Uma ngabe ucabangela izici ezihlobene nokuphumelela kwezemfundo ezimbili, ungase ucabange ngekhwalithi yesikole sabo, iziqiniseko zothisha wabo, ikhono labo lokufunda, nokuzibandakanya kwakho emsebenzini wesikole. Uma umisa lapho, noma kunjalo, ubhekana nesici esiyinhloko: ngabe ontanga yabo bayabathanda.
Izingane Zakho Nezintandokazi Zontanga Zama-Acceptance
Ubona ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani abangani bakho be-tween, ngakho-ke unomqondo wokuthi ubuhlobo bentanga bubaluleke kangakanani enhlalakahleni yengane yakho.
Uma i-kati yakho ibuzwa ukuba ilinganise yena nabangane bakhe ekilasini, kungaba yini umphumela? Yileyo ndlela abacwaningi abacwaninga ngayo ukwamukelwa kontanga. Isibonelo, uhlangothi lwakho luzobonisa ukuthi bangabangane abakhulu kunoma yimuphi umfundi onikeziwe futhi bakhombe ukuthi bathanda noma bangamthandi kangakanani lowo muntu. Ngemuva kokuhlola igumbi eligcwele labafundi, abacwaningi bakwazi ukukhomba imikhakha emihlanu yalokho ababiza ngokuthi "izimiso zontanga." Uphi indawo yakho ephakathi?
- Isilinganiso sabantwana : Ingabe bayathandwa abanye ontanga, abangathandwa ngabanye, kodwa inani "elivamile".
- Izingane ezidumile : Ngokungajwayelekile abazithandi ngontanga. Ngokuvamile kubhalwe ngokuthi "umngane omkhulu."
- Izingane ezinganakwa : Ayithandi, kepha ayidabuli ngokuthi "umngane omkhulu."
- Izingane ezinqatshiwe: Ukungathandwa yiontanga abaningi. Ngokuvamile kubhalwe ngokuthi "umngane ongcono."
- Izingane eziphikisanayo : Ngokuvamile zibhalwe ngokuthi "umngane ongcono kakhulu" futhi zivame ukungathandi.
Ukubaluleka kuhlobene kanjani nokuphumelela kwesikole?
Iningi ucwaningo olubandakanya izimo zontanga lugxile emiphumeleni yomphakathi kuze kube yilapho kusetshenzwa izifundo zakudala ezineminyaka engu-11 kuya kwengu-13 ngonyaka ka-1995, owathola ubuhlobo obucacile phakathi kokuthandwa nokuphumelela.
Abacwaningi bahlukanisa isimo somlingani womfundi ngamunye futhi babuza othisha nontanga ukuthi bacabangani ngempumelelo yomfundi ngamunye.
Funda okutholakala kwabo ukubona ukuthi isimo somntwana wakho sezemfundo siqhathaniswa nesimo sabo kontanga. Bathola lokhu okulandelayo:
- Abafundi abathintekayo kakhulu bezemfundo babeyizingane ezinganakwa. Bathandwa kakhulu ngabafundisi babo uma kuqhathaniswa nezingane ezijwayelekile. Othisha babheka izingane ezinganakwa ukuba zizimelele kakhulu futhi zifanele ukuziphatha ekilasini.
- Izingane ezidumile zazifana nezingane ezijwayelekile, ngaphandle kokuthi ontanga yabo bazibheka njengabafundi abangcono kunezingane ezijwayelekile. Uhlu olulodwa kuphela othisha ababonayo lwaluyimali eyengeziwe yokusiza ekuthandeni izingane eziqhathaniswa nezingane ezijwayelekile.
- Abafundi abahlukumezeka kakhulu yizingane ezilahliwe , ikakhulukazi labo abanolaka. Othisha abazange bathande laba bafundi, kanti oontanga bawabona bebafundi abampofu.
- Izingane eziphikisanayo zazibonwa yiontanga njengezingane ezifanayo. Kodwa-ke, othisha babecabanga ukuthi izingane eziphikisanayo zazingekho ngaphansi kokuzimela futhi ezingaphelele kunezingane ezijwayelekile.
Lokho Kusho Ukuthini Ngaphakathi Kakho?
Ngokuvamile sicabanga ngamakhono ethu okuqonda kwengqondo nezenhlalakahle zezingane zethu ngokwahlukana. Kodwa lolu cwaningo lwama-classic lubonisa ukuthi amakhono omphakathi abonakala ehlobene kakhulu nokuphumelela kwezemfundo. Kodwa-ke, kuhlale kungacabangi ukuthi amakhono omphakathi angathonya impumelelo yabafundi noma ngokufanayo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ingane yakho ayidingi ukuba "ethandwayo" ukuba ibonakale njengomfundi oqinile - izingane ezinganakiwe ziqiniswe kakhulu ezifundweni futhi zithandwa othisha, futhi izingane ezijwayelekile zenze kahle kakhulu. Izingane kuphela ezahluleka kabi ekilasini yizo ezazingathandwa yiontanga eziningi.
Ngakho-ke, ukusebenza ekwakheni amakhono akho omphakathi wezenhlalo hhayi nje kuphela kuzobasiza emphakathini nangokomzwelo kodwa kungabenza umehluko kubo esikoleni, futhi.
Umthombo
UWentzel, uKathary R., no-Asher, uSteven R. "Ukuphila Okufundisiwe Kwezingane Ezilahliwe, Ezenqatshiwe, Ezidumile Nezingxabano." Ukuthuthukiswa kwengane ka-1995 66: 754-763.