Izinto Ezinzima Kakhulu Ukuba Namawele

Izinselele Ezinkulu Kakhulu Ngokuphathelene Nokubeletha Amawele

Phinda ujabule kabili. Isibusiso kabili. Ukuzijabulisa kabili. Ukuba namawele ngokuqinisekile kuyinkolelo ephindwe kabili yenjabulo, kodwa abazali bamawele bayavuma ukuthi akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kukhona izinselele nakanjani uma unamawele. Lolu hlu luhlola ezinye zezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke mayelana nokuba namawele, kusukela ekukhulelwe kuze kube yilabo abasha.

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Ukukhulelwa okunzima

Yeka ukuthi kunenhlanhla kanjani, ukukhulelwa okukodwa okuveza izingane ezimbili! Kulungile? Nakuba kunezinzuzo kokukhulelwa okubili kokubili, kukhona nemiphumela emibi kakhulu engabonisa ukuthi ayijabulisi. Ezinye zezimpawu ezivamile zokukhulelwa ziphakanyiswa ngamawele, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukukhulelwa kwamabili kuletha izinkinga ezingezinhle. Izingozi ezikhulayo zenza ukukhathazeka nokwesaba isimo esibucayi ngokomzimba. Yingakho, kusukela ekuqaleni, ukukhulelwa kungenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke mayelana namawele.

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Ukungabi nokulala

Yawn! Abazali abaningi abanama-bley bayavuma ukuthi ukungabikho kokulala kuyinto engafanele kunazo zonke zokuba namawele amantombazane. Noma yikuphi ukuzalwa okusha kungase kugcine amahora angaqondakali, kodwa ukulinganisa izidingo zamantombazane amabili asho ukuthi ukulala kuyinto encane kubazali bamawele. Ukukhathala okwenyama kubangela isimo esicindezelekile kakade njengoba abazali befunda ukubhekana nezinsana eziningi . Kunzima ngokwanele ukuba usebenze uma uphumule kahle, kodwa abazali bamawele kufanele bafunde ukusinda ngezibhamu zokulala ezilinganiselwe emaminithini kunamahora.

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Ukuthola Isikhathi Sodwa Ngesinye

Ingabe kukhona okwanele ukuba ngihambe nxazonke? Lapho izingane zifika ngezikhathi ezincane, abazali bangathola izindlela zokuzibandakanya nabo ngabanye. Kodwa ababelethi bamawele bavame ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngokuthi basuke bashintsha isikhathi esifushane, okumele bahlanganyele uthando lwabo nokunakekelwa kusukela ngesikhathi bazalwa ngaso. Izidingo zempilo yanamuhla zishiya isikhathi esanele sokwenza imisebenzi yomndeni, amathuba amancane angenamkhawulo wokusebenzisana ngomunye nomntwana ngamunye. Noma kunjalo, ukunaka okukhethekile kubalulekile ukuphindaphinda njengoba behlakulela ubunikazi babo. Inecala ingenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke mayelana namawele.

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Ukuphathwa

Uma kuphela abazali bamawele bangase babe ezindaweni ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa! Ngezandla ezimbili kuphela, kunezikhathi lapho kungenakwenzeka ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomabili amawele ngesikhathi esifanayo. Iqala ezinsukwini zokuqala ze-twinfancy, nezinsana ezimbili ezidinga ukondliwa, zigubha, futhi zashintshwa ngesikhathi esifanayo. Izinselele ziyaqhubeka njengeziphindaphindwa zihamba futhi zingenakuqukethwe. Kodwa akupheli lapho. Njengoba amawele ekhulela futhi ehileleka emisebenzini, ukuphathwa kokuhlelwa kwamashejuli amabili ngesikhathi esisodwa kungaba nzima kakhulu. (Ubusuku bokubuyela esikoleni kungaba yindlala ethile lapho amawele ehlangothini ehlukene !) Enye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke kubazali bamawele asebasha kuyisithuthi esiphambene nedolobha ukuya esikoleni nasemiphakathini yomphakathi.

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I-squabbling

Wonke umuntu uthatha ukuthi amawele angcono kakhulu. Ngenkathi, ngokujwayelekile, kungenzeka ukuthi kunjalo, abazali bamawele bangavame ukuhlanganyela ohlangothini oluhlukile lendaba . Ukuncintisana phakathi kwamawele kuqala ngokumangazayo empilweni, futhi izigubhu zingase zibe namandla kakhulu. Umjikelezo oqhubekayo wokulwa nokuphikisana ngumthwalo kwabazali. Abazali abaningi bayavuma, ukuqhuma nokuncintisana phakathi kwamawele kuyingxenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke ngokuphathelene nabazali.

