Abazali abahlukanisile cishe bahlala bethola inkinga yokubambisana njengomunye wabantu abathandekayo kubo bonke ebuhlotsheni babo obusha nabangenalwazi. Kuzo zonke izimo, izingane zihlupheka ngenxa yesehlukaniso. Bazizwa behlukumezekile phakathi kwabazali ababili nabaphila abazali manje abahlukene. Umama nobaba bavame ukulwa nemicabango yokuncintisana, ukukhungatheka nokungaqondi kahle.
Ukwengeza, ukukhulumisana phakathi kwemindeni emibili kwakungeyona into ababhalisele yona lapho benquma ukuba nezingane. Konke mayelana nobuhlobo bobuhlobo bomzali bugcwele inselelo.
Kodwa-ke, ezimweni eziningi, abazali nezingane bavumelane nokushintsha futhi bathole indlela yokubambisana nomzali ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi abazali banamalungelo okubambisana, noma ngabe omunye ungumzali wokulondeka kanti enye ayikho, ukuhlelwa ngokucophelela nokuzama ukubeka okuhle kwezingane kuqala kungasiza ekwakheni isipiliyoni esithandekayo nesiphumelelayo ngokubambisana.
Obaba bavame ukuba nesikhathi esinzima kakhulu ngoba ngokuvamile abazali abangabambisani futhi basebenze ngendlela engalungile ngokusekelwe kwamalungiselelo okugcina amacala enkantolo. Bahlale benamahora ambalwa kakhulu ngesonto kunokuba umama akwenze, ngakho-ke banomuzwa wokuthi kufanele basebenzise isikhathi esiningi abanaso nezingane.
Umfutho wokugcina izingane ezixhunyaniswe nawo uma zihlupheka ngenxa yokuphulukana kwesikhathi kungase zibe mkhulu.
Ubuhlobo bobuhlobo bomzali obunempumelelo bungatholakala uma bobabili abazali belandela imithetho embalwa elula.
Ukukhulumisana Ngokuphumelelayo
Abaningi ababelethi ababelethi basikisela ukuthi lo mthetho ubaluleke kakhulu. Imishado eminingi ihlukana ngenxa yamaphethini okukhulumisana amabi, abazali abaningi abahlukanisile bahlukana nokukhulumisana okuhle.
Ngenxa yezingane, abazali-co-dad badinga ukwakha amakhono amaningi namathuba amathekisthi evulekile. Kudingeka bakhulume futhi basebenzise iziteshi eziningi zokuxhumana kubandakanya ukukhuluma efonini, ukuxhumana ubuso nobuso, ukuxhumana nge-imeyili nangokuthumela imiyalezo. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuxhumana ngqo nomunye nomunye hhayi ngezingane. "Tshela umama wakho ukuthi ..." kufanele kuvinjelwe kunoma yisiphi isilulumagama sikababa ohlangene.
Idokhumenti Yonke
Ngokuvamile, inselele yokubambisana ngokubambisana ingaholela ekwenzeni izinyathelo zomthetho ezengeziwe. Obaba kumele babhale konke ukuxhumana nomama obeletha ngolunye usuku, isikhathi, okuqukethwe kanye nohlu lwabanye ababonayo ukuxhumana. Ukugcina amarekhodi okucophelela ngendlela efika ngesikhathi kusiza wonke umuntu ukuba athembeke futhi aphendule.
Hlela uhlelo oluvamile futhi oluhambisanayo
Izingane zithuthuka ngokuvumelana futhi zizithola zikhathazeka uma izinto zingahambi ngokuya plan. Abazali bomzali kumele basebenze kanzima kakhulu ukugcina amashejuli wangempela futhi ahlala njalo. Uma ubaba enezingane ngoLwesithathu ngoLwesithathu nanoma iyiphi enye impelasonto, faka isimiso sezingane kuqala. Uma kukhona izingxabano ezingenakugwemeka, zama ukubhekana nabo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze izingane nomama bakwazi ukuhlela phambili.
Lapho bobabili abazali beqhubeka nesimiso esinqunyiwe ngaphambili, izingane ezincane zizokhathazeka kakhulu.
Ungakhathazeki
Ngokuvamile, obaba bavame ukucasula esimweni esibahlekisa. Gcina ngisho nesimo sengqondo, ngisho nalapho umama enza okuthile okukucasula. Izwe ngeke liphele wena noma izingane uma umama ukhohlwa ukukumemela kumcimbi noma ukuphuza kancane ukushintshaniswa kwengane. Xoxa ukukhungatheka kwakho - hhayi nje phambi kwezingane.
