Enye yemibuzo yokuqala abantu abavame ukubuza amawele, "Ngubani owazalwa kuqala?" Uma unamawele, ungase uzibuze ukuthi kanjani noma uma umyalelo wabo wokuzalwa ubathinta kanjani.
Ukuqonda i-Order Order
Kuye kwaba nokuningi okuthakazelisayo ekutadisheni ukuhlelwa kokuzalwa kanye nomthelela walo emphakathini. Ngokuqinisekile, kulo lonke umlando, kuye kwaba nezikhathi lapho kunqunywa ukubekwa kwengane emndenini kwakubaluleke kakhulu.
Ubuzibulo bokuzalwa kwamazibulo kwakusho ithuba lokuzuza inzuzo yomndeni, ngisho nemibuso yonke, kanye nomthwalo wemithwalo yemfanelo yamalungu omndeni asele.
Ososayensi benze izifundo ezithile ezithakazelisayo ukuze bahlole indima yokuzalwa kokuzalwa ekuthuthukiseni ubuntu. Ucwaningo oluthile luchaze ukuthi izingane zokuzalwa zizinama-self-esteem kanye nama-IQ aphezulu, kuyilapho izingane ezibelethwa zivame ukukhululeka futhi zingenakuziphendulela. Kodwa-ke, ucwaningo olunzulu olwedlule luphetha ngokuthi ukuzalwa kokuzalwa akunalo umphumela ohlala njalo kumuntu, nakuba kubonakala sengathi kuthonya u-intelligence, futhi elinye iphepha lilila ukuphikelela kokuhlelwa kokuzalwa njenge "zombie theory."
Izinhlamvu ze-Adlerian Birth Order
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Alfred Adler, owayephila no-Sigmund Freud, wachaza izici ezicacile ukuze achaze ukuthi isikhundla somntwana emndenini sasizofeza kanjani ubuntu bakhe.
Ithebula elingezansi linikeza inguqulo elula yezinkolelo zakhe ezilandelwe kusuka kuwebhusayithi ye-Adler Institute:
| Isikhundla | Isimo Somndeni | Izici |
| Endala kakhulu | Uhlukunyezwa ngumntwana olandelayo. Kufanele ufunde ukwabelana. Ukulindela komzali kuvame kakhulu. Ngokuvamile kunikezwe umthwalo wemfanelo futhi kulindeleke ukuba usethe isibonelo. | Kungaba ngumbhali noma oqinile. Uzwakala amandla akhe. Kungaba usizo uma ukhuthazwa. |
| Okwesibili | Une-pacemaker, njalo umuntu ozayo. | Ingabe ukuncintisana kakhulu, ufuna ukuthatha ingane endala. Kungaba yisihlubuki noma zama ukuphuma wonke umuntu. Ukuncintisana kungahle kube yinkinga. |
| Ephakathi | Ingabe "sandwiched" in. Kwangathi uzizwa ukucindezelwa ngaphandle isikhundla ilungelo kanye nokubaluleka. | Ngisho-enomsindo, "thatha noma ushiye" isimo sengqondo. Kungaba nenkinga yokuthola indawo noma ukulwa nokungabi nabulungisa. |
| Omncane kakhulu | Unomama nobaba abaningi ezinganeni ezindala. Ungalokothi uhlelwe phansi. | Ufuna ukuba mkhulu kunezinye. Ungahlala "umntwana." Iphangwa kaningi. |
I-oda lokuzalwa namawele
Ukuzalwa kwamawele akukona ukuhlelwa ngaphambili, noma kunjalo. I-oda lokuzalwa labantwana lithathwa isikhundla sabo esibelethweni, okungashintsha phakathi nokukhulelwa. Kwezinye izimo, yikuphi umntwana ozelwe kuqala kuqala kuncike ekutheni umama uhambisa kanjani; lo myalelo ungashintshwa uma umama enesigaba saseCesarea kunokuba abelethe ngesisu.
