Ukucindezeleka akuyona nje inkinga yabantu abadala abamatasa; Manje izingane zidinga ukukhululeka kokucindezeleka kunanini ngaphambili. I-poll kazwelonke evela ku-American Psychological Association yabonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kube ukukhathazeka kwezempilo kwezingane ezingeni eliphezulu okwenyuka izintambo eziningana kusukela eminyakeni eyedlule. Ngenxa yokuthi izingane ezicindezelekile zivame ukuba abantu abadala abagxilile, ukucindezeleka kwengane kubalulekile manje nangesikhathi esizayo sempilo yezingane zethu.
Nazi ezinye zezindlela zokukhuthaza ukucindezeleka kwengcindezi yezingane, nezindlela ezilula zokuzisebenzisa ezingabangela ukucindezeleka komkhaya wonke. Zama lokhu okulandelayo, ukukhuthaza ukucindezeleka kokucindezeleka kwezingane.
Xhuma Ngezingane Zakho
Izingane kanye nentsha idinga uxhumano oluqinile nabazali nabanye abantu abadala ukuze bazuze ngokugcwele ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, ukuhlakanipha nokusekelwa. Ungakhohlwa ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane zakho, ulalele, futhi uxhumane ngenkathi wenza izinto ndawonye ozozijabulela kokubili. Uma imigqa yokukhulumisana ivulekile, bayobe bengase bakhulume nawe futhi basebenzise njengemithombo uma becindezelekile.
Nakhu Okulandelayo: Hlela ngesikhathi sokukwenza izinto ndawonye njengomndeni, ikakhulukazi imisebenzi evumela ukuxhumana okunempilo. Eminye imindeni ithanda ukugibela amabhayisikili endleleni enokuthula, imidlalo yebhodi yebhodi nemidlalo yekhadi, futhi ubeke eceleni isikhathi sokuthi ungene endlini. (Yebo, ngezinye izikhathi udinga ukuhlela isikhathi sokuzikhethela.) Ezinye imindeni zithatha amaviki amanxeba amaningi eviki ezenza ukuba zibe ezindaweni ezinokuthula ngaphandle kweziphazamiso, ezemidlalo yethimba ndawonye futhi zijabule lapho zidlala, noma zibe nemihlangano yomndeni njalo amasonto ambalwa ukuze nje uthinte isisekelo.
Umndeni wakho ungasebenzisa ezinye zalezi zindlela noma uzame okuthile okuyingqayizivele, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nemibono embalwa uphakamise isandla sakho esikhuthaza ukukhululeka kwengane.
Sika Ngezicindezelo ezingadingekile
Izingane zanamuhla nezintsha zihleliwe kakhulu kunezizukulwane zangaphambilini. Ngandlela-thile, lokhu kuyinto enhle: izingane ezibandakanyeka emisebenzini eminingi ehlelekile zitholwa ezenzweni zokwakha amakhono futhi zine amathuba okwenza abangane.
Kodwa-ke, 'isikhathi sokuphumula' sibalulekile kubantwana nabadala ngokufanayo, futhi uma izingane zihlelwe ngokweqile kangangokuthi abanaso isikhathi sokudlula, ziyakwazi ukucindezeleka. Kanti futhi, cishe ngeke bafunde ukuthi bangabeka nini futhi bangabeka kanjani imikhawulo kumashejuli abo njengabantu abadala.
Nakhu Kanjani: Uma usola ukuthi izingane zakho ziphelelwe yisikhathi futhi zigxilile ngokweqile, funda ukubeka izinto eziza kuqala futhi uhlehlise emuva, njengoba nje ungathanda ngezikhathi zakho. Khuluma nengane yakho bese uhlola amazinga ahlukene omatasa-ness; cishe uzothola ibhalansi elungile ngaleyo ndlela.
Nakekela Izidingo Eziyisisekelo
Kungase kungabonakali, kepha izingane ezingalali ngokwanele, ukuthola ukuzivocavoca ngokwanele, noma ukudla ukudla okunempilo ziyakwazi ukucindezeleka, njengabantu abadala. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi balele kahle, bedla kahle, futhi bafunda ukubaluleka kokuzinakekela.
Nansi indlela : Lokhu okulula: qiniseka ukubeka isitoreji endlini ngokudla okunempilo, ube nomkhuba okhuthaza ukuthula endlini yakho ebusuku, futhi qinisekisa ukuthi ingane yakho ithola umzimba ngokwanele ngemisebenzi ayithandayo. Amashejuli amahle, ukuthanda okuthandayo, imidlalo yevidiyo, kanye nezingane ezingabambisani ngokwabo zingase zihlele ukwenza kube nzima kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi zonke lezi zithako zikhona empilweni yabantwana bakho, kodwa ukuzinakekela kuwufanele umzamo.
Yenza lezi zinto kuqala ngokuzihlela ngendlela yakho yokuphila nokusika imisebenzi ephazamisayo. (Lokhu kungase kube lula ukusho kunokukwenza, kodwa ukucindezeleka kwengcindezi yezingane zakho kubalulekile ngokwanele ukwenza umzamo ube usizo.)
Fundisa Izingane Zakho Izinqubo Zokuphathwa Kokucindezeleka
Ukucindezeleka kwengcindezi kufanele kuqale ebuntwaneni. Ngenxa yokuthi izingane zanamuhla zikhula ngokushesha futhi zivame ukubhekana nokucindezeleka ezivela phezulu, futhi ngenxa yokuthi ukucindezeleka okukhulu kungalimaza izingane kanye nekusasa labo (abadala), akukaze kwenzeke kakhulu ukufundisa amasu okulawula ukucindezeleka kubantwana bakho, futhi bazisize bawasebenzise njalo.
Nakhu: Ngisho noma izingane ezincane kakhulu zingakwazi ukuzivocavoca ukuphefumula, ama-yoga poses, noma izinhlobo ezahlukene zokuzivocavoca, nokucindezeleka-ukukhululeka kwengqondo kungenziwa kusukela eminyakeni yokuqala. Zenza i-yoga nezingane zakho. Bazisize babhale encwadini ngenkathi ubhala kungokwakho. Philisa ndawonye. Uzofundisa amasu akho amakhono abalulekile futhi uzothola inzuzo yokuzikhandla wena. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uzobe udala izinkumbulo ezimangalisayo kokubili.
Lawula Ukucindezeleka Kwakho
Ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kwabantu abadala kuthinta izingane, kodwa akuthathi usosayensi wezenhlalakahle ukuveza ukuthi uma sesiphelile, sincane okumele sinike abanye. Ngaphezu kokugcina izimpahla zethu ezingokomzwelo ezigcwele ngokwanele ukusiza izingane zethu ukuba zibhekane nokuzikhandla, umkhuba wethu wokuphatha ukucindezeleka unganikeza izingane zethu ithuba lokuziphathisa kahle ekuphatheni kwabo ukucindezeleka.