Izinto ezingu-8 Akekho ozokutshela mayelana nokukhulelwa emva kokungabi nalutho

Ukuthola izindaba ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwakho ekugcineni kungaba mnandi. Ikakhulukazi emva kwezinyanga noma iminyaka yokuzama, ungase uzizwe unethemba kakhulu ngekusasa lakho kunalokhu usenesikhathi eside.

Kodwa-ke, kanye nenjabulo yakho, ungase uzizwe ukhathazekile, ukhathazekile noma ukwesaba. Uyazi kahle kakhulu kunakho konke okungahambi kahle ngesikhathi ukhulelwe-ukuthola amafutha amakhulu ekuhlolweni kokukhulelwa akuqinisekisi ingane ekugcineni.

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Ukukhulelwa Akuyona iMicrosoft, Happy Fix

Lapho sibhekene nemizwelo yokungabi nabantwana , abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi, "Uma bengingakhulelwa nje, ngizojabula." Ngaphandle kokuba kungasebenzi kahle kanjalo.

Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ujabule futhi ukhathazekile uma uthola izindaba zokukhulelwa. Futhi, ukukhulelwa nokukhulelwa kwangemva kokubeletha kuvame kakhulu kwabesifazane abaye bazama ukukhulelwa. Lokhu kungaba ingxenye ye-hormonal futhi kancane kancane ekucindezelekeni kokungabikho. Ukubhekana nokucindezeleka okuhlobene nokukhulelwa akusho ukuthi "awubongi" noma umama "omubi". Akuyona iphutha lakho.

Ungabamba zonke izinkathazo zakho ngaphakathi. Thola okungenani umngane omuhle ongayifungela. Futhi, cabanga ngokubona umuthi . Zonke izinkinga ezingokomzwelo zokungakwazi ukukhulelwa azange zinyamalale ngamagciwane ngokuhlolwa okuhle kokukhulelwa noma ngisho nangemva kwengane. Kuhle ukucela usizo.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungase ucindezeleke , sicela ukhulume ne-OB / GYN yakho. Kunezimbangela zezokwelapha ezingase zibe khona zokucindezeleka futhi unezinketho zokwelapha ezingaphezu kokubona kwakho.

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Ukuzibophezela Kokuphepha Kuyiqiniso

Uma ngabe usubhekene nokungabi nabantwana isikhathi esithile, cishe unabangane abahluleka ukukhulelwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangabangani be- intanethi noma amalungu eqembu lokusekela , ukuba nabangane abathandana nabo abaqonda ukuthi uvelaphi kungaba induduzo enkulu.

Kodwa uma ukhulelwa, ungase ukhathazeke ngabangani bakho abangenalutho. Ungase uzizwe sengathi "uyabashiya ngemuva." Ungase uzizwe sengathi udinga ukunciphisa injabulo yakho noma uqaphele ngokweqile ukuthumela izindaba zokukhulelwa izindaba nezithombe kuma-social media. Awufuni ukulimaza. Ungahlanganyela kanjani izindaba zakho zokukhulelwa?

Umsulwa wecala kuyinto evamile futhi evamile ngemuva kokungabikho. Khumbula-ke ukuthi kukhona umehluko emkhatsini we-fertile-myrtle ekukhutheni okukhulayo kanye nomuntu ozama ukukhipha umklomelo.

Ngezikhathi eziningi, ukuzwa izindaba ezinhle zomuntu ozama ukuzama ukuzinikela kunika ithemba netheba elilodwa. Ukukhulelwa umona kuhlukile uma "kungomunye wethu" ngezindaba ezinhle.

Xoxa nabangani bakho emathangeni okungazalwa. Ungabashiyi emnyama ngokukhulelwa kwakho. Yabelana nabo izindaba zakho zokukhulelwa ngendlela ebucayi .

Emithonjeni yezokuxhumana, khumbula ukuthi kungenzeka (ku-Facebook noma kunjalo) ukuvimbela abantu ngezikhala ezithile noma wabelane ngezithombe kuphela ohlwini oluthile lwabangani. Lena yindlela eyodwa yokuzungeze icala ngokuhlanganyela izithombe. (Kodwa buza abangani bakho uma bekhumbula ukubuka izithombe zakho zokukhulelwa ngaphambi kokuba uzivimbele. Bangase bafune ukubona!)