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Ukuba Fair and Equal

Njengoba nezingane ezimbili zineminyaka efanayo, kunezingcindezi eziningi kubazali ukugcina konke kuqhathaniswa. Okwenzayo owodwa, kufanele ukwenze komunye. Ufuna ukuba babe nokufinyelela okulinganayo ezinsizeni namathuba. Futhi ngokuvamile ufuna ukuphika ukubukeka kokudlala izintandokazi noma ukunikeza iwele elilodwa kunenzuzo ngaphezu kwesinye. Kungaba umzamo wokuqeda amandla, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi wonke umuntu uthatha isikhathi sakhe, uthola ukunyakaza okulinganayo kanye nesabelo esilinganayo. Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali bazama kangakanani, abakwazi ukuphumelela ekupheleleni; ukuphila nje akulungile.

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Ubuntu

Ubuhlobo bomabili buhlukile futhi buyinkimbinkimbi. Amawele ngamabili, kodwa nawo ayingxenye yezinhlangothi ezimbili ezinamandla. Abazali basolwa ngokubakhulisa njengabantu ngabanye, kodwa izwe lifuna ukubona izingane zabo njengezibekwe. Ukuqhathaniswa nokuqhathaniswa kuvela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi, futhi abazali kufanele bahlome izimo zabo ukuze bangahambisani nezici zomntwana ngokulandelayo. Abazali kufanele bakhuthaze amaqembu abo amawele, kodwa akusiyo njalo ukuthi iyayifeza kanjani. Izinqumo zinzima futhi kukhona ukugxeka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ingabe kuhle ukuwagqoka ngokufanayo ? Ugcine nabo ekilasini elifanayo ? Khuthaza ubungane obuhlukile? Babize ngokuthi "amawele"? Ukukhulisa amawele njengabantu ngabanye kungenye yezinto ezinzima kunabo bonke.

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I-Mess

Uyazi isisho esidala, "Amakhanda amabili angcono kuneyodwa"? Ngokusobala lokho kubonakala sengathi kuyinkimbinkimbi nezimpikiswano zabo. Lapho ingane eyodwa ingaba khona ukuhlukumeza, lapho uthola amawele amabili ndawonye, ​​izidakamizwa zazo zingaba mkhulu. Ngokusiza izandla ukwabelana ngomsebenzi kanye nesibindi kukhuthazwa ngokukhuthaza izingane zakubo, abazali beziphindaphindiwe kumele balungele ukubhekana nesabelo sabo sezinhlekelele.

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Izimo zesikhathi esisodwa

Kunezici eziningi ezinzima zokubeletha. Kunezikhathi ezinzima nezigaba zokuzama. Into enzima ngokuba namawele ukuthi abazali kumele bahlangabezane nezikhathi ezinzima kakhulu nezingane ezimbili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Masikhulume ukuqeqesha , ukuqeqeshwa kwamanzi , umsebenzi wesikole , ukukhulelwa, ukushayela kwentsha, ukuthandana. Abazali kufanele bahlukanise phakathi kwazo zombili izingane, bahlukanise izindlela zabo (kwezinye izimo) ezinkingeni, futhi bathole izixazululo ngabanye. Ngisho nasezikhathi ezinhle, lezi zindabuko zabiwe futhi kungaba nzima ukunambitheka nokuqonda izikhathi ezithile. Izinsuku zokuzalwa , usuku lokuqala lwesikole, ukugqugquzela, ukuphothula iziqu kuzo zonke izenzakalo ezabiwe.

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Ukucwaswa kwababili

Esinye sezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu zokubeletha sibona ingane yakho ibuhlungu noma idumazekile. Futhi ngenkathi amawele ejwayele ukuzitholela abazuzi bezimpahla kanye nezidakamizwa ngenxa yesimo sabo samawele, ngezinye izikhathi nabo babhekene nokucwaswa. Kungenzeka ukuthi bangabandakanyi emisebenzini noma banganakiwe ngamathuba atholakala kuma-singletons. Ezinye zezinselele zokukhula ziyanzima kumawele. Ekugcineni, wonke amawele azobhekana nokudumazeka uma umuntu engamenyiwe emcimbini noma emcimbini. Bangase bahlukane nezimo zomphakathi noma babe nobunzima nabangane . Amanye amawele angamahloni okuhleka noma ukuxhashazwa. Lezi zinkinga ezinzima zingenye yezinselele eziningi ezinganeni zamawele.

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