Ukubhekana Nokuphikisana Nokulwa Phakathi Kwamawele - Amasu Abazali
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Nginamantombazane amancane afanayo afanayo azoba amathathu maduzane. Bamba futhi benga kancane, kodwa ngokuvamile bayaluma, bayabetha, bawa, futhi balwe nakho konke. Ngisho noma benesitokisi esifanayo, ngamunye ufuna ukuthi udadewabo unjani. - Mindy
"Ngine B / G 22M amawele amadala. Ukulwa njalo, nendodakazi yami ilanga indodana yami kakhulu, ngicabanga ukuthi iyamesaba! Ngiye ngazama ukuphuma, ukushaya, nokushaya futhi akukho lutho olubonakala lusebenza." - Amama ama-b / g amawele
"Nginamawele amantombazane ahamba ngo-5 ngo-december. ... Ajwayele ukulwa ekhaya kodwa manje inkinga isesikoleni. ... Nakuba behlukanisiwe, ukudlala isikhathi kuyafana. Uma umuntu edlala nezinye izingane ... owesibili uthola umhawu ... Ngikhulume okuningi nabo kodwa akukho lutho olusebenzayo ... .ngabe uhlukanisa izingane ezimbili ezihlala endlini efanayo? Zifuna ukudla, ukuphuza, ukudlala, njll, OKUNYE ... kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuphi! " - f
"Sinabantwana abayisishiyagalolunye, omncane kunamantombazane amabili afanayo afana neminyaka engu-2/2 ubudala. Isikhathi sethu esidala kunazo zonke sineminyaka engu-24, ngakho-ke siye sahamba nge-lol eningi kodwa akekho omunye wezingane zethu owake waphonana, kancane, njll. Amawele amathande kakhulu futhi ayethandana kakhulu kodwa abamba, aphikisisa, ashaya, aphonsa izinto komunye nomunye. ... Ngiyaqhubeka ngiqondisa futhi ngizama ukubayala ngokuziphatha okungalungile futhi ngibavuza ngokuhle. Kuyakhathaza! Ngezinye izikhathi ngizizwa sengathi ngeke ngiphile ngayo. " - Julie
Ubuhlobo phakathi kwamawele nama-multiples nakanjani kuyinkimbinkimbi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, babusiswa ngabalingani abakhelwe ngaphakathi . Noma kunjalo nazo zihambisana nokuqhathanisa njalo nokuncintisana. Njengoba nje kunoma yiluphi ubudlelwane, kuzoba nezikhathi zothando, izikhathi zothando, nezikhathi zokungezwani nokungavumelani.
Impi phakathi kwama-multiples ingaba kakhulu kakhulu. Iziqu eziningi zivame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ndawonye kunezakwethu zendabuko; bangabelana ngekamelo , babe nabangane abafanayo, futhi bavame ebangeni elifanayo. Bangase babe seklasini elifanayo . Ngaphandle kwe- oda lokuzalwa elinamandla ukusetha imingcele yemvelo, kumele basebenze kanzima ukuthola ubumfihlo nobunikazi.
Ngokuyinhloko, amawele kanye nokuphindaphinda kungenzeka ajabulele ukuba ndawonye, kodwa kuzoba nezikhathi zenkinga. Ngokuvamile, iqala ngokusemncane, lapho izingane ezincane zingenalo ikhono lokuxhumana ukuze ziveze imizwa nezifiso zazo futhi esikhundleni salokho zilahlekelwe ngokomzimba. Bangase balume noma badonse izinwele ze-co-multiple yabo.
Kunezinyathelo eziningi zokuphatha ukungqubuzana phakathi kwama-multiples. Yini ephumelelayo emndenini owodwa awusizo kakhulu komunye. Kodwa kuneziqondiso ezithile eziyisisekelo ongazivumelanisa nazo futhi uguqule ngokusekelwe eminyakeni yobudala bakho nezimo zakho.
