"Umntwana olahliwe" ngumntwana oshiywe ngaphandle futhi engathandwa yontanga yakhe. Izingane ezilahliwe zingenye yezinhlobo ezinhlanu ze- sociometric , noma ontanga, izimo, uhlelo lokuhlukanisa ukuma kwengane ngokusekelwe ekuphenduleni kontanga kuleyo ngane. Abanye ontanga bangase bathande ingane enqatshiwe ngezinga elithile, kodwa ingane ingavamile uma ikhona, ebizwa ngokuthi umngane omkhulu kunoma ubani.
Izingane ezenqatshelwe zithembisa ukubonisa ezinye izinto ezihamba phambili
Izingane ezingenqatshelwe zivame ukuba nezidlova noma ukukhathazeka futhi zihoxiswe. Kunoma yikuphi, abantu abadala kufanele bathathe isikhathi ukunquma ukuthi iziphathamandla ezihlobene nokulahlwa yini imbangela yokwenqatshelwa- noma umphumela.
Abantwana abahlukumezekile bavame ukusebenzisa ukuhlukumeza ngokomzimba , amazwi, kanye / noma ukucwasana nabangane babo. Okunye noma konke lokhu kukhwabanisa kungase kuvele esimweni sokuqala sokwenqaba kontanga. Ngeshwa, noma kunjalo, ubugebengu ngokwayo buyaqhubeka futhi buyeke isikhathi eside .
Izingane ezinqatshiwe zingase zenze futhi zihoxiswe, zithule futhi zingathokozi . Ezimweni eziningi, izingane ezinjalo zihlukumeza umphakathi noma zibonakala "zihlukile." Izinkinga ezinjalo zingase zibe umphumela wesifo sokuthuthukiswa. I-Autism, i-ADHD, ukuphazamiseka okucindezelayo, ukukhathazeka komphakathi noma ukucindezeleka kungaholela ekuziphatheni okungavamile noma okuphazamisayo. Ukuhluka kungahle kubangele nezindaba ezibonakalayo ezifana nesithulu, ukuphuphuthekisa, ukukhubazeka kwesibindi, njll.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, umehluko wokuziphatha nokusetshenziswa kolimi kungabangela ukuvela kwengane evela emasikweni noma ngokobuhlanga obuhlukile kobuningi bezingane esikoleni esithile.
Ukugwema Ukulahlwa
Ezinye izingane ezinokuhlukana komuntu okukhona futhi ezingenakugwemeka zinamakhono omphakathi anomdlandla wokuthi ukungafani akusizi ngalutho.
Nokho, lokhu akuvamile neze. Uma ingane yakho inenkinga yentuthuko noma yomzimba, noma izithiyo zolimi noma zamasiko, ungamsiza ukuba alungiselele ukuxhumana komphakathi . Ukuqeqesha, abahlobo bakho, amakilasi amakhono omphakathi, namanye amasu angasiza ingane yakho ilungiselele ukuzibandakanya komphakathi esikoleni.
Sebenza kwizinkinga zokuthola izinkinga
Ungasiza futhi ingane yakho ukuba igweme ukwenqatshwa ngokusebenza naye ekuziphatheni kwezinkinga ezingabangela izinkinga. Ukuziphatha okunjalo kungafaka:
- Isisu sisondeza
- Ukukhipha i-Nose
- Ukufiphaza imicabango noma izimpendulo
- Ukunakwa-noma ukuziqhenya
- Ukuphazamisa
- Ukuqwashisa kwezenhlalakahle, okungabangela ukuphoqelela ngokuphindaphindiwe ngezihloko ezifanayo; ukushintsha isihloko kusihloko esithandwayo; ukuba isondelene kakhulu nomunye ingane; ukuthinta ezinye izingane noma wena, njll
Ukunqoba Ukwenqatshwa
Ukuze usize ingane yakho inqobe ukulahlwa, kubalulekile ukuqonda izimbangela zayo. Uma uqonda ngokugcwele-ngokusebenzisa imibiko yengane yakho , izingqungquthela zothisha, nokubona-okubangela inkinga, ungaqala ukuyibhekana ngezindlela ezilandelayo:
- Siza ingane yakho ukuba ikwazi futhi isebenze ekuqedeni ukuziphatha okukhathazayo.
- Uma ubona ingane yakho ibonisa ukuziphatha okuhle komphakathi, mdumise futhi uchaze ukuthi kungani ukuziphatha kuhle futhi kungani.
- Fundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ibuze kanjani uphendule imibuzo, yabelane phansi, futhi ukhulise izihloko ezithandekayo.
- Sebenza nomntanakho ukuze anqume amandla akhe kanye nezithakazelo zakhe, bese wakha kulawo maqhinga ngokusebenzisa ukuzibandakanya kwezinhlelo zezinhlelo zasemuva noma zomphakathi . Imisebenzi yokwakha ukuthembela efana ne-karate ingasiza kakhulu.
- Khuluma nengane yakho ngokuthi ubungane obuseduze bungabaluleke kakhulu kunokuba bathandwa futhi bamsize ukuba afunde ukuqinisa ubungane obunakho obunabo.
- Lalela ingane yakho lapho ezwa ukuthi inqatshiwe. Ukwazi ukuthi unothando olunganemibandela nokwesekwa ekhaya kungahamba ngendlela ende ekukhuliseni ukuzethemba.
> Imithombo:
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