Amagama abantwana abaluleke kakhulu emindenini eminingi. Igama olikhethile ngomntanakho omusha lizoba yigama elihlala nalo lonke ukuphila, ukuvimbela ukuqondiswa komthetho okwesikhashana kamuva ekuphileni. Uzodinga ukuthola igama elizolifanisa nane usana, ingane ekhulayo, omdala osemusha, futhi ekugcineni, ngisho nasekugugeni. Isivivinyo sesikhathi yisivivinyo esiphezulu segama, nakuba abantu abaningi bevusa ukuvumelana namagama okungenzeka ukuthi babengawuthandi kahle ngaphambili ngaphambi kokukhula.
Ngaphandle kwesisindo esikhulu sokuqamba omunye umuntu, wena (ngokuvamile) kufanele uyenze ngombono womunye umuntu-ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nangomuntu oyedwa. Lokhu kwenza umsebenzi wokubiza umntwana unzima kakhulu. Ukuze sikusize ukuthi udinge ukuthi yini okudingeka uyicabangele nokuthi ingcono kanjani ngokuhamba ngenqubo, sinezinto ezithile ongacabanga ngazo uma ubheka amagama wabantwana.
Ukuthola Amagama Amantombazane
Uma uya egameni lakho umntwana, kungenzeka ukuthi usuvele une uhlu olude lwamagama amantombazane , amagama omfana , namagama angathathi hlangothi bobulili asevele aqalisiwe, nakuba lokhu kungekhona njalo kuwo wonke umndeni. Abantu abaningi bathatha igama lomntwana ugqozi oluvela emithonjeni ehlukahlukene. Kwabaningi, lokhu kuhlanganisa:
- Igama lamabhuku wezingane
- Amabhuku e-inthanethi namathuluzi okuqamba amagama
- Amagama omndeni
- Isiko se-Pop (abalingisi, abalingiswa be-movie, abaculi)
- Izibalo zomlando
Uzochitha isikhathi esithile ukuhlela igama lomntanakho. Ukuchaza uhlu lwamagama alfabhethi kungakuvumela ukuthi uhlole amagama ongawuthandi futhi ulandele amagama owenzayo.
Kungenzeka esikhundleni salokho ukhethe ukukhetha igama elilodwa oyithandayo futhi uthole abanye abazwakalayo noma babheke okufanayo, futhi bakhe uhlu lwakho kusuka lapho.
Izinto Okufanele Uzicabange Lapho Ubiza Umntwana
Kungase kuzwakale kulula ukukhetha igama bese ugijima nalo. Ungakwenza lokho, kunjalo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukucabangela izinto ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba wenze isikhulu:
- Ama-Initials: Ungase ufune ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awukunikeli ingane yakho yokuqala ekuqaleni ukuthi ipela into enhle noma engavamile. Cabanga ngo-Aaron Simon Samuels noma uClarie Octavia Wilson.
- Ama- namnameki : Cabanga ngamagama okudlala angabanikeza ingane yakho futhi uqiniseke ukuthi awuthandi nje kuphela, kodwa ukuthi uzizwa kahle ngokuthi uhambelana kanjani negama lakho lokugcina.
- Wabize ngani izingane zakini ? Ungase uthande ukucabangela ukunikeza izingane zakho amagama okuthi "hambani ndawonye," njengoba zivame ukushiwo ngomoya ofanayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungase kube nzima ukuchazela izingane zakho ukuthi kungani umuntu enegama eliyingqayizivele elihlukile (uthi, uZaphod) lapho igama lomfowabo nguBob.
- Ingabe inencazelo ecasulayo? Ezinye uthi futhi amazwe empeleni anemithetho evimbela ukuthi ungabizi ingane noma iyiphi into ebhekwa njengenkinga yomlando, njengo-Adolf Hitler, uSathane, njll.
Ukuphikisana Nomlingani Ngegama Lamantombazane
Ungase uthole ukuthi wena nomlingani wakho ningaboni amehlo uma kuziwa kumagama wengane . Ungesabi. Lokhu kujwayelekile. Kuyisizathu esihle sokuqala ukukhuluma ngamagama wengane ngempela kusasa. Isikhathi esiningi kufanele ube nezingxoxo ngakho, ungagcizelela kancane uzozizwa.
Enye indlela esebenza kahle uma unomlingani ohlala njalo enqaba amagama ukuwacela amagama omfana wezintombi namantombazane.
Labo ababandakanya bangabalwa nganoma iyiphi indlela abayifisayo. Ngokuqinisekile kunciphisa ukukhetha kwakho, kodwa kungavimbela ukukhungatheka okuningi uma ungazi ukuthi yini abayicabanga ukuthi "igama elihle."
Lokhu kungase kube yindawo yokuqala. Isibonelo, ake sithi umlingani wakho uthi uPala yigama ohlwini lwabo. Mhlawumbe awuwuthandi lelo gama, kodwa cabanga ukuthi uPaulina uyigama elihle, noma ukuthi uPawulu uzokwamukeleka ohlwini lwegama lomfana.