Uma ungabangane abaseduze, cabanga ukukhuluma ngecala lomsulwa wakho. Kuzosiza ukusula umoya. Uzozizwa ukhululekile ngokwengeziwe. Uma useklasini lokusekela, khuluma nomholi mayelana nokuthi ushintsho oluvela eqenjini lusebenza kanjani. Kungase kube nokukhulelwa / ukubeletha ngemuva kweqembu lokusekela kwabantwana abangasondeli. Uma kungakafiki, mhlawumbe ungaqala eyodwa!

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Ukuthuka Kuyenzeka

Uthola ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okuhle. Yebo! Kodwa-ke, ungase uzithole uzama futhi emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa. Ukuze uqiniseke. Ungabaza ukuthi ukhulelwe ngempela uze uzwe ukushaya kwenhliziyo noma uze ubone i-ultrasound yokuqala.

Ehlangothini elimnyama lokuphika, ungase ukhathazeke ngokubambisana nengane yakho engakazalwa. Futhi ungase ukhathazeke kakhulu ngokulahlekelwa ukukhulelwa owenqabela ngokomzwelo ukuxhuma ekuhlangenwe nakho.

Ungakhathazeki uma 'ungalandeli' ingane yakho engakazalwa. Uma nje udla futhi uphuza njengokukhulelwe, hhayi ngokomzimba "ukubopha" nomntwana ongakazalwa ngeke kukulimaze noma ingane. Eqinisweni, kuvamile ukuba ungaboshe ngaso leso sikhathi nengane yakho esanda kuzalwa. Kuyintokwanekwane ukuthi le mizwa ibonakala ngokubukeka ngesikhathi sokuzalwa. Kuthatha isikhathi futhi kulungile.

Gcina izikhumbuzo zokukhulelwa okuzungezile. Faka isithombe sakho sokuqala se-ultrasound esiqandisini sakho noma ugcine ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okuhle ekamelweni lakho.

Zama ukungabi esicupheni sokuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okuphindaphinda ukuze "uqinisekise" usakhulelwe. Kungenzeka ngokwemvelo ukuthi bahluka ebumnyameni, futhi lokhu kungabangela ukukhathazeka okungadingekile. Uma ukhathazekile ngokubambisana nomntanakho omusha noma uzizwa ucindezelekile, cabanga ngokubona umhlinzeki ogxile ekuzaleni noma ukukhathazeka okuhlobene nokukhulelwa .

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Ukuyeka Umtholampilo Wakho Wokuzala Kungase Kuphazamise

Inqubo yokukhulelwa kungenzeka igcwele ukuhlolwa kwegazi, i-ultrasound njalo, nokuya emtholampilo wokuzala . Ungaba matasa kakhulu ngomsebenzi wokukhulelwa. Khona-ke, ngesinye isikhathi, udokotela wakho wokuzala uzokudlulisela ku-OB / GYN evamile. Angase angafuni ngisho nokukubona amasonto ambalwa.

Ukusuka ekuqokweni kwansuku zonke noma ngeviki kuya ezinyangeni zenyanga kungahle kungabikho amandla. Ungakhathazeka phakathi kwama-aphoyintimenti okuthi "kukhona okungalungile," noma ngabe zonke izimpawu zibonisa ukuthi izinto zihamba kahle.

Kungenzeka ukuba nokukhulelwa okunempilo, okungahle kwenzeke ngemuva kokungasebenzi . Uma kunezinkinga noma ukukhulelwa kwakho kubhekwa njengengozi enkulu, ungadinga ukuqapha okungaphezulu. Kodwa uma nje usuke ungenawo umqondo ongenalo ukungabikho komzimba akusho ukuthi ukubeka eceleni kungabonisa ukuqapha okungaphezulu. Udokotela wakho akakunaki. Bathi nje bakuphatha njengoba benza noma yikuphi ukukhulelwa okuphephile. Futhi yinto enhle!

Khuluma ne-OB / GYN yakho ngokungahambi kahle kwakho. Odokotela abaningi bazimisele ukukubona kaningi ukuthula kwengqondo. Abanye odokotela bazokuvumela ukuba ubize phambili futhi uhlele ukuqokwa okusheshayo ukuhamba ukuhlola ukushaya kwenhliziyo nge-doppler ephathekayo. Yiqiniso, uma uneminye izimpawu ezibuhlungu noma izimpawu zenkinga , unganqikazi ukubiza udokotela wakho phakathi kwama-aphoyintimenti.