Indlela Yokusingatha Amadodakazi Ukulwa
Isu elilodwa ukusebenzisa ukungathathi hlangothi . Gwema umqondo wokukhetha ngokusebenzisa izinhlelo ezingathathi hlangothi zokusungula imithetho nemihlahlandlela emndenini wakho. Isibonelo, amashadi okuqasha angabona futhi alandele imithwalo yemfanelo yengane ngayinye. Ukubhala ikhodi noma ukulayishwa kwelebula kuyakha ubunikazi bezimpahla zokunciphisa ama-squabbles.
Phenduka ngezinsuku zeviki ukuqoka amalungelo noma ukuhlela amahlelo, isibonelo, i-Twin A iya kuqala ngisho nezinsuku futhi i-Twin B iya kuqala ngezinsuku ezingajwayelekile.
Yazisa futhi uqinisekise imizwa ; ukulahla ukuziphatha okubi, hhayi umuntu. Xoxa nge-multiples yakho ukucacisa imizwa ngemuva kokuziphatha. Bazisize ukuba benze ukuziphatha okuhlukile ukufeza imigomo yabo. "Ube nomhawu ngodadewabo ngoba wayesebenzisa ithoyizi oyifunayo? Kuyaqondakala ukuba nomhawu, kodwa akulungile ukukhipha ithoyizi kuye. Kunalokho, ungambuza ukuthi uzokwabelana nawe uma eseqedile? "
Hlela ukulindela kwenhlonipho phakathi kwamalungu omndeni; unikeze udumo uma kuboniswa, futhi isiyalo nemiphumela efanele uma iphulwa.
Yakha imingcele ukuze unikeze amathuba obumfihlo nempahla.
Dala imvelo ephephile ukungavumelani okunempilo ngokulalela kokubili amaqembu nokuphendula.
Sebenzisa isikhathi sokuphuma , kokubili izingane nezinhloso zokungavumelani kwazo. Uma bekulwela ithoyizi, beka ithoyizi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi baze bakwazi ukwenza ilungiselelo lokudlala ndawonye noma bahlanganyele. Ngezinye izikhathi, ukuqhuma kubangelwa ngoba izimpande zidinga ikhefu kusuka komunye nomunye. Noma kunjalo, abakwazi njalo ukuchaza lesi sidingo. Ukubumbana kakhulu kunzima kunoma ubani! Lapho ukulwa kuqhuma, uhlukanise. Thumela ukuba ahlukanise amakamelo noma amakamelo ahlukene. Hlela izinsuku ezihlukene zokudlala bese uchitha isikhathi ngasinye ngomntwana ngamunye. Ukuphuma isikhathi kungaba yithuluzi futhi akudingeki kube yisijeziso.
Ngenelela kancane. Yenza njengomlamuleli uma kunesidingo, kodwa vumela izimpande zakho ukuxazulula izingxabano phakathi kwabo.
Gcina umbono. Le "ezimbili" izodlula. Ukungqubuzana kwesibindi kuvamile futhi ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza. Naphezu kokuhlukumeza kubangela manje, cishe bayokhula bebe besondelene kakhulu. Futhi bazofunda amakhono okuxoxisana endleleni.
Imicabango yokuvala
Okokugcina, khulula isiqu sakho somzali ukugcina konke okulungile nokulingana phakathi kwe-multiples yakho. Kuyinto engenakwenzeka, kodwa iphethini elula kakhulu ukungena lapho ukuphindaphinda kwabazali. Kusukela ekuqaleni, uzizwa unyanzelekile ukuba "wenze okukodwa, wenze okunye." Nakuba lokho kungase kunengqondo lapho unakekela izingane ezisanda kuzalwa, ngokushesha kuba umthwalo futhi kubeka ngokungafanele izimpande zakho ngokulindela ilungelo. Ngenkathi ubathanda ngokulingana, impilo ngeke iphatheke ngokulinganayo. Izingane zidinga ukuqonda ukuthi kuzoba nezimo lapho umuntu ethola izinzuzo ngaphezu komunye, kodwa ukuthi amatafula azophendukela ngesikhathi.