Ngezinye izikhathi izimpikiswano zivutha. Uma ungeke unqume igama ndawonye, unqume indlela yokubiza umntwana othanda ukubili. Isibonelo, eminye imindeni ivumela umama ukuba akhethe amagama amantombazane futhi ubaba akhethe amagama emfana.
Ungavuma futhi ukuba nomuntu wesithathu, ngokuvamile ilungu lomndeni, ukhethe igama. Isibonelo sizoba ngogogo ngamunye angathumela igama futhi unganquma njengomndeni ukuthi umyalelo ukubeka amagama. Izindaba ezinhle ukuthi umntwana oqamba igama akatholi kule nqubo.
Amasiko omndeni ngamagama angane
Amasiko omndeni angadlala ingxenye enkulu yokuthi ukhetha kanjani ukubiza ingane yakho. Ungaba nomlando omude wokusebenzisa iphethini lokubiza igama. Isibonelo: Umfana wokuqala uthola igama eliphakathi lomkhulu kayise, kanti umfana wesibili uthola igama eliphakathi lomkhulukazi womama. Ungenza okufanayo namadodakazi kanye nogogo. Lesi yisinye sezibonelo eziningi kuphela.
Ukusebenzisa umhlangano omusha wokuqamba amagama kungase kube yinto eyokuthandayo. Eminye imindeni inemigqa ende kakhulu yabafundi abancane, okuqala, ngokuvamile emva kwezingane ezincane, ngezibalo zamaRoma. Uma umndeni wakho ungakaze wenze lokhu ngaphambili, kuyindlela enhle yokwakha isiko lomndeni. Nakuba ngokuvamile kubonakala phakathi kwamadoda omndeni, abesifazane bayakwazi futhi.
Ungase ufise ukucabangela amasiko angabandakanya:
- Ukuhlonipha izihlobo ezifile
- Ukugcina uhlobo lwezinhlamvu zokuqala (okuqala okufanayo kubo bonke emndenini oseduze)
- Ukubiza ingane ngekhono olifisa ukulifaka (ukholo, ithemba, isihe, njll)
- Ukwakha igama eliyingqayizivele, noma ngaphandle kokuhlanganiswa kwamagama omndeni noma amagama
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu banquma ukukhohlisa amasiko omndeni kubantwana ababiza ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lokho kuyamukeleka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umndeni wakho uzama ukukutshela. Ngaphambi kokuba uqhubekele phambili, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi ungayiphatha kanjani ukudumazeka komndeni okungase kwenzeke.
Uma unquma ukumemezela igama lomntwana ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ungathola ukuthi ukuzwa izindaba kuqala okungenani kunika izihlobo zakho isikhathi esithile ukuba zivumelane nesinqumo osenzile. Bangasebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukucela ukuba bashintshe ingqondo yakho. Lokhu kungenzeka noma akungakusizi, kodwa lungele ulungele.
Kungenzeka esikhundleni salokho ukhethe ukulinda kuze kube yilapho umntwana ezelwe ukumemezela igama lakhe. Lokhu kungaba nesici esingeziwe sokumangala kuso. Uma noma ubani engase athukutheke kakhulu, ungase ucabange ubatshela ukuthi uhlela ukwephula isiko esikhathini esithile (ngisho noma ungahlanganyeli negama langempela olikhethile). Uma badumala, zama ukuqonda, kepha uqine ngokuzibophezela kwakho egameni lomntanakho.
Ukukhetha igama eliphakathi kubantwana bakho
Iningi lemindeni yaseMelika likhetha igama eliphakathi labantwana babo. Into enhle abantu abaningi bazizwa bekhululekile futhi bancipha kakhulu ngegama eliphakathi. Lokhu kungaba indawo yokufihla igama lomndeni olikhethayo ngaphandle komqondo wesibopho hhayi ngenxa yokuthi uyayithanda. Futhi kuyindawo yokuzijabulisa, uma uzizwa sengathi igama lokuqala lihlelekile, noma ufake "igama lokuphepha," uma kwenzeka ingane yakho ikhula ingayithandi igama lakhe lokuqala.
Yikuphi Igama Lokugcina Okufanele Ulisebenzise?
Igama lokugcina oyisebenzisela ingane yakho lingase libe ngaphansi komthetho. Kwamanye amazwe nakwamanye amazwe, igama lomndeni elinikezwa umntwana kufanele libe likababa, uma liziwa, noma umama noma ubaba. Ezinye izindawo zivumela ukukhetha okuningi, ikakhulukazi uma ungashadile noyise wengane.
Ezinye imindeni zisebenzisa igama lokugcina njengendawo yokuhlanganisa amagama ezinganeni zabo. Ungaba nabazali abanegama lokugcina elihlukile abakhetha ukuwaxosha ingane ukuze babonise ukujoyina imindeni emibili (isib. Mary Smith-Jones). Ezinye imindeni ikhetha igama elisha lonke. Inketho yendabuko kakhulu ukuthi umntwana abe negama elifanayo lokugcina njengabazali abahlanganyela negama lokugcina, kodwa lokho kuyashintsha kancane kancane.
