Le ndlela yokuqeqeshwa kokulala kwengane inegxeki nabaphikisi
Ingabe kufanele uvumele ingane yakho "ikhala" ngezinye izikhathi ukuze ulale? Lesi sihloko esixoxisana kakhulu phakathi kwabazali nabachwepheshe bokubeletha, kanti impendulo elula yilezi: Ayikho impendulo elula. Bonke abantwana nabo bonke abazali bahlukile, futhi ukulindela indlela eyodwa yokusebenza kubo bonke kungenzeka ukuthi akunangqondo.
Abazali abaningi baye balwela indlela yokufundisa kangcono ingane yabo indlela yokulala.
Njengezinto eziningi ekubelethweni, kungukulinganisela okunzima ukushaya. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uyazi ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi abantwana bakudinga nje, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngezinye izikhathi udinga ukulala, futhi ingane ayifuni kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lwephethini.
Ukwehla kokulala kunemiphumela yingozi kakhulu kubo bobabili bobabili kanye nobaba, nakho konke okuvela ekukhuliseni ingozi yokucindezeleka emva kokubeletha ukukhuluphala. Ukuntula ukulala kuyisisusa esikhulu kwabanye abazali ukuzama ukukhala ngendlela yokuqeqesha. Futhi nakuba uvumela ingane ukuba ikhale ngokwabo ukulala yindlela ehlangene nokugxeka, ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuthi ukulila kungasiza izingane zifunde ukulala ngaphezulu ebusuku.
Indlela Yokulila
Indlela 'yokulila' indlela yokuqeqesha ukulala, kusho izinto ezahlukene kubantu abahlukene, kodwa ngokuvamile, kusho ukubeka ingane yakho elele ukuphaphama futhi imvumele ukuba akhale isikhathi esibekiwe ngaphambi kokuncenga ingane.
Esicwaningweni esabheka izinhlobo ezahlukene zokuqeqesha okulala, i-American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) ibiza le ndlela yokuqothula ukuphothula okuphelile, okusho "ukuphothula iziqu" ngenani lezikhathi umzali avumela umntwana ukuba akhale ngaphambi kokungena ukuze abathulise.
Kule ndlela, ngobusuku bokuqala kungathatha imizuzu engu-10 ukuze ingane yakho ikwazi ukuzibamba, kanti ngobusuku bokubili, kungathatha isikhathi esincane.
Umgomo wokulililela ukufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ivuselele ukulala ngaphandle kwakho, ukuze phakathi nokuvuswa okungenakugwema ebusuku (ngoba kuyinto evamile ukuba izingane zivuke ebusuku, ngisho noma zingadingi lutho) angabuyela emuva alele yena. Le ndlela ibuye ivumele abazali ukuba balale izingane ukuba balale ngokushesha futhi kalula ngaphandle kwamahora wokudla noma ukufunda noma ukugubha.
Ukuphumelela Kokulila
Abagqugquzeli bokulikhalisa bafunga ukuthi kusebenza. Nakuba kungase kube nzima ngobusuku bokuqala noma ezimbili, emva kokukhubazeka kokuqala, izinsana zifunda ukulala kangcono zodwa. Ucwaningo lwe-AAP luye lwathola ukukhala kwalo indlela yokusebenza. Ngokwesilinganiso, izinsana ezikhalayo iqembu lilele amaminithi angu-20 ubude kunanoma yiziphi ezinye izinsana ekucwaningweni. Lokhu kungase kuzwakale njengento encane, kodwa sikuqinisekisa, ngombono wanoma yimuphi umzali olahlekelwe ukulala, imizuzu engama-20 akuyona into yokukhipha. Imizuzu engamashumi amabili yokulala okungaphezulu ingase ibe amahora angu-20 uma ungumzali omusha.
Ukulikhala Akuyona Inhlekelele Kubantwana
Abacwaningi abatholanga nje ukuthi indlela yokukhala iphumelela njengendlela yokusiza izingane zilele isikhathi eside, kodwa empeleni, kwakungeyona eyingozi ezinganeni.
Ucwaningo lwalinganisa izinga lokucindezeleka kwengane ngokusebenzisa amahomoni kanye nokubona komama ngaphambi, ngemuva, nangonyaka kamuva, ukuze uqiniseke futhi uthole ukuthi izingane azibonanga imiphumela emifushane noma yesikhathi eside okungeyona embi ekulileni.
Ngakho kufanele uzame ukumemeza indlela yakho nengane yakho? Njengomzali, uyazi ukuthi ingane yakho idinga yini futhi uma ucabangela ukusebenzisa indlela yokukhala, khumbula ukuthi ukulila akusho ukuthi ushiye ingane encane kakhulu ukumemeza amahora kuphela ekamelweni lakhe.
Ukukhala kwakho kudinga ukuthi kube yisici esilawulwayo sokuqeqeshwa kokulala okubika zonke izidingo zomntanakho, kuhlanganise nokuqinisekisa ukuthi uyondliwe, udidekile, uhlehliwe kahle, futhi ukhululekile ngaphambi kokuba usebenzise.
Kumele uqiniseke ukuthi ungabona ingane yakho, ngakho-ke faka imali yokuqapha ividiyo enhle futhi qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulala nokuqeqeshwa, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ulandela izincomo zokulala zokuphepha .
Imithombo:
Gradisar, M., Jackson, K. Spurrier, NJ, Gibson, J., Whitham, J., Williams, A., Dolby, R., Kennaway, D. (2016, Meyi). Ukungenelela kokuziphatha kwezinkinga zokulala ezisencane: Isivivinyo Esilawulwe Ngokungahleliwe. I-Pediatrics , e20151486. Ibuyiselwe kusuka ku- http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2016/05/21/peds.2015-1486