Yebo kunzima, akunjalo akudingeki ukubekezelela
Umbuzo: Usizo! Umfundi wami osemazingeni aphansi angeke avimbe i-eose picking!
Ngizama ukungabi namahloni ngoba ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi lokhu kuyinkinga evamile emindenini enezingane ezineminyaka yonke ubudala, kodwa ngisemnandi kakhulu.
Indodakazi yami eneminyaka engu-4 ngeke ime ukuqoqa ekhaleni. Uyakwenza njalo. Ngezinye izikhathi uyidla. (UGH!) Ngizame ukukhuluma naye ngakho, ngimnike izicubu, ngiyakhala, kodwa akunandaba. Uqhubeka ekhetha iphunga lakhe kuphi nomaphi. Isikole, imoto, esitolo - akanayo amahloni! Ngidinga ukuyeka lokhu kuziphatha ngokushesha. Kumele ngenzeni? Sicela usize!
Impendulo:
Awu, izingane zasenkulisa, zihlanganyela ekuziphatheni okuthakazelisayo kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi akunjalo? (Okubi kakhulu lokhu akukhawulelwe ezinganeni ezingaphansi kwamahlanu - ama-yikes!)
Yebo, ukukhethwa kwempumu kuyimkhuba evamile yasenkulisa yasenkulisa futhi kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani izingane zihlanganyela kulo:
- Kukhona ukwedlulela ngokweqile emakhaleni wengane, kuyabukeka behlekisa futhi ifuna ukuyikhipha, noma, ngokumelene nayo,
- Ikhala lomntanakho lome kakhulu futhi uzizwa lihleka.
- Imandla yomkhuba
- Imizwa
- Isibongo
- Akaqapheli ukuthi uyayenza
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isigaba ingane yakho ewela kuyo, ukuqoqa impumu kuyinto into edinga ukumiswa, futhi ngokushesha. Njengoba ushilo, kuyamahloni futhi kungamukeleki emphakathini, kodwa futhi kusakazeka amagciwane futhi kungabangela ukutheleleka emakhaleni wengane yakho. Futhi, uma ingane ivunyelwe ukuqhubeka njalo kulokhu kuziphatha, kuwumkhuba ukuthi cishe (ngeshwa) uzoqhubeka enza njengoba ekhula.
Nazi ezinye izindlela zokumenza ayeke ukukhetha ikhala lakhe:
Khuluma inkinga. Ngokuvamile. Uma nje ubonile ingane yakho iqala ukukhetha ikhala layo, shayela indodakazi yakho kulokho akwenzayo, umnike izicubu bese umcela ukuba ayeke. Phinda uma kudingeka. Uma ukukhethwa kwempumu kuwumkhuba omusha, kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona into ekhaleni lakhe, njengokwakheka okwedlulele, okumcasulayo.
Uma lokhu kuyinto eyenzayo okwesikhashana, angase angaqapheli uma enza lokho. Hlala ubiza ukuthi uyakunaka futhi umenze ahlanze izandla ngemuva kokuyeka. Chaza ukuthi ukukhethwa kwempumu akuyona umkhuba ohlanzekile futhi ngeke nje kubangele ukuthi ikhala lakhe lingenwe igciwane, lingakwazi ukusakaza amagciwane nokwenza abanye abantu bagule.
Faka ohlwini lwezinsiza. Kunemikhiqizo eningi emakethe eyenzelwe ukuba ingane imise ukukhethwa kwempumu, kodwa ngisho nesenzo esilula sokufaka ibhande lokunamathisela emunwe wengane yakho kungase kube nenkohliso, ikakhulukazi uma ikwenza ngokungazi. Chaza ukuthi kungani ubeka i-bandage lapho, ngakho uxhuma i-bandage ukuze angakhethi ikhala lakhe.
Mnike enye into okufanele ayenze. Uma ukholelwa noma cha, ukukhethwa kwekhasi lomntanakho kungase kuvele ekukhunjweni noma kungase kugcwalise isidingo sokugcina umatasa. Ingabe ubheka ithelevishini eningi noma ahlale phansi? Mbandakanye eminye imisebenzi. Uma izandla zakhe zithintekile, zingenakwenzeka ukuba ziphephe emakhaleni akhe.
Cela usizo. Akungabazeki ukuthi indaba elula yengane ekhetha ikhala layo yinto engathà sina, kodwa ngezikhathi ezingavamile, kungaba, ikakhulukazi uma ukuziphatha kuvela ngokuzumayo futhi kuhlangene nenye into (njengokufana nokulala , isibonelo).
Uma ingane yakho igxilile, ukuqoqa izimpande kungasho ukuthi ingane yakho inomunye into eyenzekayo, ngakho-ke ucingo oluya kudokotela wezingane lungase luzuze.
Ziba. Mhlawumbe hhayi impendulo ofuna ukuyizwa, kepha uma uke wazama konke, awuvumele ukuthi (ahlinzeke ngezipikili zakhe zifushane futhi angabukhali) kungaba yinto ongayenza isikhashana.