Ugogo nomkhulu bangaba abazali ngezindlela eziningi. Abanye bavele nje basize nabakhulu babo, bethatha imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuze kube usuku olulodwa bayaqaphela ukuthi bawakhulisa ngempumelelo. Abanye bangashintsha kubazali ngendlela engakazelelwe - bangathola ucingo olungalindelekile, ngokuvamile bevela ezinsizakalweni zomphakathi, batshele ukuthi abazukulu babo badinga indawo yokuhlala.
Kuzo zombili izimo futhi kuzo zonke izinhlobo zabo, ugogo nomkhulu kumele bahlele isimo sabo ukuze bakwazi ukunakekela abazukulu babo ngokufanele. Futhi ugcinwe ngendlela eyodwa noma enye.
Ukugcinwa kwezingane zakudala kuza ngezindlela ezahlukene, futhi imigomo yezomthetho yalezi fomu ingahluka kusuka kuhulumeni kuya kuhulumeni. Kodwa ozala nonogogo nababelethi bavame ukuba nobuhlobo obunjalo bomthetho nabazukulu babo.
Ukwenza Okusemzimbeni Ngamandla Ammeli
Lapho abazukulu behlala nogogo nomkhulu kanye nogogo nomkhulu kunomthwalo wempilo yabo ngosuku nosuku, ugogo nomkhulu "unogada ngokomzimba." Lesi simo ngokuvamile sivela lapho umzali noma umqaphi ebuza ugogo nomkhulu ukuba anakekele ingane okwesikhashana. Lokhu ngokuvamile kwenziwa njengelungiselelo elingavumelekile.
Ugogo nomkhulu kufanele bathole amandla ommeli, obizwa nangokuthi i-POA, abanika igunya lokusemthethweni lokubhekana nezidingo zezokwelapha nezinye izidingo zezempilo, ikakhulukazi esimweni esiphuthumayo lapho abazali bezingane bengenakufinyelelwa.
Lokhu kungaba okulula njengokuthi umzali angayine ifomu elikwazisiwe futhi alithumele enkantolo. I-POA ihlala isebenza kuze kube usuku oluchazwe kuyo, noma kuze kube yilapho ingane ingasencane. Kunoma yikuphi, umzali angakwazi ukufaka enkantolo ukuba asuse i-POA nganoma isiphi isikhathi.
Ezinye zinezinhlobo zokuvuma zezokwelapha namafomu okuvuma ezemfundo angenza amandla angempela ommeli akudingekile.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ezinye izifunda zenza amalungiselelo okuthi kungenzeka ukuthi umzali angaphi lapho angazi khona futhi uvumele ugogo nomkhulu ukuba bafake ama-afidavithi ngalokhu ukuze bakwazi ukuthola i-POA noma enye imvume.
Ugogo nomkhulu njengabazali abakhulu
Ugogo nomkhulu bangase banikezwe ithuba lokukhonza njengabazali ababelethi lapho umbuso ususa izingane ekunakekeleni abazali babo. Ngezinye izikhathi leli lungiselelo libizwa ngokuthi ukunakekelwa kohlobo. Ugogo nomkhulu ugcinwe ngokomzimba, kodwa uhulumeni ugcina lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "ukugcinwa kwezomthetho" - ilungelo lokwenza izinqumo ezinkulu mayelana nenhlalakahle yengane.
Ugogo nomkhulu bangase banakekele ingane ngaphandle kokunakekelwa okukhulu noma usizo oluvela embusweni, futhi lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kuthiwa ukunakekelwa kobuhlobo obungakahleleki. Kwamanye amazwe, ugogo nomkhulu bangase badinge ukuqeqeshwa kanye nesitifiketi esidingekayo ukuze babe abazali abaqotho. Ugogo nomkhulu bakhona bakhokhelwa ukunakekelwa kokunakekela izingane njengoba nje nabanye abazali ababelethayo. Uma beyizingane ezisemthethweni ezikhulayo, ugogo nomkhulu bazobuye bavakashele futhi bahlolwe kusukela kubasebenzi bezokuvikela izingane.
Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi izingane zingase zikhule futhi zikhuthaze ukubeka izindawo zingase zihlale zingapheli lapho izingane zifakwa ngezihlobo.
Umthetho wesifundazwe owadlula ngo-2008 udinga ukuthi izinsizakalo zenhlalakahle zithole futhi zazise izihlobo zabantu abadala uma izingane zithathwa ezikhundleni zikahulumeni. Ebizwa ngokuthi Ukuxhumana Okukhuthazayo Nokuphumelela Komthetho Wokunakekelwa Kwezomthetho, umgomo uhlose ukuxhuma izingane ezidinga ukunakekelwa kwabantwana nabanakekeli abazithandayo . Inikeza ukusekela ukwenza lezo zimo ezikhuthazayo ziphumelele. Isenzo sinikeza futhi izikhuthazo ezihlotsheni zokuthola izingane ezizikhulayo.
Umthetho Wezomthetho Nezimo Zomzimba
Ugogo nomkhulu ofuna ukulawula okungaphezu komzukulu angaya enkantolo futhi acele isitifiketi sezomthetho kanye nokugcinwa ngokomzimba, kokubili kumiswa ngomyalelo wenkantolo.
Ngisho noma kukhona umyalelo wenkantolo, abazali bangakwazi ukuthola imvume, kodwa kuzodingeka bacele inkantolo. Ezimweni eziningi, abazali banamalungelo okuvakasha nokho noma ogogo nomkhulu wengane banesitokisini.
Ukuqinisekisa
Igama elithi "umgcini" linokushintshashintsha okukhulu kunakho konke okushiwo yizo zonke izinhlobo zesitoreji somkhulu. Ukuqinisekiswa yigama elisetshenziselwa ukugcinwa kwezomthetho kwamanye amazwe, kanti ababheki kwamanye amazwe banamalungelo engeziwe, kuhlanganise nelungelo lokubiza omunye umuntu ukuba anakekele umzukulu uma kwenzeka ugogo nomkhulu engakwazi ukufeza leyo misebenzi. Ngokuvamile, umzali ugcina amalungelo okuvakasha ngenkathi ingane ingaphansi kokuqapha.
Ukwamukelwa
Ukwamukelwa yilona ilungiselelo elihlala kunomphela elingenziwa phakathi komkhulu nomzali kanye nomzukulu wakhe. Ukwamukelwa kunomphela futhi kuphelisa amalungelo omzali. Iphinde iphele noma yiziphi izinkokhelo zokunakekela izingane ezingase zithole, kodwa ugogo nomkhulu othobela umzukulu angase afanelekele ukusizwa ngemali yokwamukelwa kanye nomklomelo wokukhokha intela noma kokubili. Umzukulu angase ahlale ekulungele ukunakekelwa kwezempilo kusukela kuhulumeni ngisho nangemva kokutholwa.
Ukwaziswa okuningiliziwe mayelana nokugcinwa kwezingane nogogo kuyatholakala kwi-Grandfamilies State Law and Resource Center, exhaswe ingxenye yingxenye ye-American Bar Association.