Ukuxazulula izinkinga zokulala ezincane
Umfundi ubuza:
"Indodakazi yami ineminyaka engu-2 ubudala nobaba futhi ngiphambene nesikhathi sokulala. Senza isimiso sokugeza, ama-pajamas, izincwadi, bese silala naye aze alele futhi ashiye ekamelweni. ukuze uthole lokhu kuze kube manje futhi sesilungele ukuba alele yena ngokwakhe. (Ikakhulukazi nezingane ezisendleleni!) Uma eselele, uvame ukulala ubusuku bonke amahora angaba ngu-11, ngezinye izikhathi avuke kanye futhi sibeke phansi naye futhi awela phansi futhi.Sinesango lomntwana emnyango wokuphepha ngoba sinesitofu sokhuni. Ngakho umbuzo wami uwukuthi, siyamthola futhi simbuyise embhedeni wakhe lapho ephakeme esangweni? Noma ingabe simshiya lapho silinde aze abuyele embhedeni ... noma yini? "
Yebo, kunezinkinga ezimbalwa lapha ngesimo sakho, ngakho-ke masidlale.
Mhlawumbe umtshele izikhathi ezigidini ukuthi udinga ukuba ulele embhedeni futhi mhlawumbe umbeka emzimbeni izikhathi eziningi. Uyazi ukuthi ukulala kufanele kwenzeke, kodwa akuzwanga sengathi umkhuba ukhona ngokuqinile uma elele esangweni. Kungenzeka ukuthi wenza enye yezinto ezimbili. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhathele ukuma esangweni bese ubuyela embhedeni wakhe ekugcineni (lapho kungenjalo angizange ngikwenze lutho njengoba ephethe isimo ngokwabo ngokuphumelelayo) noma ulele phansi phansi ngesango. Lokho kuhle kakhulu. Ngakho, kusukela kumbono womzali, ngenkathi engaphelele, kusamukelekile. Okwamanje...
Enye yezinto ezinhle ngokuba ngumzali, noma kunjalo, ikhono lethu lokuqala ukucabanga ngaphambili. Sithola ngcono futhi ngcono kulokhu njengoba senza amaphutha anemiphumela ehlala njalo futhi, ngokwami, ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kuyinto enkulu kakhulu yokusola ama- Terrible Twos njengoba isigaba sokuziphatha kwengane yethu.
Akusizi kahle ukucabanga kusengaphambili eminyakeni encane futhi sifuna ukulala / ukuthula / sanity okwamanje !
Ngakho ukucabanga okwamanje, uphephile. Akakwazi ukuphuma esangweni futhi akakho umonakalo wangempela owenziwe ngu-ulele phansi. Eqinisweni, ukulala egumbini elingathandeki lapho angase kubanda khona kungenye yale miphumela yemvelo engase imkhuthaze ukuba ayibuyisele embhedeni.
Ukucabanga kusengaphambili, noma kunjalo, kunezinto ezimbalwa ezingaba inkinga:
- Okokuqala, akakwazi ukukhuphuka noma ukukhipha isango phansi manje, kodwa kungenzeka akwenze esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. (Cabanga phambili ukuthi uzosisingatha kanjani le nkinga esikhathini esizayo uma iqhubeka - ufuna ukufaka isikhiye emnyango wakhe?)
- Okwesibili, uma esungula umkhuba wokulala esangweni, uzoba nalo mhlangano futhi kuzodingeka usebenze naye ukuze awuphule ekugcineni noma usebenze nawo uma nje ungase uhlale. (Kungcono ukubhekana nayo manje kunomuva uma unomunye umntwana endaweni yesehlakalo.)
- Okwesibili, usondele ekufundiseni iminyaka engama-potty kanti ngenkathi kungenzeka egqoke i-diaper ukulala manje, ekugcineni uzoba ngaphansi kwezingubo zangasese futhi angamisa umbhede. Kulula indlela yokuvikela umatizi ngaphezu kwendawo yonke yomhlabathi (nakuba amabhulukwe wokuqeqesha angalahlwa angakwazi ukuxazulula leyo nkinga).
- Okokugcina umlayezo owuthumelayo. Uma umtshela ngamazwi akho ukuthi kufanele alale nokuthi umbhede wakhe ulele ukulala kodwa umtshele ngezenzo zakho ukuthi kuhle uma esesegumbini lakhe futhi engenzi indawo, bese uthola umyalezo ohlangene .
Manje, abanye abazali baphile kahle ngalesi simo sokugcina futhi kusebenza emindenini yabo.
Kodwa ukukhathazeka kwami kungaba ukuthi ngenkathi eseneminyaka engu-2 manje futhi elele ngokulala ngokushesha lapho esekhulile angase anqume ukuthi kusukela nje kufanele abe egumbini lakhe futhi akudingeki alele embhedeni, ukuthi angakwazi ukuhlala nje futhi adlale ekamelweni lakhe. Njengoba ekhula futhi esekhulile, uma lokho kusengumyalezo ayithola, angase abe omunye walabo abathintekayo ukulala ngoba unezinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo ezenza ekamelweni lakhe futhi angeke athathe isikhathi sokulala ngokujulile . (Ngithembele, ukukhathazeka kwangempela ngisho nangonyaka osemusha, ngakho ukuthola izinhlangano zokulala ezinempilo ezihambayo manje kunendaba.)
Ngakho-ke, uma ngabe nginguwe, ngizoqhubeka ngimbuyise embhedeni wakhe isikhathi ngasinye kunokumvumela ukuba eme esangweni.
Ngeke nje ubeke umkhuba ongcono wokulala nokuzihlanganisa naye, kepha uma kufika usuku futhi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isango ngoba angayidlulela, uzozizwa uvikelekile ngokwengeziwe ukwazi ukuthi uhlala kuye ubuthongo ebusuku ubodwa. Uzokwazi futhi ukubeka isibonelo esihle kumfowabo omncane noma udadewabo futhi okungenza isikhathi sokulala kube lula lokhu okulandelayo ukuhamba. Ngokuqinisekile awufuni ababili abasango-abalala. Uma kumenza azizwe evikelekile kakhulu, noma kunjalo, ngiphakamisa ukuhambisa umbhede wakhe eduze kwesango / umnyango, kodwa hhayi eduze kangangokuthi angasebenzisa umbhede ukuze aqalise isango enkulumweni.