Ukuqhuma komzwelo kuyisigaba lapho zonke izingane zihamba khona
Abazali bomntwana omusha bachitha unyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwengane yabo bekwazi imizwa yakhe. Kodwa ngokuzungeze usuku lokuzalwa lwazo lokuqala, izinsana ziqala ukujwayelana nezidakamizwa , ezingabamba ngisho nomzali onakekelayo ngokucophelela. Ingane yokuqukethwe ingahle ibe khona ngokuzumayo ekuqhumeni okugcwele njengokushintsha komshini.
Phakathi nokukhala, kubalulekile ukuba umzali ahlale ezolile, nakuba kungaba nzima.
Umsuka wezinkathazo eziningi ukukhungatheka. Kungathatha isikhathi ingane encane ukuthi ifunde indlela yokuziveza ngayo, futhi ukuxhuma phakathi kwalokho abakufunayo nokuthi yini abazama ukukusho ngokuvamile kuvame ukuqala lapho kuqhamuka umsindo.
Kubalulekile ukuba ingane yakho iqonde ukuthi uyayikhathalela ngezidingo zayo, ngakho-ke phakathi nalezi zinsizi yenza okusemandleni akho ukuphendula ngokufanele ngenkathi ugcina imingcele yokuziphatha enempilo yengane yakho.
Ngesikhathi sesithakazelo, uchwepheshe wezingane , u-Elizabeth Pantley uncoma ukuthi abazali baqale bacabange ukuthi ukudabuka ngempela kuyisimo senye into, njengokukhathala noma indlala . Ngokuvamile izinsana ezithintekayo zizokwenza, ngoba zizizwa zikhululekile.
Indlela Yokuvimbela Ama-Tantrums
Isihluthulelo sokuvimbela izidakamizwa ukukhumbula izidingo zomntanakho nokuzilindele. Nalapha, masikhulume ukuthi lokhu akulula, kanti uma umama noma ubaba ekhathele futhi edangele futhi, kunzima nakakhulu.
Indlela evivinyayo neyiqiniso yokuvimbela ukudabuka okubangelwa ukukhungatheka ukugcina ingane yakho isimiso esinqunyiwe. Isikhathi sokuvuka, isikhathi sasekuseni, isikhathi se-nap, isikhathi sokulala, njll, kufanele ulandele amaphethini afanayo njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu kubikezela kunika izingane ezincane umuzwa wokulondeka, okududuza kakhulu.
Ngezinsuku lapho wazi ukuthi isimiso sizoguquka (umkhulu nogogo bayaphazamiseka kakhulu, nakuba izinhloso zabo zivame ukuhle), zama ukuhlela ngokufanele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lokho kusho umvuzo owengeziwe wokuziphatha okuhle , noma ukuphazamiseka komntwana uma ingane ibheka .
Yiqiniso, ayikho indlela engenangqondo yokuqinisekisa ukuziphatha okuphelele ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi cishe uzobhekana nokudabuka ngesikhashana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenza kanzima kangakanani ukuwugwema. Izingane zinekhono elingavamile lokuphonsa izidlo zazo ezinkulu esitolo noma esitolo sokudlela esihle. Mane ukhumbule ukuthi uma usabela ngokwengeziwe ngokukhathazeka, ukukhungatheka noma ukuthukuthela, uma ushaya uphethiloli ngokwengeziwe uzobe ugoqa emlilweni. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuhlala uzolile, ukhuluma ngezwi eliqinile kodwa eliqabulayo. Ukuthinta ngomusa kungasiza ekunciphiseni intukuthelo yakhe. Khumbula ngalesi sikhathi, ingane yakho izodinga usizo ukuze ihlale phansi. Akuyona ikhono ayenaye okwamanje.
Enye into ebalulekile okumele uyikhumbule: Ungavumeli ingane encane noma ingane encane isebenzise izidakamizwa noma ukuziphatha okungavumelekile ukuthola lokho akufunayo. Uma uzinikela futhi uthenge ithoyizi ukuze umise ukulila okulilayo, uzobe uqinisa lokhu kuziphatha okungalungile. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho idinga isikhathi eside futhi imingcele ekuphumeni, noma kuthatha isikhathi eside ukuyihlisa, lokhu kungase kube into yokuxoxa nodokotela wakho wezingane , ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ayikho inkinga enkulu ehlobene nempilo .
Gcina Ukushisa Kwakho (Ngisho Noma Kungaba Kanzima)
Ukwengeza, ingqondo yakho ingasiza ekuthandeni indlela osabela ngayo. Yiba nethemba elifanele lokuthuthukiswa kwengane yakho. Yiba nesineke nengane yakho uma isesimweni esisha noma nabantu abasha. Sebenza nomntanakho njengoba efunda amakhono amasha futhi akwazi ukukhungatheka.
Qinisekisa ukuthi uzokunika ikhefu, futhi; abazali abaningi, ikakhulukazi abazali bokuqala, bazibeka icala noma bacabange ukuthi kuyiphutha lapho ingane yabo iqhuma. Isigaba esivamile sokuthuthukiswa kwengane yonke, futhi asihlali kuze kube phakade (nakuba ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala kungakaze kuphele).
Ngokugcina ikhanda elitholile futhi ubonise ingane yakho ukuthi uyayikhathalela ngezidingo zayo, uzobe uhamba nesimo sezulu iminyaka emihle.