Kukhona indawo ethi "Ngiyacela" futhi "Ngiyabonga" esilulumagama sakho sokufunda esikoleni
Ingabe ikhona into enhle noma enomusa kunokuba ihlangabezane nomntwana onesizotha futhi osebenzisa amagama anomusa? Omunye othi "ngiyacela" futhi "ngiyabonga" ngaphandle kokuthunyiswa - mhlawumbe ucela ngisho nokukhululwa etafuleni lesidlo (futhi uletha ipuleti naye lapho ehamba!). Nguye wonke umzali ofuna ukumema ukuba abe ne- playdate yengane yakhe kanye nentombazane abazali bakho ozinikeza ngaso sonke isikhathi i-carpool.
Yikholelwa noma cha, ingane yakho yasenkulisa ingaba leyo ngane. Yebo, ngempela! Yize kungase kubonakale sengathi kuyinto engenakwenzeka, ukufundisa imikhuba nemikhuba emihle kubantwana akudingeki kube yinto ecindezelayo. Ngesikhathi esincane, ukubekezela nokunye ukuzilungisa okuhle, uzoba nengane ezobe iyala Miss Manners. Nansi indlela:
Amazwi omusa wezingane: Ukuqalisa
Isihluthulelo sokufundisa ukuhlonipha nokwaziswa okunomusa ukuqala amancane, qala ekuqaleni futhi ube njalo - ekuziphatheni kwakho. Wena uyisibonelo sokuqala somntanakho nesibaluleke kakhulu. Uma ingane yakho eneminyaka engu-3 ikuzwa uthi, "Ngicela udlulise amazambane," noma "Ngiyabonga ngesipho esimangalisayo!" ngezikhathi zonke kubantu abahlukahlukene - ngokwabo, abangane, emndenini nakwazihambi ngokufanayo - ngakho-ke cishe kungenzeka ukuthi ulandele ngokuvumelana naye. (Futhi uqaphele ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso ngokufundisa imikhuba izingane kanye nanoma yikuphi ukuziphatha okufisa ingane yakho ukuba ilandele.)
Okubaluleke nakakhulu ukuthi ukhulume nengane yakho usebenzisa imikhuba emihle. Wena ingane uzokubona. Futhi ingane yakho nayo iyafanelwa inhlonipho yakho. Uma ukhuluma nengane yakho ngokuzithoba nangomusa, bayobe bebonisa ukuziphatha kwakho.
Kodwa ngisho noma ufakazela ukuthi uzoziphatha kahle njalo, kuzodingeka kube nokunye ukufundisa nokuchaza okuhilelekile - imikhuba ayikwazi ukufundwa ngokuqinile yi-osmosis.
Qala ekhaya kanye nokusebenzisana kwansukuzonke ukuthi wena nomntanakho unosuku ngalunye. Kunoma yikuphi lapho kufanele khona ukusetshenziswa imikhuba - ithebula lesidlo, noma yikuphi ukushintshanana kwezenhlalakahle, ngisho nokuzenza sengathi uyadlala namadonki noma amaloli - sebenzisa imikhuba bese ubhekisela kumncane wakho ukuthi wenza kanjalo. Mkhuthaze ukuba alandele.
Qhubeka endleleni yeMikhuba
Njengoba ekhululekile ngala mazwi amasha ngesilulumagama sakhe, ungaqala ukumkhuthaza ukuba awasebenzise ezimweni zenhlalo. Ngisho nomntwana osemncane angakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi emva kokuba othile ebanikeze okuthile, "ngiyabonga" kumele kube yindlela yokuphendula ngokuzenzakalela kumnikezi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bathola isipho sokuzalwa emcimbini noma ebhokisini lejusi kusukela esiqandisini ngesikhathi sokudla.
Ngokuqinisekile kufanele ufundise ingane yakho ukuthi ithi "ngiyabonga" kunoma yikuphi isimo okufanelekile, kodwa ukuqala, ukubonisa ukwazisa isipho mhlawumbe indawo elula kakhulu yomphakathi kubo. Chaza ingane yakho ukuthi ukuthi "kunakho" kuyindlela yokutshela umuntu ukuthi uyabonga futhi uyabonga ngalokho abakwenzile noma abakunikezile.
Ukuze uchaze leli gama sicela uthande ingane yakho, khuluma ukuthi liyiliphi igama elibalulekile elitshela abantu ukuthi udinga usizo - ukwenza okuthile noma okudinga okuthile nokusebenzisa, abantu bangase bakhokhe imali.
Uma ingane yakho ibonakala iqonda futhi isebenzisa njalo "sicela," futhi "ngiyabonga," ungaqala ngokuthi "wamukelekile" futhi "ngithethelele."
Ingxenye ebalulekile yokufundisa imikhuba yakho yengane ukugcoba udumo lapho besebenzisa igama elifanele noma ibinzana futhi kungabi nakanjani uma bengenjalo. Mane nje ukhombise ukuthi badinga ukusebenzisa igama elifanele bese uqhubekela phambili. Qhubeka ufundisa ngesibonelo. Bazobamba ngokushesha maduze.
Iqiniso liwukuthi, izingane eziningi ngeke zikwazi ukusebenzisa amagama anomusa ngesikhathi sinezine. Bangase bathi lawo mazwi, kodwa hhayi ukuthi baqonde ukuthi kusho ukuthini kubo.
Kulungile. Into ebalulekile ukuthi uqale. U-Emily Post uzojabula.