Uzizwa uphelelwe yimithwalo yemfanelo yakho yonke? Nansi indlela yokucindezeleka
Yebo, ukushaywa kwezemidlalo komzali kuyinkinga yezwe lokuqala. Kulilungelo ukukwazi ukufaka isifiso somntwana sokuzibandakanya ngempela emsebenzini. Kodwa ukwazi lokho akusho ukuthi izinga lakho lokucindezeleka libe liphansi kakhulu njengomzali, usuku nosuku. Ngakho-ke ake sivume ukuthi lena yinhlobo yenkinga enenhlanhla, kodwa inkinga nanyana kunjalo.
Uphi Umsindo Womzali Ophuthumayo Ovela Kuyo?
Abazali bezemidlalo bangavame ukuzizwa benqanyuliwe ngezindlela eziningi, njengabo bonke abazali.
Unomthwalo wemfanelo emndenini wakho, emsebenzini wakho, nasekhaya lakho. Futhi yenza kanjalo nomlingani wakho kanye nezingane zakho. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi baxabana, njengalapho izingane ezimbili zombili zidlala umdlalo obalulekile ngosuku olufanayo. Lona iresiphi yokucindezeleka. Ngakho-ke ukuzizwa okunjengezinto zonke kusemaphethweni akho, kusukela kwimenyu yokudla kuze kube semcimbini omkhulu weqembu lokuqoqa izimali emsebenzini wesikole-ukuhlola nokuhamba. (Oh, ukushayela!)
Kukhona amahora angu-24 kuphela ngosuku, futhi singawagcwalisa kalula ngemisebenzi ehlobene nenye yezindima zethu (umzali, ingane, umsebenzi, umninikhaya, isisebenzi sokuzithandela sezemidlalo). Kodwa lokho akusimeme, kunjalo. Uma uzizwa uphelelwe amandla noma ungasebenzi, noma njengokungathi awuhle kakhulu kunoma yimuphi wemisebenzi yakho, ungase ushise. Ngakho ungabhekana kanjani nomoya onjalo-omatasa kakhulu?
Izindlela ezingu-6 Abazali bezemidlalo bangaba nomlilo
Akuyona into emnandi kunoma ubani emndenini lapho umama nobaba bekhungathekile.
Ngakho-ke bheka ukuthi ezinye zalezi zindlela zingasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezelwa-okungenani kunokwanele ukufika ekupheleni kwenkathi noma ngonyaka wesikole, lapho ungathatha umoya omkhulu.
Bhenka ngokwakho. Yep, hlala okuthile. Ingabe uhlala njalo emisebenzini yengane yakho noma izifundo (uma kwenzeka edinga okuthile noma elimaza)?
Uma unesidingo sokuphumula, zinike imvume yokudlula ezinye zalezi zenzo. Oshade naye, ugogo nomkhulu, noma omunye umzali weqembu angakunqoba. Okufanayo kuya emidlalweni ngisho nangezimpelasonto zokuhamba. Yehlisa icala futhi uthathe isikhathi esithile. Ingane yakho ngeke ikukhumbule ukuthi ulahlekelwe umcimbi (empeleni, uma umthumela nomama wakhe omthandayo noma umndeni womngani, cishe uyayithanda). Uzokhumbula uma uhlala njalo futhi unomsindo ngenxa yokuthi ushisiwe.
Uma unendima enkulu yokuvolontiya emdlalweni wengane yakho, awukwazi ukushiya wonke umuntu olenga ngokukhipha phakathi nonyaka. Kodwa ungahambisa abanye imisebenzi yakho eminye eqenjini. Cela usizo; ungacabangi ukuthi akekho ongayinika! Futhi ungakwazi ukubeka igama lelo qembu elizayo, uzodinga ukubuyela kancane ekuzinikeleni kwakho.
Thola indlebe ezwelayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumlingani wakho, umngane, isihlobo, noma ngisho nodokotela, kusiza ngempela ukuba nomuntu ongakhuluma naye ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani. Iphuzu akuzona ukuba zikusize ukucubungula izixazululo (ngaphandle uma lokho kungakusiza kuwe), kodwa ukuba ulalele nje, ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ukukhala kwakho ngokuthi uzizwa kanjani.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukukhipha ngaphandle kwakho konke okudingeka uzizwe kungcono, noma ngabe akukho lutho olushintshayo ngesimiso sakho noma imithwalo yemfanelo.
Qhubeka ne-conditioning yakho. Njengoba nje umgijimi wakho adinga ukudla ngendlela enempilo, hlala ubujamo, futhi uthole ukuphumula okwanele, kanjalo nawe. Phela, ngokuyisisekelo ugijima umncintiswano ukuze uhambe njalo ngesonto! Ngakho landela ukuhola komunye nomunye. Funa izindlela zokulingana nomsebenzi womzimba (njengokuthatha ukuhamba phakathi komkhuba wengane yakho). Ngisho noma kuyabuhlungu ukuyeka isikhathi sokuzilibazisa ngenxa yokulala, kuwufanele. Ungabuka i-TV ngenkathi yokuphumula. Futhi bedla izinzuzo zokudla okunempilo umndeni wonke.
Sika ngokwakho uma ushaya i-drive-once once, kodwa wazi ukuthi ukugxila kokudla okunomsoco kuzokusiza uzizwe ungcono, futhi ubeke isibonelo esihle kubantwana bakho.
Nciphisa ezinye izingcindezi empilweni yakho. Uma imisebenzi yezemidlalo yezingane yakho ibangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu, futhi awukwazi ukwenza okuningi ukusika labo (okungenani njengamanje), bona ukuthi kunezinye izinto ezicindezelayo ongayenza. Mhlawumbe ungathola insizakalo yokuhlanza noma insimbi, ngisho kanye nje ngesinye isikhathi, ukuthatha imisebenzi yesondlo ekhaya. Mhlawumbe kukhona iphrojekthi emsebenzini ongayilungisa kabusha noma ukuyibuyisela emuva noma ukuyiyeka. Mhlawumbe ungakwazi ukuhlela kabusha isibopho somphakathi esilandelayo sokwenza kube lula: Shintsha i-party dinner noma ikhefu lesidlo endaweni yokuphuza, isibonelo. Mhlawumbe ungaphuma emuva, noma uhlehlise, imisebenzi yokuzithandela yesikole okwamanje. Thenga ngokwakho isikhathi esincane-nje ngokwanele ukuba uchithe wena ngokwakho ukuze ulayishe kabusha.
Bond neqembu lakho. Njengomdlali, ingane yakho idinga ukuhlanganisa uxhumano oluqinile nabalingani beqembu lakhe . Wena, futhi, cishe uzomuzwa kangcono futhi ungashiswa kancane uma unokuxhumana okuhle komphakathi. Lokhu kungasho ukujulisa ubuhlobo bakho nabanye abazali bezemidlalo (okukwenza kube lula kuwe ukusizana ngaphandle). Noma kungasho ukuqiniseka ukuthi unezindawo zokungcebeleka ezisekhaya ezihlukile kwezemidlalo yomzali womhlaba. (Kusasekho lapha!)
Bheka okuhle. Esikhundleni sokuphupha mayelana nokuthi lokhu kuzophela nini, qaphela ukuthi uthola ukuthini ukubeletha okwamanje. Ukulifisa akuyona iresiphi yokuzisola nokufutheka. Akudingeki ujabulele izinto ezibusayo futhi idrama engadingekile, kodwa ungazama ukungayinaki futhi ugxile ezintweni ezinhle.