Ukufunda Ukwehlukana Nezimo Ezibhekene Nezimo Zomthwalo Njengama-Tantrums
Abazali abaningi bayazi isimo: ingane yakho yokufundela esikoleni idlala ngokujabulisayo nezinye izakhiwo zokwakha futhi izama ukwakha umbhoshongo omude. Ngemuva komzamo othile (noma mhlawumbe akekho nhlobo), isakhiwo ingane yakho esiyikhiphe ngokucophelela. Esikhundleni sokucela usizo lwakho ekwakheni kabusha umbhoshongo, esikhundleni sakhe uqala ukuthukuthela kakhulu (kanye namanye amabhlogo).
Kufanele usabele kanjani kulokhu kuziphatha?
Indlela Yokubhekana Nesimo Se-Temper Tantrum
Ngokuqinisekile, ungamhlekisa, noma ungambeka ngesikhathi , noma ungamhleka naye. Lezi zindlela zivamile futhi zivame ukusebenza. Kukhona enye, inketho ehlukile, noma kunjalo. Isikhathi esilandelayo ingane yakho iphuma ngentukuthelo ungazama ukuyiqondisa - ukumbonisa enye into futhi igxile kulowo mandla ongekho emandleni.
Ukulungiswa kabusha njengesiyalo
Ukulungiswa kabusha kuyindlela ejwayelekile yokuqondisa , okusebenza kahle kakhulu nezingane ezincane ezingase zingayiqondi noma zilalele izizathu nezengqondo. Ukukubeka kalula, ukuqondisa kabusha ngokuyisisekelo kuthatha isimo esithintekayo ngokomzwelo futhi siwuhlukumeze, ngaleyo ndlela ususe noma yimiphi imizwa ekhuni eqhubekayo. Amandla nokuzizwa kanzima kusuka esimweni esibi njengokuthukuthela, noma ukuhanjiswa kwenye indawo, noma ukuqondiswa kabusha.
Ukucubungula kusuka kokungalungi kuya kokuhle
Ngokuyisisekelo, ukulungiswa kabusha kuthatha isimo esibi futhi siwuhlukumeze sibe yinto enhle. Kulesi sibonelo okukhulunywe ngenhla lapho ingane iphonsa intukuthelo ehlobene ne-block, uhlobo lokuhlelwa kabusha luzoba ukuhlala eceleni komntwana wakho bese uthi, "Ngibona unenkinga ngokuthola leso sakhiwo ukuba sihlale simile.
Kungani singazami ukwakha i-zoo noma ipaki esikhundleni? Singakwazi ukubeka izilwane zakho zokudlala ngaphakathi uma sesiqedile. "Noma," Ukuphonsa amabhulogi akukaze kube umqondo omuhle - othile angalimaza noma into engaphula. Kuthiwani sihamba ngaphandle bese siphonsa ibhola komunye nomunye? "Empi phakathi komntanakho nombhoshongo wokuvimba, uzicabange njengomuntu wesithathu ongathathi hlangothi, lapho uthola khona umthengisi ukuthula, ngenkathi ufundisa ingane yakho kubalulekile izifundo zokuphila.
Ukubhekana nama-Tantrums ku-Heat of the Moment
Ngokuqinisekile, usadingeka uvumele ingane yakho ukuthi ingane yakho yazi ukuthi ukuziphatha okuthile abakwenzayo ayamukelekile, kodwa ekushiseni okwamanje, ngenkathi ingane yakho icasukile futhi ikhungathekile, ukulungiswa kabusha kukuvumela ukuba uyeke ukuziphatha okubi nokushintsha kube into ephephile futhi eyakhayo. Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi uvumele ingane yakho yaziwe ukuthi indlela abenza ngayo ayamukelekile, kanti futhi inikeza enye into. Ngenxa yalokho, ukulungiswa kabusha kunikeza ithuba kokubili ukulungisa nokufundisa.
Ngokuvamile, izingane zisabela kangcono ekuqinisekiseni okuhle kunokuqiniswa okungalungile - ukuqondisa kabusha lokho kungakapheli lapho kuyala , ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi lokho abakwenzayo ayamukeleki futhi ibanike isibonelo sokuziphatha okunamamukelekile.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukulungiswa kabusha futhi kuyishintsha kakhulu-ngokunikeza umsebenzi omusha wengane yakho ukugxila kuyo, bangathatha imizwa yabo yentukuthelo futhi bavumele ukuba bangene enjabulweni.