le mibuzo:
- Ingabe ingane yakho ingamelana nokucindezela kontanga? Akuyona nje ingane yakho okufanele uyikhathaze ngayo. Ngezinye izikhathi kungenye enye intsha engabangela izinkinga. Ingabe ingane yakho ingasho ukuthi cha uma umngane ephikelela ukuthi baphonsa iqembu ekhaya lakho? Ingabe ingane yakho ingamelana nokulenga nabantu abangalungile uma ungekho ekhaya?
- Ingabe ingane yakho isazi ukuthi isabela kanjani esimweni esiphuthumayo? Kunezimo ezihlukahlukene eziphuthumayo ezingase ziphakame lapho ungekho, kusukela esitheni esiphukile kuze kube emlilweni. Ingabe ingane yakho ingayazi ukuthi kufanele yenzeni uma kwenzeka isimo esiphuthumayo? Ingabe ingane yakho ingenza izinqumo ezinempilo ngokuzimela ngenkathi icindezelekile?
- Ingabe unomuntu ozohlola ingane yakho? Umngane noma ilunga lomndeni ongakwazi ukungena njalo nezingane zakho kungavimbela izinkinga eziningi. Umuntu oxhumana naye othintekayo oseduze angakunika wena nengane yakho ingxenye ethile yengqondo. Qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho inenombolo yefoni kubantu abangathintana nayo uma enenkinga ngenkathi ungaphandle kwedolobha.
- Ingabe ingane yakho ingabe inomthwalo wemfanelo kunoma ubani omunye? Kuyinto eyodwa yokucela umfana oneminyaka engu-16 ukuba ahlale ekhaya yedwa ebusuku, kodwa kuhluke ngokuphelele ukucela ingane yakho ukuba inakekele izingane zakini ezincane. Cabanga ukuthola indawo yabantwana abancane ukuba bahambe ngenkathi uvumela ingane yakho ukuba ihlale ekhaya yodwa izikhathi ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokumcela ukuba abelethe ubusuku bonke.
- Ingabe ingane yakho ingase isabe? Nakuba intsha ingavumi, abaningi babo bayesaba ukuhlala bodwa ebusuku. Uma ingane yakho isaba kakhulu ebumnyameni, iyothinta kanjani ukuba yedwa ekhaya ebusuku? Wayengasabela kanjani kumsindo ongajwayelekile ozwayo phakathi nobusuku?
- Intsha yakho ilandela kanjani imithetho? Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukulandela imithetho uma uhlala ekhaya, kunamathuba aphezulu angeke alandele imithetho uma usuhambe.
Ukulungiselela Ingane Yakho Yokuhlala Ekhaya Yodwa Ngobusuku
Uma ingane yakho ingakwazi ukusingatha ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa ngesikhathi sesikhathi eside, kungenzeka ukuthi ilungele inkululeko eyengeziwe .
Uma umvumele ukuba abe yedwa yedwa kuze kube phakathi kwamabili futhi wasabela kahle, mhlawumbe angakwazi ukuhlala ekhaya yedwa ubusuku bonke.
Into engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukunikeza ingane yakho inganezela imithwalo yemfanelo kancane kancane. Thatha izinyathelo zokuqapha ukuze ulungise ingane yakho ukuba ihlale yedwa ebusuku.
Mbuze ukuthi uzobhekana kanjani nezimo ezithile, njengomuntu ongaziwayo oza emnyango, i-alamu yomusi ezwakalayo, noma umakhelwane ebuza ukuthi uvela edolobheni. Qiniseka ukuthi unolwazi oludinga ukuhlala luphephile ubusuku bonke.
> Imithombo:
> I-American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry: Ikhaya Lodwa Izingane.
> Isango Lolwazi Lokunakekelwa Kwezingane: Ukushiya Ikhaya Lwakho Lwodwa. September, 2013.
> HealthyChildren.org: Ingabe Ingane Yakho Ikulungele Ukuhlala Ekhaya?