Le nqubo yengqondo ngokuvamile ivela ngesikhathi esincane
Ukucabanga komlingo kubantwana noma kubantu abadala kusho inqubo yengqondo lapho umuntu axhumanisa khona isenzo noma umcimbi kwesinye isenzo noma umcimbi ongahlangani ngokuphelele. Izazi zengqondo ngezinye izikhathi zixhuma izinkolelo nezinkolelo-mqondo ekucabangeni kwemilingo ngoba lezi zithethe zisikisela ukuthi izenzo abantu ziholele emiphumeleni ethile, ngisho noma leyo miphumela ingathinteki neze umcimbi wokuqala.
Leli gama elithi "qeda ukuphahlazeka, uphule umama wakho" kuyisibonelo esihle salolu hlobo lokucabanga.
Ukucabanga Ngomlingo Ezinganeni Kuyinto Ejwayelekile Yokuthuthukiswa
Nakuba ukucabanga kwemilingo kubhekwa njengento evamile ezinganeni. Kubantu abadala, ukucabanga ngemilingo ngezinye izikhathi kuhlotshaniswa nokugula okucindezelayo okucindezelayo.
Izingane ziqala ukwenza ukucabanga kwemilingo ngesikhathi seminyaka encane. Lolu hlobo lokucabanga lungabangela ezinye izingane ukuba zikholelwe ukuthi isinyathelo esithile esithathayo siyobathinta izwe elibazungezile. Isibonelo, ingane ingase icabange ukuthi ukudla kudla okuhle kuphela uma uyidla ngekhasi elibomvu noma ukuthi ukubambelela ngokuqinile kwengubo yakhe kuzogcina izilo zingekho ngesikhathi sokulala.
Njengoba izingane kulesi sigaba sentuthuko ziyi-egocentric, sezivele zikholelwa ukuthi izenzo zabo zithinta ngokuqondile imicimbi ebazungezile. Ukucabanga ngemilingo kungase kukhulise lokhu kuqonda. Ingane yakho ingase icabange, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi ukuphenya emibuthanweni kuyokwenza ukuthi umbukiso wakhe wethelevishini uyenze ngoba lapho ehlunga emibuthanweni kanye ngaphambi kokuba umbukiso ufike.
Ukuqeda
Ukucabanga komlingo kungase kuholele nabancane ukuba bagweme izimo ezithile noma balwe nemigomo emisha. Uma ingane yakho encane eqeqeshwe yangasese, ngokwesibonelo, inqaba ukusebenzisa ubuthi emini , ungase ubheke izinkomba ukuthi uhlobanise nobumbulu esikoleni ngento engathandeki, nakuba kungenakho ukuxhumana okunengqondo phakathi kwalaba ababili.
Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuphula lezi zinhlangano emqondweni wengane yakho ngoba engakwazi ukucabanga ngalesi simo ngokulinganayo. Ngakho-ke, kungase kudingeke ukuba ulinde kuze kube yilapho ingane yakho ikhohlwa "umthetho" owakucabangayo phakathi kwalaba ababili noma uze ubheke izindlela zokwehliswa. Ukuncintisana kumele kunikeze ukuguquguquka okungafanele kuhambisane nomthetho wemilingo ingane eyidalile engqondweni yakhe, njengokuletha amanzi emakhaya ukuze asetshenziselwe ukunakekelwa kwesikhashana.
Ukufaka phezulu
Uma ingane yakho eneminyaka eyishumi nesithupha ubudala iqala ukucabanga ngemilingo, akufanele kube isizathu sokukhathazeka okukhulu. Bhekisela njengengxenye evamile yentuthuko encane. Uma amaphethini okucabanga kwengane aqala ukuphazamisa imizila - isikhathi sokudla, isikhathi sesikoleni, isikhathi sokulala - kuzodingeka ufike ngezindlela ezithile zokulwa nokucabanga okunjalo.
Isibonelo, ungabonisa ingane ekholelwa ukuthi ukuphenya emibuthanweni kuyokwenza ukuthi umbukiso wakhe we-TV ozithandayo ufike ukuthi lolu hlelo luhlala njalo emini ngoMgqibelo. Ungakwazi futhi ukudala ukuyekethisa okuvumela ingane ukuba iqhube imikhuba yansuku zonke naphezu kokucabanga kwakhe kwemilingo.