Ukuthuthukisa Uhlelo Lokudla Nokulala Kwezinsana Zomntwana
Esinye sezingcezu ezivame kakhulu abazali abazinikezelayo banikeza abazali abasha ngamaphesenti nokuphindaphindiwe ukuthola abantwana ngesimiso noma isimiso. Abazali abaningi bakhokhela isimiso sokulondolozwa kwempilo yabo. Kodwa kusho ukuthini ngempela nokuthi uyifinyelela kanjani?
Amadodakazi Okubeletha Akuyona Efanayo Njengamazali Angomzali
Abanye abazali bayesaba kakhulu ukufaka isimiso, bakhetha indlela ekhululekile futhi enganqamuki.
Ochwepheshe abaningi bomzali abafisa imfashini "yokudla okudingekayo" bayaphikisana nomqondo wamashejuli. Lokhu kungenzeka ukuthi sekusebenze okuhle nezinye izingane zakho. Kodwa, cishe bonke abazali abaningana bayavuma ukuthi kuhlukile uma kunezingaphezu kweyodwa . Kungase kudingeke indlela ehlukile ukuze uhlangabezane nezidingo zomuntu wonke ngokuphumelelayo.
UHlelo luBambiswano
Buka isimiso sakho njengobambiswano phakathi kwakho nabantwana bakho. Umsebenzi wakho ukuthuthukisa isimiso, kodwa kusekelwe ezidingweni zabo. Ngokuvamile, uhlose ukubondla, ukuguqula, ukudlala nabo, nokuwabeka ukuba alale ndawonye. Ngokubambisana, njengabantwana bobabili - noma bonke - abantwana ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kodwa nakuba lokho kuyinhloso, abazali kufanele baqaphele izidingo zomuntu ngamunye, ongasoze alambe, alale, avuke noma adlale ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngisho noma bangamawele (noma ngaphezulu), bangabantwana ngabanye futhi banesidingo ngabanye.
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlangabezana nezidingo zomuntu wonke kungase ukuyigcina esimisweni.
Ekuqaleni, isimiso singase sisondle abantwana bese sibabeka ngesikhathi esifanayo. Njengoba bekhula futhi bekhula, kungase kube isimiso sokulala isikhathi. ukuphumula / isikhathi sokudlala, izikhathi zokudla nokugeza. Imindeni eminingi ihambisana nesimiso ngisho noma izimpande zazo zikhula zibe ezincane, zigcina isikhathi sokudla esinikeziwe, ama-naps nezikhathi zokulala.
Ukusebenza Kubumbene
I-Monozygotic - noma amawele afanayo - angahle afane nesimiso ngokushelela kalula ngoba isimo sabo sofuzo esabelana ngaso sibanika imetabolisms efanayo. Kodwa-ke, ngisho nokungafani - okungukuthi, ama- dizygotic noma amawele - angamaqhawe angakhula esimisweni esifanayo nesikhuthazo esincane nokuzimisela kwabazali.
Ukuze usungule noma ugcine amawele akho ohlelweni, kungase kudingeke uhlanganise ingane eyodwa ukudlala. Lokhu kungase kusho ukuvusa umntwana olele ukuze amondle ngokulandelana ngokuphindaphindiwe kwakhe. Abahlengikazi abanezinhloso ezinhle, ugogo nomkhulu nabangani bangase babonise ukwesaba emcabangweni wokuvusa umntwana olele, futhi ukusikisela kungase kubonakale kungabonakali kubazali abanomgomo wokufinyelela ukulala okwengeziwe. Kodwa-ke, ukuvusa umntwana oyedwa ngemizuzu embalwa ekuqaleni ukuze ukwazi ukondla izingane zombili ngesikhathi esifanayo kuzoba ngempumelelo kakhulu kunokuzidla ngabanye ngenye ihora.
Enye indlela yokuthuthukisa isimiso ukudala imizila. Awukwazi ukwenza izingane zakho ziphile ngewashi - azikwazi ukutshela isikhathi, ngemva kwakho konke. Kodwa izakhiwo zokwakha zibe imisebenzi zinganikeza izimpawu ezinganeni ezigcina isimiso endleleni. Hlela ukwenza izinto ezifanayo ngesikhathi esifanayo nosuku ngalunye, futhi ngendlela efanayo.
Landela amaphetheni kanye nezinqubo ezifanayo njengoba ulungiselela izingane zokudla, ukulala noma ukugeza. Umkhuba ojwayele ukwazi ukunikeza izingane ukuthi ziyisikhathi sokulala ukuze zilale ngokushesha futhi zilale isikhathi eside.
IShejuli yisiqondiso, hhayi umthetho
Zivumelanise nezimo, ziguquguquke, ziguquguquke, ziguquguquke. Buyekeza futhi uvumelane nesimiso sakho njengoba kudingeka izingane zakho 'zishintshe. Uhlelo oluhle kakhulu luyinto ephilayo futhi enamandla, ephendula "amazwi nemvelo" yezingane zakho. Iguqukela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ihambisane nezinguquko zonyaka, izimpelasonto kanye namaholide. Kuthiwa ngesikhombiso esivela odokotela wezingane kanye nochwepheshe bezokwelapha, ikakhulukazi uma izinsana zizalwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi.
Isekelwe ezinkulumweni zabantwana bakho futhi idinga abazali ukuba bazi kahle ukuthi izingane zabo zixhumana kanjani nezidingo zabo ngokukhala nokukhuluma komzimba. Okokugcina, kuguquguquka ukubhekana nezimo ezikhethekile, njengalapho izingane zigula, zithinta noma zenze ezinye izinguquko zomzimba.
Akuwona wonke umndeni onamaphilisi othola ukuthi isimiso sisebenza kubo. Ekugcineni, indlela engcono kakhulu eyokusebenzela yona . Ayikho indlela efanele noma engalungile yokwenza.
Amathiphu Okubeka Amathanga KuSheduli
- Zama ukondla amawele nama-multiples cishe ngesikhathi esifanayo. Uma umuntu evuka ukuze asondle, vuka omunye.
- Hlanganisa nezimo; buyekeza futhi uvumelanise njengoba izinto zishintsha.
- Khuluma nodokotela wakho wezingane ukuze uthole isiqondiso. Futhi, thintana nabanye abazali beziphindaphindiwe ukubona ukuthi yini eyabasebenza kubo.
- Khumbula ukuthi izingane zakho zingabantu ngabanye; awukwazi ukuwaphoqelela esimisweni. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho.
- Nakuba lezi zincwadi zingacacile kumawele, abazali abaningi batusa imikhuba emihle yokulala, i-Happy Child ngo-Marc Weissbluth (qhathanisa amanani) kanye neNcwadi Encane Enencazelo Enhle kaGina Ford (qhathanisa amanani).
- Funda ukuhumusha amakhanda akho kanye nokukhala ukuze uqonde ukuthi yini abayidingayo.
- Nika isikhathi. Uhlelo alukwenzeka ngosuku; iguqukela ngaphezu kwamasonto nezinyanga.