Ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kungokomzimba okulula ukukwenza. Uthenga ukuhlolwa, okubizwa ngokuthi yi-pee stick, futhi kahle, uyayibheka. Akukona okunzima ukukwenza, akunjalo?
Awu, hhayi ngokushesha kakhulu lapho. Abesifazane abaningi bathola ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa ukwenza ngokomzwelo. Zinezinto eziqondile kakhulu ezingathanda ukuthi ukuhlolwa zikusho. Nakuba ukukhetha okulungile noma okungalungile kungahlukahluka kowesifazane kuze kube ngowesifazana, ukwesaba impendulo kusenjalo.
Kulabo abesaba ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okungalungile , kungenzeka kube iminyaka yokuzama ukunamathela kwimpendulo. Mhlawumbe kuningi lokuhlolwa okubizayo kokuzala. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, ukumane ufuna ukukhulelwa kukwanele ukuvusa umbuzo engqondweni yabesifazane - ingabe ngikhulelwe?
Ngaphambi kokuba uhlole, impendulo ingaba yinoma yini oyifunayo. Ungaqhubeka ucabange ukuthi ukhulelwe. Ungakwazi ukuhlela umntwana omusha empilweni yakho, ngisho nezindawo zokuhlobisa nokukhetha amagama emntanini engqondweni yakho. Lokhu kungaba mnandi futhi kuphephile. Okunye okunye, ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kunika impendulo eqondile ukuthi uthola ukuthi uhlale kuleli phupho elihle noma kufanele uphinde uphinde uhlole lapho ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kungalungile.
Mhlawumbe ukhona kwelinye ikamu, lapho ungathanda khona ukuthi ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa kubi. Lokhu kusho ukuthi umcabango wakho wukuthi awuzange ukhulelwe futhi ukuthi indlela yakho yokuphila yamanje izohlala efana.
Ngeke udinga ukukhathazeka ngobusuku bokuphumula kanye nezinsana ezikhalayo, nje uqaphele ukuthi ube endaweni yokudinga ukuhlolwa kwesinye isikhathi sokukhulelwa maduzane.
Ngakho-ke, yini ekucindezelayo ekuqedeni ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa? Ekugcineni nje ukwazi ukwazi iqiniso. Ukwazi ukuthi yiliphi ikamu owela kulo nokuthi yikuphi ukuhamba kwakho okulandelayo kuzoba khona.
Kukhona ngempela ukulimala ngokungathathi ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa uma ungafuni ukwenza okungenani ukuthi "uthathe isisu," ngokusho ukuthi ngibheke lokho okudlayo, ugweme imikhuba eyingozi, njll. Ungayifinyelela endaweni engaphephile futhi ilahlekelwe ebalulekile ukunakekelwa kokubeletha kanye nezinye izinketho ngenxa yalezizinkathazo. Ngokushesha uma uyazi ukuthi ukhulelwe, kungcono ukuthi unamakhono amaningi amaningi.
Ngakho unqoba kanjani ukwesaba futhi uqhubekele esenzweni?
Yenza uhlelo
Ukwazi ukuthi uzokwenzenjani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yimuphi umphumela wehla umqondo omuhle kakhulu. Ngisho noma kuyisimiso esifushane sokuthola umuntu ofanele ukutshela nokukhuluma ngemiphumela. Lokhu kubalulekile.
Isivivinyo Ngomdabu
Ungazami ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa yedwa. Cela umngane omuhle noma umlingani wakho ukukusiza. Ukuba nomunye wakho ukusiza ukubamba isandla sakho noma ngisho nokufunda imiphumela yokuhlola kungaba isibusiso. Kungenza inqubo yonke ibe lula.
Ungakhathazeki
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umphumela uwuphi, ukukhathazeka kuzokwenza izinto zibe zimbi nakakhulu. Buyela emuva ohlelweni lwakho oqale ngalo ekuqaleni. Khumbula ukuthi kulungile futhi ukwenza lutho kancane. Thola umuntu ongakusiza, kube ngumsebenzi othembekile, umlingani wakho, isazi. Ungase ufune ukuthi othile akhulume naye, mhlawumbe noma ngokusemthethweni, mhlawumbe ngisho kokubili.
Kwenzekani Okulandelayo?
Udinga ukubona udokotela noma umbelethisi wakho? Ingabe uzodinga ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okuqinisekisiwe? Ingabe kuzodingeka ucele ukuhlolwa noma ukwelashwa? Kunezindawo ongahamba kuzo ukuxoxa ngazo zonke izinketho zakho zokukhulelwa kwakho.
Okubalulekile ukuthi ukuhlolwa akukushintshi umphumela wokuhlolwa kokukhulelwa. Ukhulelwe noma awukho. Isikhathi sakho singabonisa. Ungase ungakhulelwa. Ungase ukhulelwe. Ukuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa akubalulekile kunoma yini enye ngaphandle kwalokho ongakulawula. Kodwa-ke, uma ukhulelwe, ukuthola ngokushesha, kuzosiza ekutholeni ukunakekelwa kokubeletha nokwenza izinqumo eziphephile kuwe nomndeni wakho.