Ngakho uchaza kanjani ukubonakaliswa kwezici zokuhlelwa kokuzalwa kubuntu beziphindaphindiwe ngabanye? Ngokuqinisekile, kunezibonelo eziningi zamasethi amabili lapho amawele amabili okuzalwa engumholi ovelele futhi owesibili ozalwa ngumlandeli ohlukumezekile.
Okushiwo Abachwepheshe
Ngeshwa, azikho ucwaningo oluningi olutholakala kulokhu. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe abaningi bezokubeletha bavuma ukuthi amawele ajwayele ukuzihlela ngokuvumelana nendawo yawo yonke emndenini. Isibonelo, uma banezingane zakudala, bobabili bazobonisa izici zokuzalwa kwesibili. Uma bebadala kunabo bonke, bazothola ezinye izici zezibulo. Izazi zengqondo zivuma ukuthi amawele avame ukushintshanisa ukubusa kuzo zonke izimpilo zabo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela bangase bahambisane phakathi kwezigaba zokuzalwa.
Ngaphandle kwezici zobuntu, umthelela wokuhlelwa kokuzalwa ngokuphindaphindiwe cishe kunomqondo ongaphezu kweqiniso, ikakhulukazi ngokucwaninga kwezifundo zamuva.
Abazali beziphindaphindiwe, kanye nomphakathi, basebenzisa izilingo zokuziphatha ngokusekelwe ezimisweni zokuzalwa zendabuko; ekuphenduleni, izingane ezizimele ziziphatha ngokugcwaliseka kwalezo zilindelwe.
Isiprofetho Esizigcwalisayo
Isibonelo, umama angase acabange, "O, Twin A wazalwa kuqala. Uhlale eqala ukwenza konke. Nguye owokuqala ukukhwela, futhi uzoba ngowokuqala ukuhamba naye!" Ulindele ukuthi indodana yakhe eyizibulo idodakazi lihambe phambi kukadadewabo futhi ichitha isikhathi esiningi ukuqeqesha nokukhuthaza le ndodakazi kulekhono. Ekuphenduleni esiprofethweni sakhe esizigcwalisayo, i-Twin A iyahamba kuqala ngokwemvelo.
Njengoba amawele ekhula, abazali babo balindela "izibulo" zabo ukuba bafune udadewabo "osemncane", bamise i-Twin A enendima ebalulekile ebuhlotsheni, futhi bavuselele ubuntu bakhe obuntwini ekubunjweni komntwana omdala.
Iseluleko sabazali beziNingi
Abazali beziphindaphinda banomthwalo wemfanelo obalulekile wokukhuthaza ubuntu babo ngabanye ngaphandle kwezinga lokuzalwa. Ukufeza lokhu, bangakwenza lokhu okulandelayo:
- Yamukela isethi esinqumayo, engathathi hlangothi yezilindelwe ezizovumela ingane ngayinye ukuba ifeze ubuntu bayo
- Gwema ukulandelana kokuhleleka kokuzalwa
- Nciphisa ukubaluleka kokuhlelwa kokuzalwa; uma kunesidingo, khetha ukungahloniphi ukuzalwa kwe-multiples
- Khubaza abanye, kufaka phakathi umndeni osondelene, othisha, kanye nabantu abangabazi, ngokugcizelele ukubaluleka kokulawulwa kokuzalwa
> Imithombo:
> Damian RI, uRoberts BW. Ukusetha ukuphikisana ku-oda lokuzalwa nobuntu. Izinqubo ze-National Academy of Sciences yase-United States of America . I-National Academy of Sciences. Novemba 17, 2015: 112 (46): 14119-14120. doi: 10.1073 / pnas.1519064112.
> Rohrer JM, Egloff B, uSmukle SC. Ukuhlola Imiphumela Yokwenza Ukuzalwa Ngomuntu. Izinqubo ze-National Academy of Sciences yase-United States of America . I-National Academy of Sciences. Novemba 17, 2015: 112 (46): 14224-14229. doi: 10.1073 / pnas.1506451112.
> Stein HT. I-Adlerian Uhlolojikelele lwezinhlamvu zokuzalwa.