Izitifiketi zokuzalwa nezinkinga zomthetho ezinegama lamantombazane
Isitifiketi sokuzalwa sikhishwa kuzo zonke ukuzalwa okuphilayo e-United States. Ngokuvamile, lezi zincwadi zigcwala indawo yokuzalwa (isib. Isikhungo sokuzalwa esibhedlela, njll) ngokubambisana nodokotela noma umbelethisi. Kuze kube nini ufanele wenze lokhu kuzohluka. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi izingane ezizalwa esibhedlela zivame ukunikezwa ucezu lwezithombe ezinamathekisthi ngezinyawo zomntwana; lokhu akuyona isitifiketi sokuzalwa esisemthethweni.
Umbuzo owodwa abantu abaningi abanakho uma kufanele baqume ngegama lomntwana ngaphambi kokushiya indawo yokuzalwa. Impendulo ngokuvamile ayikho. Lokhu kuvumela labo abafisa ukubiza izingane zabo emikhosini yenkolo ukwenza kanjalo, nakuba abanye bakhetha ukubiza ngokushesha futhi bangabonakali ukhetho lwabo kuze kube yisikhathi somkhosi. Hlola kubhalisi bokubhalisa endaweni yakho yokuzalwa noma uMnyango we-Vital Statistics lapho uhlala khona ngokuqondene nemithetho elawula ukuzalwa kwakho.
Nakuba amanye amazwe enemithetho eminingi ephathelene nokuthi ungayibamba kanjani ingane yakho, i-United States ayinayo imithetho eminingi yalowo mvelo. Imithetho esezincwadini eMelika ivame kakhulu mayelana nokusebenzisa izithombe noma izimpawu, noma zingaki izinhlamvu ongazibeka egameni. Okuningi kwalokhu kusekelwe ekusebenzeni, kodwa ngezikhathi ezithile othile uzokwenza izindaba ngoba ijaji lizama ukubenza bashintshe igama.
Ukucabangelwa Kwezenkolo Amagama Amantombazane
Izibopho zenkolo zokuqamba ingane zihluka kakhulu. Kufanele ukhulume nomfundisi wakho, umpristi, unogada, noma abefundisi ngamasiko athile. Lokhu kungabandakanya ukuqamba umntwana ngemuva kweqoqo lezibalo zenkolo ngaphakathi kwenkolo yakho.
Isibonelo salokhu kungaba ubuKatolika, obona amalunga amaningi asebenzisa amagama angcwele noma amanye amagama eBhayibhelini ngomntanakho. Nakuba kungase kungabi mfuneko egameni lomthetho lomntwana, ngokuvamile kuyisiko esinamandla.
Ezinye izinkolo nazo zisebenzisa amagama angeziwe angasetshenziswanga izitifiketi zokuzalwa. Lezi zivame ukunikezwa emva kokuzalwa, njengokwomkhosi wokuqamba igama.
Imikhosi Yokubiza Abantwana
Ezinye izinkolo zikhuluma ngokungabi nje kuphela okuzobiza igama lomntwana, kodwa lapho ubiza ingane. Ngokwesibonelo, imikhaya yamaJuda inikeza izingane zabo igama labo elingokomthetho kanye negama labo lesiHeberu emcimbini emva kokuzalwa. Kwabafana, lokhu kuvame ukusebenza ngosuku lwesishiyagalombili eBrith Milah. Intombazanyana ijwayele ukubizwa ngamanye amaviki amabili eBrit Bat. Ngisho nasebuJudeni, kukhona umehluko ngesikhathi nokuthi kwenzekani emcimbini. Khuluma nabafundisi bakho ukuba banqume ukuthi ngabe ufisa yini ukuba nomkhosi wegama lomntwana wakho, noma ngabe ubizwa nje ngegama elingokwenkolo.
Izwi elivela ku-Verywell
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha ukukwenza kanjani, ukukhetha igama kuwumsebenzi obalulekile. Umntanakho kuzodingeka aphile negama lakho impilo yakhe yonke, noma aze anqume ukuwuguqula (okuyinto angenza ngokomthetho eneminyaka engu-18). Lokho kuzwakala njengokucindezela okuningi, futhi sicabanga ukuthi kuwukuthi. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi, ekupheleni kosuku, ukubeletha ikakhulukazi mayelana nokufunda. Thembela isitho sakho futhi ukhumbule ukujabulela ukwenza lesi sinqumo esikhethekile.
Lezi zihloko ze-Wellwell zingakusiza ukuthi uqale:
- Izingane Ezibiza Ngayo Iminyaka
- Amaningi Amantombazane Amathandwayo Kakhulu Yekhulu Elidlule
- Amagama Amantombazane athandwa kakhulu kubafana
- Amagama Amantombazane adumile kumantombazane
- Ama-Baby Names Unisex
- Amagama Wokugcina Njengamagama Wokuqala (noma Aphakathi)
- M odern Baby Naming Trends
- B Aby Igama Izincwadi Zokucabangela
> Umthombo:
> Larson, CFW (November 2011). "Ukubiza umntwana: Ukulinganisa koMthethosisekelo Wokubiza Amalungelo". I-George Washington Law Law. 80 (1).