Ukuxhumana Kuyisihluthulelo Sempumelelo
Imindeni eminingi ikhetha ukugcina ukunakekelwa kwengane ngaphakathi komndeni osondelene ukusiza ngezindleko nokunikeza ithuba lokuqinisa ubuhlobo. Kodwa ingabe ilungiselelo elihle? Impendulo emifushane "itholakala," futhi ngokuvamile ukuxhumana kuyisihluthulelo sokuqinisekisa ukuthi ilungiselelo liphumelela futhi lilungile. Nazi amathiphu ethu amahle kakhulu.
1. Hlela okulindelwe kusukela ngosuku olulodwa.
Ngokuqinisekile, kungumkhulu, futhi akakwazi ukulinda ukuba nomuntu wakho ngesikhathi esisodwa nengane yakho.
Kodwa ulindelani kuloluhlelo? Lokhu kufanele kucaciswe ngaphambi kokuthi ilungiselelo liqale. Ingabe ulindele ukuthi umama anikeze imvelo ephephile noma ekhulisayo noma uyaqhubeka yini ufuna ingane yakho igcinwe isimiso esiqinile? Ingabe unokudla okunye okungukuthi "ama-musts" nabanye okuthi "cha-cha's"? Ubani ohlinzeka ukudla kanye nama-diapers? Kuzingane ezincane, kuthiwani mayelana nefomula noma izinto zokudla kwezingane? Ingabe kukhona izinto zokuphepha okufanele zifakwe? Ubani ozithenga futhi ozifake? Lezi zihloko kufanele zizinqunywe ngaphambi kwezinsizakalo zokunakekelwa ziqala.
2. Ubani indlu yokunakekelwa kwezingane okuvela kuyo?
Ezinye izihlobo zinikeza ukugcina izingane ekhaya; abanye bakhetha ukubuka ingane endaweni yokuhlala yengane. Kukhona ubuhle nokuziqhenya kwimeko ngayinye, futhi kuncike ekusebenzeni okungcono kumnakekeli. Abanye abanakekeli bafuna ukugcina ingane - ikakhulukazi osemusha - ekhaya labo ukuze baqhubeke nokuhlangabezana nezidingo zabo futhi bajabule endaweni yabo.
Abanye bakhetha ukubukela ingane ekhaya lomntwana ngoba yilapho izingubo namathoyizi zikhona. (Ngaphezu kwalokho, kugcina ikhaya labo lingabi "njengezingane".) Noma ngabe kunakekelwa kuphi, qiniseka ukuthi izidingo eziyisisekelo zokuphepha zihlangene.
3. Xoxa ngokukhokha namahora wokunakekelwa.
Ukuba nesihlobo kugcine ingane yakho ingasho ukuthi kufanele uzizwe ukhululekile ukuhamba uthathe isikhathi esengeziwe ngaphambi kokumthatha noma "iffy" mayelana nokuthi yiziphi izinsuku ongamletha noma cha.
Phela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi u-Aunt Louise, uCousin Pat noma umama wakho, khumbula ukunikeza ilungu lakho lomndeni inhlonipho evamile engavunyelwa kunoma yimuphi omunye umhlinzeki. Amahora okunakekela kufanele ahlelwe kusengaphambili. Ungakhohlwa nokuthi noma ubani udinga ukuphumula ngemuva kosuku lokunakekela ingane. Futhi, qiniseka ukuxoxa ngokukhokha. Amanye amalunga omndeni athola inkokhelo njengasekhaya. Amanye amalungu anganikeza isevisi ehlonishwayo mahhala, kodwa umzali kufanele aqhubeke enesibopho sokuthenga zonke izinto zokunakekela ezihlobene nokudla. Kufanele futhi ube nesipele sokulondoloza endaweni lapho kwenzeka ilungu lomndeni ligula noma ingane yakho igula futhi akufanele ibe phakathi kwabanye.
4. Fakela uhlu lwe "okwenzayo" futhi "akusikho" kusengaphambili.
Uma ungafuni ukuthi ingane yakho ihambe epaki futhi ifakwe emanzini, qiniseka ukuthi usho lokho kumnakekeli wakho. Uma ungafuni ukuthi ubukele okungaphezu kweyodwa i-movie ngosuku, lokho kufanele kucaciswe futhi. Uma udokotela wamazinyo wengane wakho ebonise ukuthi ijusi kufanele igwenywe, tshela isihlobo sakho ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele ibe namanzi noma ubisi kuphela. Uncamela ubisi lwamaphesenti angu-1 kuphela? Vumela umnakekeli wazi. Khumbula ukuthi nakuba ungaba nezintandokazi kanye nemithetho eqondile, izihlobo zakho kungenzeka ukuthi azizange ziqoqe kulabo.
Futhi, zilungele ukuba nezimo ezithile. Uma isihlobo sikhathalela ezinye izingane, akulungile ukulindela ukuthi uzokwazi ukuhambisana nazo zonke izintandokazi ezahlukene, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi sokudla.
5. Yakha imiphumela eyamukelekayo yezigwegwe.
Uzoba kanjani umkhulu nomzukulu? Ingabe uyasisekela isikhathi, ukukhishwa kwezinto zokukhuthaza noma amathoyizi, noma ama-spankings ngezikhathi ezithile? Isihluthulelo akukona ukuphikisana nesiyalo, kodwa ukusetha indlela engaguquki engagcizelela noma ngabe yini eyenza ingane yakho ingene. Nakuba kungase kubonakale kungadingekile ngenxa yobuhlobo obuseduze, kubalulekile ukuthi wonke amalungu omndeni aqonde, anethezekile, futhi wamukele ukuthi ungayenza kanjani ingane.
