Amathrekhi ayisishiyagalombili okuphumelela njengobaba ohlukanisile

Kukhona mhlawumbe inselelo engaba nzima nakakhulu kubazali kunokuba azithole ubaba ohlukanisile futhi engasakwazi ukuhlala nezingane. Kuyinto ephazamisayo njengoba ngiyazi.

Ukuba ubaba ohlukanisile ophumelelayo - okugcina ubuhlobo obuhle nezingane naphezu kokuhlukaniswa nomama - kungumthwalo owengeziwe obaba ukuwuthwala.

Ngenkathi isimo sesehlukaniso ngasinye sihlukile futhi sihlukile, uma ubaba ekwazi kakhulu ukuthi yini engayilindela, kungcono ukuthi angasabela kanjani. Abesilisa abaphatha lesi simo ngempumelelo bahlanganyela izintambo ezijwayelekile endleleni yabo nesimo sabo sengqondo.

Yini ongayenza ukuze ube namathuba amakhulu okuphumelela kulesi simo?

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Imiphumela Yesehlukaniso Kubantwana Nendlela Yokubhekana Nayo

Ngezinye izikhathi emva kwesahlukaniso esibuhlungu kakhulu (ingabe kukhona olunye uhlobo?) Ubaba angase angaboni ngempela futhi aqonde umthelela walowo mcimbi ezinganeni. Kungabhubhisa ngempela ingane ukuba idlule isehlukaniso futhi izame ukubhekana nokuphila komndeni wabo iphendukela phansi. Thola ochwepheshe ukuthi yini ongayilindela njengoba izingane zakho zivumelanisa nalendlela yangempela engavamile ekuphileni kwabo.

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Hlala Usondele Ekhaya Emva Kwesehlukaniso

Ukuba nobuhlobo bekhwalithi nezingane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kudinga ukuba uchithe isikhathi esidingekayo. Futhi lokho kudinga ukuba uhlale eduze kwasekhaya. Ngesinye isikhathi imisebenzi noma ezinye izimo zingenza ukuba nzima ukuhlala eduze nezingane, kodwa umhlatshelo wokuhlala usondelene ufanele ekuqineni nasekuxhumeni izingane ezidinga. Funda ukuthi kanjani nokuthi kungani uhlala eduze kwasekuqaleni nezingane zakho.

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Okudingeka Ukwazi Ngokusekelwa Kwezingane

Uma ungumzali ongekho ngaphansi kokuhlukana, kungenzeka ukuthi uyisekeli lokusekela ingane. Imithetho yokusekelwa kwabantwana ivame ukulukhuni futhi izingozi zokungahlali zingase zibe nemiphumela emikhulu yezezezimali neminye. Futhi ngokuvamile ubaba uthola kanzima ukwenza lezi zinkokhelo, ikakhulu uma izimo zabo zomsebenzi noma ezinye ziguquka. Thola ukuthi ubaba udinga ukwazi ngokusekelwa kwengane - ukuthi kubalwa kanjani, kuqiniswe futhi kulawulwa.

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Ukwenza I-Joint Custody Work

Uma unenhlanhla ngokwanele yokuthi unikezwe imvume yokubambisana nezingane zakho zangaphambili, udinga ukwazi izihluthulelo zokuphatha lobu buhlobo obubalulekile. Ngisho noma umama nobaba behlala benobuhlobo futhi benobungane ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, imininingwane yokugcinwa ngokuhlanganyela ingakwazi ukushayela ama-wedges nokwenza ubunzima. Thola ukuthi abanye obaba baye benza kanjani lokhu kuvumela okuhlangene okuhle kubo bonke abathintekayo.

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Ukuhlala Uxhumene Nezingane Ezivela Ekude Kude

Uma kufanele uphile kude nezingane - mhlawumbe isabelo sempi noma umsebenzi - ubudlelwane bungaba nzima. Ukungahlali akusizi ngaso sonke isikhathi inhliziyo ikhule ngokuthanda; ngezinye izikhathi kungabangela imizwa emibi. Funda izindlela zokuhlala uvale ngisho nalapho uhlukaniswe ngamamayela.

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Ukwenza Okungcono Kokuvakashelwa

Uma unayo izingane ngempelasonto noma ubusuku bonke, yini okufanele uyenze ukuze ukwandise umthelela omuhle walolo phiko? Ungaba nesipiliyoni esihle ngaphandle kokuthi ube "u-Disneyland Dad" noma udale izinkinga ezinkulu ezinganeni uma zibuyela kuMama? Lesi sihloko sikusiza ukuthi ucabange futhi uhlele phambili ngezikhathi zakho zokuhambela.

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Ukuthandana Kwababa Abashadile

Ngokuba ngisho nobaba ohlukumezekile kakhulu, kungase kufika isikhathi lapho efuna ukubuyela khona endaweni yokuphola. Kungaba ukwesaba ubaba ohlukanisile, futhi ngisho nokuhlukumezeka kakhulu izingane - ngezinye izikhathi ezithemba ngasese uMama nobaba bazobuya ndawonye. Thola ukuthi ungaphinda ufake kanjani i-adna yokuthandana ngempumelelo, nokuthi ungabasiza kanjani izingane zilungiselele lesi sigaba esisha sempilo yakho.

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Okushiwo yilowo nalowo uYise Okudingeka Akwazi Ngamacebo Wokuzali

Ukuba nomgomo omuhle wokubeletha kubalulekile kulabababa abahlukanisile ababelana ngesondlo nonina wezingane zabo. Izinhlelo zokubeletha zisiza ukuchaza umthwalo wemfanelo kanye nobuhlobo kanye nokwakha uhlelo oluhle kakhulu olungagwema izingxabano kamuva. Funda ukuthi yini edingekayo ukuba ibe ohlelweni lokubeletha nokuthi yini obaba abayidingayo ngaphambi kokuvuma uhlelo lokubeletha.

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