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Ukukhulelwa Kwakho Kungase Kungabi Ngokweqile

Ngenkathi ukukhulelwa okuningi emva kokungazalwa kuyinto evamile, ukukhuluma ngezibalo, ungase ube engozini enkulu yokuthola izinkinga ezithile zokukhulelwa. Izingozi zakho zizoxhomeka ukuthi kungani ungakwazi ukukhulelwa, umlando wakho wokukhulelwa kwangaphambili, impilo yakho yamanje nesisindo sakho, nendlela owakhulelwe ngayo.

Uma uthatha izidakamizwa zokuzala , ingozi yokukhulelwa izimpande iphezulu. Amawele amabili nokukhulelwa kwe-triplet angena engozini enkulu kuwe nomntanakho. Ingozi yokusebenza ngaphambi kwesikhathi iphezulu kulabo besifazane emva kokubeletha, ngisho noma ubeletha umntwana oyedwa kuphela.

Ukuba engozini enkulu yezinkinga akusho ukuthi kuzokwenzeka. Lezo zingozi zingase zibe zincane. Futhi, ngenxa yezimo ezithile, akukho lutho wena noma udokotela wakho ongakwenza ngokuhlukile. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungabeki umthwalo wemfanelo omkhulu noma ukusola ngokusobala uma kwenzeka okuthile.

Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngezingozi ongase ubhekane nazo ngesikhathi ukhulelwe. Buza ukuthi ungenzani ukunciphisa lezo zingozi, uma kukhona. Isibonelo, umsebenzi ongakabi yisikhathi cishe kungenzeka uma usuphelile amanzi noma ungondliwe kahle. Enye indlela ongayinciphisa ngayo ingozi yakho ukuthi udle uphuze ngokufanele.

Ukusebenza kwangaphambi kwesikhathi kungahle kumiswe uma kuthathwa ngokushesha. Ukwazi izibonakaliso nezikhathi nokuthi ungabiza udokotela wakho kungandisa amathuba okuthwala umntwana wakho isikhathi noma okungenani uthwale ingane yakho isikhathi eside uma ungaqapheli ukuthi umsebenzi uqale ngokushesha.

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Ngokungazelelwe Ukhathazekile Uyenze Iphutha

"Mhlawumbe awuhloswanga ukuba ngumzali." Lokhu kungenye yezinto abantu abakushoyo (kodwa akufanele!) Kubesilisa nabesifazane abazama ukukhulelwa. Kuyathukuthela futhi kuphazamisa (futhi akuyiqiniso).

Khona-ke, ukhulelwa futhi uqale ukukhathazeka ngalokho okuzokwenzeka lapho umntwana efika. Ingxenye encane yakho ingase ibuze ukuthi bonke labo bantu babelungile. Mhlawumbe wawungahlosiwe ukuba nezingane. Mhlawumbe, ngandlela-thile, uye waqamba isiphetho ekunikeni umntwana noma ngabe awuhambisani nomzali. Uma unayo le micabango, awuwedwa.

Ngisho nalabo abangazange babhekane nokungabi nabantwana bangase bakhathazeke ngokuthi bazoba abazali abahle. Lokhu kuywesaba okuvamile.

Khuluma nabantu mayelana nokukhathazeka kwakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhuluma nomngane noma uchwepheshe, ukusho ukukhathazeka kwakho ngokuzwakalayo kungakusiza uqaphele ukuthi akunakwenzeka kangakanani.

Futhi, khumbula ukuthi akudingeki ukuba wazi ukuthi ungumzali wedwa. Kunezinkulungwane zezincwadi, izihloko, namavidiyo ekukhulumeni. Ungacela futhi umndeni wakho, abangane, udokotela wezingane wengane yakho, kanye nochwepheshe bezingane zokuthola iseluleko. Ngokushesha uzothola kukhona izimpendulo ezimbalwa ezilungile nokungalungile. Kunezindlela eziningi zokuba umzali omuhle, ekugcineni uzofunda ukuthi isitayela sakho sokubeletha siyini.