6. Ukukhuluma ngokuqondene nengane yakho esihlotsheni sakho.
Ingabe ingane yakho ilele ngecala lakhe lesobunxele noma ingabe ihlala ifuna ingubo yakhe ye Scooby Doo lapho ihamba ? Ingabe indodakazi yakho ithanda ukugqoka izicathulo zakhe ngaphandle kosizo noma uvumela indodana yakho ukuba ibeke ibhotela le-peanut isinkwa? Imikhuba namasiko kubaluleke kakhulu kumntanakho, futhi vumela umnakekeli womndeni wakho wazi okuningi kulezi zintandokazi ngangokunokwenzeka ukusiza ukuqinisekisa ukuphumelela nokuxhumana.
Ufuna ingane yakho ikhululeke mayelana nesilungiselelo somnakekeli, futhi ifuna ukusabalalisa noma yisiphi isimo ekubeni yinkinga nje ngoba umama akaqondi ukuthi ingane yakho iyifunani noma idinga. Yabelana ngemisebenzi ozithandayo nemigomo kanye nezikhathi zokulala , imikhuba yokugezela, nokudla okuthandayo.
7. Vumela izihlobo zibe nje lapho zingekho esimisweni sokunakekela izingane ezisemthethweni.
Ungalisebenzisi umndeni wakho onothando ngokulindela ukuthi ubukele ingane yakho emisebenzini yomndeni kanye neminye imicimbi. Vumela umkhulu aphinde abuyele ekubeni ngumkhulu, hhayi "umnakekeli" ngesikhathi samaholide nezinye izenzakalo ezikhethekile. Mhlawumbe awufuni "umkhulu umnakekeli" ukuba anikeze ingane yakho, kepha uma ubona ehlekisa omunye emcimbini, ungase uyilahle. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphandle uma kukhona isizathu sezempilo ukuthi kungani singanikezwa, amalungu omndeni nawo ayakwazisa ubuhlobo bawo obukhethekile njengomndeni hhayi njengomnakekeli ophetheyo.
8. Ungavumeli ukungavumelani komuntu noma komndeni kumuncu ubuhlobo bomnakekeli.
Wena njengomzali kungase kudingeke ukwandise umzamo okhethekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi "umndeni" awufiki phakathi kokunye okulungiselelwe ukunakekelwa kwengane okuphumelelayo kakhulu. Ngamanye amazwi, zama futhi ugweme noma unciphise inhlebo yomndeni nanoma yisiphi isimo esingabangela ukucindezeleka phakathi kwakho, ingane yakho, nesihlobo esinikeza ukunakekelwa.
Leli lungiselelo lidinga ukunakekelwa okhethekile, futhi awufuni ukuthi umndeni uphelele ngoMgqibelo ukwenza umuthi ongawamukeli ubekwe ngaphandle uma udinga ukunakekelwa ngoMsombuluko ekuseni. Kungumqondo omuhle ukuba nenkulumo futhi mayelana nokuzimisela kwakho ukugcina ubudlelwane obunothando, obukhululekile, nomndeni nokuthi uzibophezele kanjani ukwenza lolu lungiselelo lusebenze. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ilungiselelo lingabonakali lisebenza, akufanele ukwesaba ukuliqeda, kodwa khumbula ukuthi umndeni usengumndeni ngisho noma amalungu engakhonzi njengomnakekeli wengane yakho. Ngenkathi ukwethembeka kuyinqubomgomo engcono kakhulu, kufanele ukuthukuthele ukuthi uzizwa ubuhlobo obuhlukile kungase kube ngcono nxazonke futhi kukuvumela ukuba ugcine ubuhlobo obuseduze nomndeni ngaphandle kokuphonsa ukunakekelwa kwengane kumxube.
9. Qinisekisa ukuthi utshela umndeni wakho ngiyabonga!
Ungathathi kahle umndeni, futhi qiniseka ukubonga isihlobo sakho ohlinzeka ukunakekelwa kwengane kaningi. Khumbula njalo ukuthi "ukuba ngumndeni" akusona isizathu sokunakekela ingane yakho, futhi uyakwazisa ubuhlobo obukhethekile nokukhathalela. Cabanga ngezindlela ongabonga ngazo - futhi akudingeki ukuba ukhokhe imali eningi. Mhlawumbe wena nomntanakho ningasiza ukhula ensimini noma izimbali zonyaka.
Kuthiwani ngokuqasha i-movie ethandekayo noma ukulungisa inja?
10. Phinda uhlaziye ilungiselelo kanye nentuthuko yengane yakho ngesinye isikhathi.
Hlala phansi ngezikhathi ezithile bese uxoxa nengane yakho nokukhula nokuthuthukiswa kwayo. Khuluma nganoma yikuphi ukukhathazeka nemigomo. Hlela ndawonye zonke izidingo zesikhathi esizayo noma imisebenzi ekhethekile. Khumbula, ukunakekelwa ngezihlobo kunganikeza isilungiselelo sokunakekelwa kwengane esiphelele sigcwele uthando nokunakekelwa.