Umgomo wokunamathisela umzali ukukhulisa izingane ezingakwazi ukwakha ukuxhumana okunempilo nabanye ngokomzwelo nabanye abantu kulo lonke impilo yabo. Abazali abathintekayo bakholelwa ukuthi lokhu kufanele kuqale ngokudala uxhumano oluhloniphekayo nesihawu phakathi komzali nengane.
Esikwenzeni
Kulungile, lokho kuzwakala kuhle, kodwa abazali abafake ukunamathiselwe bafeze kanjani umgomo wokukhulisa izingane ezicebile ngokomzwelo nasemphakathini?
Kunezinqubo eziningi zokubeletha ezihlobene eduze nokunamathiselwa komzali okunamathiselwe. Labazali bakholelwa ukuthi izindlela ezithile zikhulisa izibopho phakathi komzali nengane futhi ngaleyo ndlela zibekele isigaba sokuxhumana okuphephile kamuva ekuphileni. Ake sibheke imikhuba embalwa ejwayelekile phakathi kwabazali bokunamathisela.
- Wabelane Ukulala / Ukulala / Ukulala / Umbhede Womndeni - Usebenzisa umkhuba wokulala ngaphakathi kokufinyelela kwengalo yengane yakho. Kukholelwa ukuthi ikhuthaza ukukhulisa abazali nokuzibophezela komzali nengane.
- Izingane zokubeletha - Ukukhathazeka okukhudlwana izingane ezichitha isikhathi esiningi emotweni yezinqola zemoto, abahamba ngezinyawo, amareyimu okudlala okuphathekayo, kuye kwabangela ukunamathiselwa komzali okukhulumela abazali ukuba baphenye ukubaluleka kokuthwala ingane yakho ezandleni zakho ngangokunokwenzeka. Izindwangu kanye nezithwali zangaphambili ziyisambatho esivamile kulabo abakwenza okunamathiselwe kokubeletha.
- Ukubeletha: Abazali bokunamathisela bayavuma izinzuzo ezaziwayo zokuncelisa . Bakholelwa ukuthi, ezimweni eziningi, ukubeletha kukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Kuyindlela Yokuziphatha, Akuyona Indlela
Kodwa-ke, qapheliswa ukuthi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukubambisana kokubeletha akukona kakhulu ngemikhuba abazali okufanele bayenze nangaphezulu mayelana nesimo sengqondo okufanele babe nayo. Kuyindlela enokuthula yokukhulisa abazali okucindezela ukuxhuma nengane yakho ngezinga elijulile elingokomzwelo. Yize ukuhlanganiswa kokubeletha kuhlotshaniswa nezindlela ezingenhla, ukuthi lezo zindlela zisetshenziselwa kanjani ukuchazwa.
Isibonelo, umndeni owodwa ungakhetha ukondla. Omunye umndeni ungase ukhethe ukuphakela ibhodlela kodwa ukuhamba isikhathi kanye nenani lefomula elinikezwe esibukweni sokuncelisa. Abazali abathintekayo bayakhuthazwa ukuba bathathe imikhuba ukuze bakwazi ukubhekana nezidingo zabo zomndeni. Noma kunjalo, okungafanele ukuguqulwa yimigomo ephezulu yokunamathisela kokubeletha.
Izimiso
Abazali abathintekayo batusa ukunakekela izingane ngomusa nangenhlonipho ukuze kukhuthazwe umuzwa wesithunzi nokuhlonishwa. Okunamathiselwe kwezokukhulumisana kwamazwe ngamazwe kuveza izimiso eziyisishiyagalombili zefilosofi yabo. Noma kunjalo, yini engabiliswa kulokhu:
Abazali bokunamathisela:
Zama ukwenza izinqumo ezinolwazi kulo lonke impilo yengane, kusukela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa. Isibonelo: Umzali onamathiselwe angase afune imibono eminingi emkhakheni wezokwelapha wengane futhi uzovuleka ekufundeni ngezinye izindlela zokwelapha. Basebenzisa ulwazi abalwazile ukwenza isinqumo abakhululekile kuzo.
Ziyashesha futhi zihambisane nezimpendulo zabo ezinganeni zabo zokudla, ukulala, ukuyala, nokuxhumana ngokomzimba / ngokomzwelo. Isibonelo: Abazali bokunamathisela bazozama ukuphendula izidingo zomntanakho ngokushesha nangokubikezela. Ukuziphatha okubi kungalungiswa ngokushesha ngesijeziso "esinengqondo" kumntwana.
Gwema amasu agqugquzelayo, angasetshenzisiwe ngokuqondene nabathobekileyo, abaphendulayo. Isibonelo: Ukushaywa nokuqhaqha kungcono esikhundleni salo ngesiluleko esifanele kanye nokulungiswa okuqotho.
Ukubaluleka kokunakekelwa kokunakekelwa kwabazali bobabili nakubanakekeli abambalwa abakhethiwe ngokucophelela. Isibonelo: Abazali bayinhlangano ehlangene ekukhulumeni futhi bahlangane emisebenzini yabo yokubeletha. Ukuhlukana phakathi kwabazali nabanye abathintekayo kungabonakala njengokungaboni kahle.
Linganisa izidingo zabo siqu nemithwalo yabo yemindeni. Isibonelo: Abazali bokunamathisela bayaqonda isidingo sokukhulisa abantu babo. Ngokuzinikela isikhathi, bangakwazi ukuvuselela. Isibonelo: Ukuba nosuku lwesikhashana noma isikhathi sokuzilibazisa komuntu siqu kuyindaba yokuzivikela.
Izikhalazo ezivamile
Okunamathiselwe kokubeletha kuye kwaba nomlilo ngabantu abahlukahlukene namaqembu ngezizathu ezimbalwa.
- Abanye bakholelwa ukuthi ukunamathiselwa komzali okufakela abazali kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali futhi kungabangela ingqondo, ngokomzwelo, nangokwenyama.
- Kunokucwaninga okuncane okutholakala ukusekela noma ukuphikisa imibono yabo.
- I-American Academy of Pediatrics ayisekeli ukulala, nakuba ikhuthaza kakhulu ukwabelana ngendawo ngenxa yengozi ye-SIDS.
Imibono ehlobene
Ngezinye izikhathi abantu baphutha izindlela zokubeletha ezingokwemvelo ukuba zibe yisitifiketi sokunamathisela izingane. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akunjalo. Ngaphandle kwamanye okufana okubalwe ngenhla, abazali abathintekayo abazichazi ngokwabo ezinye izinqumo zokubeletha. Uma kuthiwa, ungathola ukuthi abazali abakhomba isitayela sabo sokubeletha njengesixhumo sokubeletha, bangase banesithakazelo ekutsheni indwangu, ukudla okuphilayo, nokwenza ukudla kwabo siqu. Noma kunjalo, le mikhuba ayikho indlela yokuchaza ukubeletha kwabazali.