Angivumelani Ngasese
Amama nobaba bavame ukuba nezitayela zokubeletha ezihluke kakhulu, futhi ngezikhathi ezithile (noma kaningi) ungavumelani nalokho omunye akwenzayo nezingane.
Uma une ukungavumelani okunjalo, sibhekane nayo ngasese futhi hhayi phambi kwezingane. Uma izingane zibona umama nobaba njengothando nangenkxaso yazo (kanye nomunye nomunye), bazozizwa bephephile kakhulu. Ungafaki izingane phakathi kokungavumelani kwakho noma ukuchitha omunye umzali nezingane.
Lungiselela Ukushintshaniswa Okusheshayo Nebuhlobo
Uma umama nobaba behlangana ukuze bayeke noma bathathe izingane, zenze kube lula futhi zenzeke kalula. Gwema noma iyiphi umdlalo ngesikhathi sokushintshanisa. Isibonelo, ungaletheli intombi yakho entsha ukuze uthathe noma uphonsa izingane. Ungazami ukukhuluma noMama mayelana nodaba olubucayi - londoloza lokho kamuva.
Yabelana Ngezimo Eziphathelene Nesikhathi Sakho Nezingane NeMama Wabo
Uma wenza okuthile okujabulisayo nezingane, noma uma kunomzuzwana okhethekile, faka isithombe bese uyibhala phansi kwakho. Ngokuvamile uzolahlekelwa ngempela izingane ngesikhathi sakho kanye nabo, futhi umbhalo osheshayo, isithombe noma ividiyo ingasiza ngokukhathazeka kwakhe mayelana nezingane uma unayo. Uma wenza lokho, uzobe esengase akwazi ukuphindaphinda uma udinga kakhulu.
Dala futhi ulandele uhlelo lwakho lomzali
Abazali abaningi abanamalungiselelo okugcina amasosha banomgomo wokubeletha ovunyiwe yizinkantolo. Uma unaloluhlelo oluhlelekile, landela ngenkolo. Uma ungenjalo, yakha owakho emva kwenqubo eqaphileyo yokubambisana ukuze wena nomuntu oshade naye wazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela ilungiselelo lokubambisana. Ukukhuluma ngezinto ezinzima ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke kungenza umehluko omkhulu endleleni izinto ezihamba ngayo enkambeni yansuku zonke yokuphatha ukubeletha ndawonye.
Sebenzisa ikhalenda e-inthanethi
Imindeni eminingi yokukhulisa abazali inenkinga lapho ukuhlela kuphuka. Ukunquma kwikhalenda evamile ye-intanethi evumelanisa nekhalenda yakho siqu kungakugwema ukuxabana okuningi. Uma wabelana ngemininingwane mayelana nezenzakalo ezibalulekile ezifana nezisho, amakhonsathi esikoleni, amadansa, namaqembu, ungagwema ukudumazeka nokulahlekelwa ukwethenjwa. Beka zonke izinto zakho kwikhalenda eyabelwe, bese yena kanye nezingane bekwazi ukuhlela kusengaphambili izinkinga.
Gwema Ukuba Ubaba Wama-Disneyland
Esinye sezikhalazo ezivame kakhulu kumama omama-co-parent ukuthi konke ubaba akwenza lapho izingane zijabulisa. Kumele athwale umthwalo wezikole, umsebenzi wesikole, imisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nemisebenzi yangaphandle. Qinisekisa uma unabantwana ukuthi unemizuzu emihle yezikhathi ezithakazelisayo nezikhathi ezithandekayo, izinto ezimnandi nemisebenzi, imisebenzi yempelasonto nezinye izinto ezingaphezulu. Ukugcina ibhalansi ngosizo kugweme umhawu nokuncintisana, akukho okunye okulungile kubantwana noma kubambisene nabo.
Khumbula - konke okuphathelene nezingane futhi hhayi mayelana nawe kanye neyakho. Njengoba bobabili nibeka izingane kuqala, zenze ngenhlonipho nangesizotha, futhi zenze ubudlelwane obusha bokuthembela, isipiliyoni sokubeletha singaba nesimo esihle kuwe kanye nezingane zakho.