Ubuhle nobubi
Ukwamukelwa okuvulekile ngumndeni wokuthobela kanye nokugcinwa komndeni wokuzalwa ukuxhumana ukuze kuzuze ingane. Othintana naye ekuthomeleni okuvulekile kungasho izinto ezehlukene emindenini ehlukene njengoba othintana naye angabuka ezincwadini nakuma-imeyili kumakholi wefoni noma ukuvakashelwa okuvamile. Konke kugxila kubantu abadala ukudala uhlelo oluhambisana nezidingo zomuntu kanye nokulindela.
Ukwamukelwa okuvulekile kungalungiswa ekutholeni okufuywayo okubandakanya ukunakekelwa kwabantwana. Ukuxhumana komndeni wokuzalwa kungabandakanya abazali bokuzalwa, ugogo nomkhulu, kanye / noma izingane zakubo. Kuye kwaba namacala okuvulwa okuvulekile emazweni omhlaba.
Lapho Ukukhululwa Okuvulekile Akuyona Into Ehle
Kunezikhathi lapho ukutholwa okuvulekile akuyona into enhle yengane ngenxa yezindaba zokuphepha. Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka ekutholeni izingane zokunakekela izingane. Uma unenkinga enzima okwenza isinqumo ngokuthi ukhethe ukutholwa okuvulekile, thintana nochwepheshe, njengesisebenzi senhlalakahle noma ochwepheshe owazi kahle umndeni wakho.
Njengoba kunjalo ngezinqumo eziningi empilweni, kunezinzuzo nezindleko ekukhetheni ukutholwa okuvulekile.
Izinzuzo
- Izimpendulo Zemibuzo Emibi - Njengoba umtholampilo uzoxhumana nomndeni wokubeletha, ngeke abe nomuzwa wokuthi "ucezu olulahlekile" empilweni yakhe njengabanye abamamukelayo bachaza. Uyophinde abe nethuba lokubuza umbuzo omkhulu, "kungani ngabekwa khona ukuba ngithole ingane?" Isidingo sokucabanga noma ukunciphisa izimo zomndeni wokubeletha sisuswa ekulinganisweni futhi ingane eyamukelwa ingakhula ngeqiniso.
- Isixhumanisi seMagugu nokuHlelwa kwamadodakazi - I-adoptee ngaphakathi kokutholwa okuvulekile izophinde ibe nokufinyelela emlandweni wefa lakhe kanye nokhokho bayo. Uzokwazi ukumangalela lolo lwazi njengengxenye yesazisi sakhe.
- Umjikelezo Omkhulu Womndeni Nesekelo - I-adoptere ngaphakathi kokutholwa okuvulekile ingaba nemindeni eminingi ukunikeza uthando nokusekelwa. Umndeni osamukelayo ungase futhi ubonge ngokusekelwa okwengeziwe okunikezwa abanye abathanda ingane yabo.
- Ulwazi Lwezokwelapha Lutholakala kalula - Abaningi abamukelayo abanakho ukuthola ulwazi oluyisisekelo lwezokwelapha. Lolu lwazi lungabalulekile ekusizeni abasebenzi bezokwelapha benze izinqumo ezinolwazi egameni leziguli zabo. Lolu lwazi olubaluleke kakhulu lubuye lubheke nempilo yengqondo nengokomzwelo.
- Asikho isidingo sokusesha - Abamukelayo abaningi abazi imininingwane yendaba yabo yokutholwa, indaba yokuqala kwabo empilweni. I-adopter in adopting ovulekile izoba nalolu lwazi futhi ngeke kudingeke ahlupheke ngokusebenzisa ukusesha okutholwa. Ukusesha kokutholwa kungadala umuntu ngezindlela eziningi kubandakanya ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali.
I-Cons
Izinkinga Zomkhawulo Ongenzeka - Ezinye imindeni yokuzalwa ingase ihlukumezeke ngokwazi ukuthi ifinyelela kanjani esithombeni esikhulu. Imikhaya etholakalayo ingase ihlukumezeke ngokwazi ukufaka amaqoqo amabili abazali. Ngenkathi omunye ebeka abazali ngenkuthalo, elinye isethi lenze impilo futhi kuletha umuzwa wokuzinza nezimpande.
- Xoxa phambili ukuthi imingcele iphathelene nokuvakashelwa, izingcingo, kanye nokufakelwa komzali okubeletha ekukhuliseni kwengane.
- Khumbula ukuthi konke kungabuye kwaxoxwa njengoba isikhathi siqhubeka.
Okulindelekile okungenakulinganiswa - Ukulindela okungavumelekile kungaba inkinga emaceleni omabili wokutholwa okuvulekile. Umzali obeletha angalindela ukuphelela kumzali osamukelayo, kuyilapho umzali obeletha engalindela ukuthi umzali wokubeletha abe nendima ekhudlwana empilweni yengane yakhe.
- Yingakho kubalulekile ukusungula izilingo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Lokhu kungenxa yokuphila. Nakuba izindima nezilindelo zingashintsha, isidingo somntanakho sonke nonke empilweni yakhe, ngeke.
Ukubambisana NoLowo Kungavamile Ukungabambisani - Kungase kuzwakale kubi, kodwa kuyisici. Sonke sinokuziphatha kwethu nezindinganiso zethu, futhi akuwona wonke umuntu ovumelanayo. Asikhethi yini abangane bethu ngokusekelwe ezicini eziningi? Kuthiwani uma abazali bebelethi nababelethi ababelethi bengasifuni kahle?
- Cabanga ukuthi yini engcono kakhulu kumntanakho ngaphezu kwezidingo zakho kuqala.
- Uma kuyindaba yokuphepha, njengokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa, bese ukhawulela othintana nabo ezincwadini noma ema-imeyili, kodwa chaza ukuthi ushintsho komunye umuntu kanye nomuntu owamamukelayo.
Cabanga ngalokhu
Phawula ukuthi le nkinga ibonakala kanjani ngokuphathelene nokuxhumana kanye nezindaba zomphakathi phakathi kwabazali bokubeletha nabazali.
Ngenkathi lezinzuzo ziyinzuzo enhle kumuntu owamamukelayo futhi ukhombise intshisekelo enkulu yomntwana. Akusikho lokho abaningi bethu abakukhona-ukuhlinzeka ingane? Sicela ugcine lezi zinto engqondweni lapho ucabangela ukutholwa.