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Ukuzwa u-Tribe-kancane

Ukuzama-kuya-conceivers kuvame ukuqoqa nokusekelwa komunye nomunye ku-intanethi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukubhuloga, amaqembu omphakathi, noma amaforamu, uthola abantu abathola ukuthi kunjani ukulwa nokuzala. Uba yilungu lesizwe esingenabuhlungu.

Khona-ke, uma ukhulelwa, kungase kuzwe sengathi ulahlekelwa ikhadi lakho lobulungu. Kunezindawo eziningi kakhulu-ku-intanethi futhi ngaphandle-kubazali abasha abakhulelwe nabasha ukuxhuma. Kodwa futhi ungase uzizwe ungenakuhlala nabo futhi ungabi nhlanga.

Ulahlekelwa ubulungu bakho kwisizwe esingenabuhlungu ngemuva kokuba ukhulelwe noma ube nengane. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa ungenalo ekuqaleni. Masiqaphele ukuthi ungacabangi ukuthi awukwazi ukuxhumana nabesifazane abakhulelwa ngokushesha futhi kalula. Ungase uhlanganyele ngokwengeziwe kunokuba uqaphele.

Kukhona amaqembu okusekela kulabo abakhulelwe noma abazali emva kokungasebenzi, kokubili ku-intanethi futhi kuvaliwe. Xhuma nendawo yakho RESOLVE othintana nabo ukuze ubone ukuthi baneqembu labantu.

Uma unomama "ocebile", bheka indawo evamile uma kunokwenzeka. Mhlawumbe umama othize akakwazi ukuhambisana nomjikelezo wakho we- IVF , kodwa kungenzeka ukuthi wabhekana nesisu. Noma mhlawumbe unezinto zokuzilibazisa ezifanayo ezingezona ezihlobene nezingane. Ungavumeli i-infertility ibe yimbozi yakho kuphela.

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Kuyafaneleka Ukuphikisa Ngesinye isikhathi

Uhambo lwakho lokukhulelwa kungenzeka ukuthi lube lude futhi lukhuni kuneziningi. Kodwa lapho lapho, cishe uyakwazisa yonke imizuzu. Ukubona ukuqhuma kokuqala kwi-ultrasound, ukuzwa ukushaya kwenhliziyo (noma ukushaya kwenhliziyo!) Okokuqala, futhi ukuzwa ukukhakha okuqala kuyizinto ezibalulekile abesifazane abaningi. Kuwe, leyo minyaka yomzabalazo izothuthukisa ukuqaphela kwakho nenjabulo kulezi zikhathi. Bangase bakulethe izinyembezi.

Kodwa futhi uzoba nezikhathi lapho ungajabuli kakhulu. Izikhathi lapho ungakhululekile noma ungazizwa ugula kahle ekuseni , ama- backaches , uzizwa uphelelwe amandla. Kungenzeka ukuthi uchithe iminyaka edonsa amehlo akho kwabesifazane abakhononda ngokugula kwasekuseni noma ukuntula kokulala lapho ingane yakho konke okufunayo. Manje, nangu wena, unqume ukuthi ungakhononda.

Kulungile ngempela ukukhononda. Kulungile uma ungathandi njalo umzuzu owodwa wokukhulelwa kwakho. Kulungile ukungathandi ukuhlanza njalo ekuseni. Futhi kuhle ukuzwa ukhathele ingane esanda kuzalwa.

Ngezikhathi ezikhethekile, babhale phansi. Ungase ufune ukugcina iphephandaba noma i-scrapbook, thatha ividiyo ngesikhathi sokuqokwa kukadokotela ukuze ubambe imisindo yokuqala yokushaya inhliziyo, noma ushaye izithombe zebhola lakho elikhulayo kusukela ngesonto kuya kwesonto. Ungase ufune ukwabelana lawa mavidiyo nezithombe-kuma-social media, nabangani nomndeni, noma uzigcine wena.

Ngezikhathi ezinzima, finyelela usizo. Asikho isidingo sokuzibonakalisa njenge-supermom. (Ngendlela, ama-supermum ayinganekwane. Abakhona ngempela.) Okubaluleke kakhulu, sicela, khala uma uzizwa uthanda. Emva kwakho konke oye wadlula, uthola ilungelo!