Emqondweni womphakathi jikelele, isithombe se-twinship sisekelwe ekufaneni ngokomzimba. Abantu abaningi balindele ukubona amawele abhekana ngokufanayo nomunye nomunye, kuhlanganise nokukhethwa kwabo kokugqoka. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungaba yinkinga ebucayi kubazali beziphindaphindiwe. Ingabe kufanele bagqoke amawele abo ngezigqoko ezifanayo noma zokuxhumanisa? Noma ingabe inomphumela omubi ekuthuthukiseni kwezingane zabo njengabantu ngabanye?
Ingabe ukugqoka amawele kufana "ukwenza" noma "ungenzi"?
Ngokuqinisekile, akekho umzali okufanele aphoqe izimpande zabo ukuba zigqoke ngendlela efanayo uma zingathandi, ikakhulu uma izingane zikhulile ngokwanele ukuze zibonise ukungathandi kwazo. Kodwa izinsana nezinsana zingenye indaba futhi ngabazali balawo mawele amancane nezintathu ezingenakuphika ukuthi zizobhekana nalolu daba ngandlela-thile. Ngenye yezinkinga ezibhekene nabazali bamawele .
Kungani Kukwenza?
Okokuqala, kulula kakhulu ukugqoka izingane ezincane ngokufanayo; Abazali abaphelile abanamawele abanalo ikhono lokuzikhethela ukukhetha izingubo ezimbili - okungenani izingubo ezimbili ngobukhulu obufana nobulili, izinga lokushisa, umsebenzi, nesitayela esifanele izenzakalo zosuku! Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuhle. Kuyajabulisa. Igubha ubuhlobo babo obukhethekile njengamawele. Futhi ngokuqinisekile senza izithombe ezinhle!
Ucwaningo
Angizange ngihlangabezane nocwaningo oluthile olubonisa ukuthi ukugqoka ngokufanayo kuye kwaveza noma yimuphi umphumela omubi kumawele.
Kodwa-ke abaningi abanokholo kwengqondo bancoma ngokumelene nabo kubafisa abafisa ukugcizelela abantu ngabanye. Isibonelo, uNancy Segal, umbhali we- Entwined Lives uthe "Ngiyakholwa ukuthi kulungile, ngezinye izikhathi. Angizange ngiphakamise nakancane amawele angamazwe. Amawele angama-ahlukene ayinkinga ehlukile.
Akufanele sifinyelele ekugcineni lapho kuncike kuwo ukuze banakekele. "
Abacwaningi bayavuma ukuthi eminyakeni yokuqala kuyisikhathi esibaluleke kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni amakhono okuqonda kwengane. Abaphikisi bokugqoka ngokufanayo baphikisa ukuthi kuphazamisa umqondo wengane yokuzibonakalisa ngisho nangasemncane kakhulu.
Ucwaningo olungahlelekile olwenzile - ngokuyisisekelo ukucela amaqoqo amasha amawele ukuthi bazizwa kanjani ngalolu daba - kubonisa ukuthi akuyona into enkulu kakhulu ngaphandle kokuba amawele aphoqeleke ukuba agqoke ngokufanayo uma esekhulile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abakhumbuli, babengacabangi, noma babecasuliwe ngobumnene abazali babo ukuzigqoka ngokufanayo njengezingane ezincane.
Ukwenza Isinqumo
Ekugcineni, ayikho impendulo efanele noma engalungile embuzweni wokugqoka ngokufanayo. Ngemuva kweminyaka emithathu noma ngaphezulu, izingane zingakwazi ukuveza umbono wazo ngale ndaba. Bangase bakhethe ukugqoka ngendlela efanayo, bahlanganyele ngendlela efanayo yokugqoka noma bajabulele ukufanekisela isimo sabo esiyingqayizivele njengamawele. Noma, bangase bafise ukuveza ubuntu babo ngokudala isitayela sabo.
Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, abazali kufanele bahambe nenketho abazizwa bekhululekile kubo.
Ezinye Izinketho
- Sebenzisa ukuxhumanisa izingubo kunokuba uqhathanise: khetha izingubo ezifanayo kodwa ngemibala ehlukene.
- Sebenzisa izingubo ezifanayo ukukhumbula izikhathi ezikhethekile noma izithombe; sigqoke izingane ngokuhlukile ngemisebenzi yansuku zonke.
- Qinisekisa ukuthi ugqoka izingane ngokuhlukile ezimweni lapho ufuna ukuqiniseka khona abanye abantu (okungukuthi, othisha, abazali, izihlobo) bangabahlukanisa.