Kungani kubalulekile ukuqondisa izingane futhi usethe izisekelo zokuziphatha okuhle
Uma uke wazazi izingane ezingaqeqeshwa abazali bazo, mhlawumbe uye wabona izibonelo ezimbalwa kakhulu zokuthi kungani kubalulekile ukuyala izingane.
Ukulungiswa akuyona nje kuphela okuhle kubantwana, kuyadingeka ngenjabulo yabo nenhlalakahle yabo. Ukulungiswa kubalulekile ekuthuthukiseni kwengane enempilo njengokudla okunomsoco, umzimba wokuzivocavoca umzimba, uthando, nezinye izidingo eziyisisekelo.
Ngaphandle kwesiyalo, izingane azidingi amathuluzi adingekayo ukuhamba ngobuhlobo nezinselele empilweni njengokuzimela, ukuhlonipha abanye, kanye nokukwazi ukusebenzisana neontanga.
Ngokuphambene nalokho abanye abazali abangase bakholwe ngephutha, izingane ezingalahlwa njalo azijabuli. Eqinisweni, ukwehluleka ukuyala izingane ngokuvamile kubangele izingane ezingenelisekile, ezithukuthele, ngisho nokucasuka. Kulabo abakuzungezile, ingane engaqeqeshiwe iyoba yinkampani engathandeki, kanti ingane engenakho isiyalo ingase ithole kunzima ukwenza abangane.
Izingane ezineminyaka esikoleni, ikakhulukazi, ukufunda indlela yokuphatha ukuziphatha kwazo kanye nokulawula ukucabanga kwabo okungalungile kubaluleke kakhulu. Njengoba izingane ezineminyaka eyisikole esikoleni esiphansi ziqala ukukhula kanye nentuthuko yeminyaka esebekhulile, ziyoba nemiphumela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nezinselele nezilingo uma zikhona amathuluzi okuzivikela ngokwazo.
Ukuqonda Ukuthi Ukuziphatha Kusebenza kanjani
Kunezizathu eziningi zokuthi kungani umzali engase angafuni ukuyala ingane. Abanye abazali bangase banqabe ukujezisa izingane ngoba bafuna ukugwema ukuxabana noma ngenxa yokuthi abafuni ukuthukuthela ingane yabo. Abanye bangase bangakwazi noma bangathandi ukunikela isikhathi namandla kumsebenzi wokuyala izingane.
Noma kunjalo, abanye bangase babe nezinkumbulo ezingathandeki zokusola lapho beyizingane futhi bangase bafune ukwenza izinto zibe lula ezinganeni zabo ngokuziphumuza imithetho futhi banikeze ukukhululeka okukhululekile.
Kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi, ukuyala akukona ukudala ukungqubuzana nengane yakho noma ukuyeka ukuthukuthela. Ukuqondiswa kwengane, uma kwenziwa kahle, akukhona ngokuzama ukulawula ingane yakho kodwa ngokumkhombisa indlela yokulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe. Akukhona ngokujezisa ingane ngokwenza okuthile okungalungile kodwa ngokubeka imingcele ecacile nemiphumela yokuphula imithetho ukuze ifunde ukuthi ingazijezisa kanjani.
Ingane efundiswe ngokulungile kokungalungile futhi enomqondo oqinile walokho okungahambi kahle nokuziphatha okuhle uzokwazi ukuthi wenze into engalungile. Uzofuna ukuziphatha ngokufanele ngesifiso sokuba yisakhamuzi esihle futhi ilungu lomndeni wakhe nomphakathi-hhayi ngoba wesaba isijeziso.
Kubalulekile Ukusekela Izisekelo Zokuziphatha Okuhle
Yibaphi abazali abaningi abangafuni ukujezisa izingane bangase bangaqondi ukuthi kungabangela kanjani ukulimaza ingane ukuba ingabi nemingcele. Ngaphandle kwesiyalo, izingane ngeke zikwazi ukubhekana namakhono okuphila okubalulekile okulandelayo:
- Ngeke babe nokuzithiba.
- Ngeke bahloniphe abazali babo noma ezinye izibalo zeziphathimandla.
- Ngeke bazi ukuthi ukuziphatha okufanelekile.
- Bayoba ngamabomu, ngobugovu, futhi ngokuvamile inkampani engathandeki.
- Ngeke abe namakhono omphakathi okubalulekile ekwenzeni abangane njengozwela, ukubekezela, nokwazi ukwabelana.
- Bayoba amathuba okuba bahlanganyele ekuziphatheni okungalungile okulimazayo futhi okungenzeka kube yingozi kubo kanye nabanye.
- Ngeke bajabule.
Izindlela zezingane eziye zaqondiswa
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane ezinikezwe isiqondiso esiqinile kodwa zothando zinezici namakhono alandelayo:
- Banokuzithiba okuningi futhi banokwanele ngokwengeziwe.
- Bangabantu abaningi abanomthwalo wemfanelo futhi bajabulela "ukuhle" nokusiza abanye ekhaya, esikoleni nasemhlabeni wonke.
- Bazethemba ngokwengeziwe. Bazi ukuthi imibono yabo nemizwa yabo iyozwakala, nokuthi abazali babo bayabathanda ngisho nalapho benza amaphutha.
- Bayazi ukuthi bayolandisa ngenxa yeziphambeko zabo noma ukungalungi kwabo, futhi banamathuba amaningi okwenza izinqumo ezinhle ngoba abafuni, hhayi ngoba besaba isijeziso.
- Ziyamnandi ukuba zizungeze futhi cishe ziba nesikhathi esilula ukwenza abangane.
Yiqiniso, indlela esiyala ngayo kubalulekile njengokungathi siyala noma cha. Ukuyala ingane akusho ukuklolodela noma ukulahlekelwa ngumuntu (noma ngabe ungumuntu, bonke abazali bangaba nalezi zikhathi lapho singathukuthela noma sikhungathekile ngokuziphatha okubi kwengane).
Isihluthulelo sokuziphatha kahle kwengane sigcina ukupholisa kwakho (futhi uzinike isikhathi uma kunesidingo) ukuze ukwazi ukuxhumana nomntwana wakho ngokuzithoba mayelana nokuthi yikuphi futhi akuhambisani nokuziphatha okungamukelekile nokuthi angenza kanjani izinqumo ezingcono futhi afunde emaphutheni akhe.