Abaningi Njengoba Ungase Ucabange
Kufanele kube khona uhlobo oluthile lokuxhumanisa phakathi kokukhathalela okungakanani umuntu kanye nesilinganiso sokulawula onakho ngaphezu kokuphila kwakhe. Futhi kufanele kube ukuhlanganiswa okude. Kodwa ogogo nomkhulu abaningi bathola usizi lwabo ukuthi akukho ukulungiswa okunjalo okukhona uma kwenzeka kubazukulu babo. Kunalokho, cishe konke ukulawula kusezandleni zabazali.
Isikhathi esiningi lelo lungiselelo lisebenza kahle. Abazali babiza izibhamu, futhi ugogo nomkhulu baqala ukuzijabulisa. Kodwa uma abazali benza izinqumo ezimbi futhi ugogo nomkhulu bazama ukungenelela, bavame ukuphenduka, babashiye babuze, "Abazali nogogo banalo ilungelo lomthetho?"
Umbuzo omuhle kakhulu.
Amalungelo Omzali Anamandla
Esikhathini esiningi, abazali banelungelo lokwenza izinqumo mayelana nezingane zabo. Ezimweni ezihlangabezana nencazelo yomthetho yokuhlukunyezwa noma ukunganakwa, izingane zingasuswa ekhaya, nakuba zivame ukubuyiselwa esikhathini esizayo. Cishe zonke izimo, abazali baqhubeka belawula izingane zabo, ngisho nalapho benza izinqumo ezingabazayo. Uma izingane zingekho engozini enkulu yokulimaza, izinqumo zabazali zivunyelwe ukuma.
Ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa kuthinta uhlu lwezizathu zokuthi kungani izingane zisuswa emakhaya, kodwa izikhathi eziningi izingane zisala ekhaya elinomzali onenkinga yokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa ngoba izinsolo zokuhlukunyezwa azikwazi ukufakazelwa, noma ngenxa yokuthi ukusetshenziswa komzali akubhekwa kube yingozi ezinganeni.
Nakuba ogogo nomkhulu bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi bangakwazi ukuhlinzeka abazukulu babo indawo engcono nokuthi bangenza izinqumo ezingcono zokubeletha, akunandaba. Ngaphandle kokuthi izingane zisuswe ekhaya ngenxa yesizathu esithile, ugogo nomkhulu akusebenzi.
Uma Abazukulu Budinga ikhaya elisha
Uma abazukulu becatshangelwa engozini futhi besuswa ekhaya, unogogo nomkhulu banelungelo lokukwaziswa.
Umthetho ka-2008 uthi izihlobo zabantu abadala kumele zihlonzwe futhi zinikezwe ilungelo lokubamba iqhaza ezinqumweni zalokho okuzokwenzeka kubantwana.
Uma befuna ukunakekelwa kwezingane, ugogo nomkhulu bangase baphathwe ngendlela efanayo nabanye abazali ababelethi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ugogo nomkhulu bangafuna ukugcinwa , kodwa ezimweni eziningi, ngeke banikezwe ngokuzenzekelayo noma yikuphi ukucatshangelwa okukhethekile. Isikhalazo sabo sizophathwa ngaphansi kwezinqubo zanoma yisiphi isikhalazo sesithathu. Uma unogogo nomkhulu bethola ilungelo lokunakekela abazukulu babo, ilungiselelo lokugcina lingathatha izinhlobo ezahlukene .
Kuthiwani ngamalungelo okuvakasha?
Ukuvakashelwa kwabazali omkhulu kuhlukile esitokisini. Zonke izifunda zase-United States ziye zatshela ukuvakashelwa kwabazali omkhulu emthethweni wesifundazwe . E-Canada, izifundazwe eziyisithupha kanye nensimu eyodwa ziye zasungula amalungelo okuvakashelwa kwabazali nomkhulu, futhi ogogo nomkhulu bangakwazi ukusola njengamalungu athakazelisayo kwezinye izindawo.
Kungenxa yokuthi indawo inemithetho ehlinzekela ukuvakashelwa kwabazali omkhulu, akubona bonke ogogo nomkhulu abaye bafana nesifayili sefayili, futhi ama-suits ayabiza futhi kunzima ukuwina. Ngisho nangemva kokuba i-suit iphumelele, kungaba nzima ukuthola i-oda lokuvakasha eliqinisekisiwe. Naphezu kwezinkinga ezihilelekile, unogogo nogogo abaningi ngonyaka benza isinqumo sokufaka i-suit.
Ukuhlala Kuhilelekile Kuyisici
Uma ngabe ubeke isikhundla sokufuna ukugcinwa noma ukuvakashelwa, uzobe usesikhundleni sokuqina uma ugcine izibopho ezinamandla nabazukulu bakho. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungabeka esimweni esinjalo, akusekuseni kakhulu ukuqala ukuloba ubuhlobo bakho nabazukulu bakho.
Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bavimbela ugogo nomkhulu ukuthi bangabambisani nabazukulu. Abazali bangakwenza lokhu ngoba amalungelo abo omzali anamandla kakhulu. Uma ngabe kunjalo, kufanele ubhale imizamo yakho yokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo nabazukulu bakho.
Ngokucabangela amalungelo osemthethweni kagogo nomkhulu, indlela ehlakaniphile kakhulu yokwenza ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle nabazali babazukulu bakho.
Ngeshwa, lokho akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, okusibuyisela emuva ngqo lapho siqala khona.
Ugogo nomkhulu bangabathanda abazukulu babo abazizwa kakhulu njengothando lwabazali, kodwa amalungelo abo akude namalungelo omzali.