Ukubhekana nokuthola ingane ngaphambi kwesikhathi kungaba nzima. Ukuba nomntwana ongakabi nhlobo kuhluke kulokho abazali abazokwazi ukukwenza ngesikhathi behlela izingane zabo. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokubeletha, izinsuku zokuqala, ukukhulisa izingane kanye nokuzalwa komntwana okuzalwa konke kube yizinto ezihlangene ezithintekayo ngokukhathazeka nosizi. Injabulo nenjabulo kukhona futhi kodwa kungafihla ngaphansi kwezinye izinto ezikhathazayo.
Lapho umntwana wakho engakapheli, kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa unenqwaba yemizwelo eyinkimbinkimbi. Okuhlangenwe nakho kuhlukile emndenini ngamunye, kodwa abaningi abazali abancane ngaphambi kwesikhathi bazizwa noma okunye okulandelayo:
- Ukukhathazeka
- Ihlukumezekile
- Shock
- Ugcwele usizi
- Ukuthukuthela
- Ulahlwe
- Awunamandla
- Ukukhathazeka
- Ithemba
- Uthando olunzulu ngomntanakho
- Ukulangazelela ukuba nomntwana wakho
- Umqondo wokulahlekelwa
Njengoba ubona, ingxube yemizwelo engabazali abangase ibhekane nayo iyinkimbinkimbi futhi ibanzi. Eminye imizwa ayibi, kuyilapho abanye behle kakhulu. Ungase uzizwe zonke ngesikhathi esisodwa!
Ukubhekana Nezizwa Zakho
Ukwamukela nokwamukela imizwa yakho yisinyathelo sokuqala sokubhekana nokubhekana nengane ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Okokuqala, chaza konke ozwayo ngokwenza uhlu, uchithe isikhathi esithile ukuzindla ngokuthula, noma ukukhuluma nomngani wakho noma umngane noma umeluleki. Zivumela ngokugcwele ukubhekana nomzwelo ngamunye ozwayo. Khala, umeme, uthandaze, noma uhleke uma imizwa yakho ifuna.
Cabanga ukubhala phansi imizwelo yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho . Abazali bengane esengaphambi kwesikhathi bavame kanzima ukukhumbula konke okwenzekile kubo, njengoba izinto zenzeka ngokushesha futhi zivame ukukhathazeka. Ukubhala okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho phansi kungakusiza ukuba ube nomqondo wezenzakalo kanye nemizwelo yakho.
Thola ukusekelwa kwabanye. Ngesikhathi se-intanethi, kulula kunanini ngaphambili ukuxhumana nabanye abazali abaye basinda esikhathini se-preemie noma abahamba ngayo.
Funa amabhodi okuxoxisana namaqembu okusekela nabanye abazali abanomntwana ongakafiki, bese ujoyina abaningi njengoba uzizwa unamandla. Futhi, cabanga ngokuvakashela nomeluleki noma isazi sezinqondo. Uma isibhedlela sakho sinikeza izinsizakalo zokweluleka kwabazali bantana abangakabiphi, bhalisa! Lezi zinhlelo zisiza abazali be-preemie ukuba babhekane nazo futhi babe nemizwa emihle ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Yiba ngumzali wengane yakho. Sichitha isikhathi nomntanakho kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Buza yonke imibuzo ongayicabangela ngayo ukunakekela kwengane yakho nesimo sakho, futhi wazi odokotela nabahlengikazi abanakekela ingane yakho. Uma kungenakunikezwa, cela uma ungazama ukunakekelwa kwe-kangaroo. Ukuchitha isikhumba isikhumba ngesikhumba sangasheshe kungamsizi ukuba asize ngokushesha, kodwa kungakusiza ukuba uzizwe usondelene nengane yakho futhi njengomzali othembekile kakhulu. Abazali abaningi bezingane ezingakafiki basebenze nabaqashi babo ukuba basakaze isikhathi sabo sokushiya ukuze basindise isikhathi esithile somndeni ukuze bahlale ekhaya. Ukwenza kanjalo kungenza kube nzima ukuchitha isikhathi nengane yakho ku- NICU , kodwa ikuvumela ukuthi ungaphazanyiswa isikhathi sokubopha ekhaya.
Inothi Kubaba Omntwana Okhulile
Nakuba ukubeletha ingane kungakabi kanzima kubazali bobabili, lokho okuhlangenwe nakho ngokuvamile kuvame kakhulu kobaba.
Izinyunithi zokunakekelwa kwe-Neonatal ezinamandla (NICUs) yindawo enzima ukuzizwa njengomzali, futhi obaba bangase bazizwe bengekho endaweni ye-NICU imvelo. Amathiphu aphathelene nabalulwe ngenhla azosiza abathande ukuzwa okuningi ngokuthula nokuba ne-preemie, njengoba kuzokwenza amathiphu alandelayo ikakhulukazi kubababa:
Gxila enganeni, hhayi imishini. Ku-NICU, obaba banomkhuba wokuhlala emishini , abaqaphi, izilungiselelo zokusekela ukuphefumula kanye nokuhlolwa kwezokwelapha. Ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nokunakekelwa kwezempilo kwezingane yakho kubalulekile, futhi kungakusiza uzizwe umuzwa wokulawula. Kodwa uma imibuzo yakho iphenduliwe, vula kumntanakho.
Ungakwazi ukuhlakulela ubudlelwane bokubeletha nosana olungakafiki ngokuthatha amazinga okushisa, ukuguqula izinwele, ukwenza ukunakekelwa kwe-kangaroo , noma ukubamba ingane yakho ngesikhathi sokudla, ngisho noma lezo zondlo zingena nge-tube yokudla.
Sekela umlingani wakho . Wena nomama wengane yakho bangase babe nemizwa ehlukile futhi uphathe leyo mizwa ngezindlela ezahlukene. Qonda lokho, nakuba uhlangabezana nalokhu ndawonye, bobabili nizizwa nisodwa. Zama ukumsekela ngokumvumela ukuthi asebenzise isikhathi esiningi njengoba adinga umntwana, ngokumkhuthaza emizamweni yakhe yokubeletha, nokumsekela njengoba ephuza ubisi ukuze athole ingane yakho.
Yamukela usizo lwabanye . Uma unomsebenzi wokucindezeleka wokuphila kanye nemithwalo yemithwalo yemfanelo, khona-ke ukuba nengane ngaphambi kwesikhathi ingabonakala njengento eyodwa kakhulu kakhulu ongayisingatha. Yenza imisebenzi eminingi ngangokunokwenzeka, kokubili emsebenzini nasemakhaya.
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