Sonke sibone izindaba zezindaba. Umama oqhoshayo ukhahla umntwana wakhe osanda kuzalwa , kodwa ebukeka ephazamisekile - wayengazi ukuthi ukhulelwe waze wayesebenza. Kulabo abakhulelwe ngaphambili, lokhu kubonakala kungenakwenzeka. Ngempela, ungakulahlekelwa kanjani zonke izimpawu nezimpawu zokukhulelwa ? Abaningi besifazane baxosha ngesikhathi sokuthatha ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa ngomzuzu isikhathi sabo sekwephuzile.
Izizathu Ezibangelwa Ukukhulelwa Okufihliwe noma Ukulahlwa
Eqinisweni, kunezizathu ezimbili zokuthi kungani owesifazane engazi ukuthi ukhulelwe; bobabili basikisela ukuthi kunezinkinga ezibalulekile ezingokwengqondo emsebenzini. Ukukhulelwa okufihliwe kukhona ukukhulelwa okufihliwe ngamabomu: umama uyazi ukuthi ukhulelwe kepha akawamukeli. Ukwenqaba, noma ukunganaki, ukukhulelwa kwenzeka uma umama engakhethi ngokungazi ukuthi uyakugwema ukuphawula izimpawu ezibonakalayo zokukhulelwa .
Kungani umama angakhetha ukunganaki ukukhulelwa - noma ukuphika ukuthi ukhulelwe? Kukhona izizathu eziningi; ezinye ziqondakala futhi zengqondo:
- Umama ukhuluphele futhi ngaleyo ndlela akaqapheli isisindo esengeziwe noma ingcindezi engase azizwe ngayo;
- Unina uthathe ukuhlolwa kokukhulelwa okwenza imiphumela engalungile;
- Unina unomjikelezo ongavamile wokuya esikhathini, ngakho-ke akaphuthelwa isikhathi sakhe kuze kube yilapho ekhona amasonto ambalwa noma ngisho nezinyanga ezikhulelwe;
- Umama ungumgijimi oqeqesha kanzima ngokwanele ukuthi ukukhulelwa kokuqala akubonakali ngokomzimba;
- Izimpawu zokukhulelwa, njengokugula kwasekuseni , azibonakali - noma zivele ngezindlela ezingalindelekile (ukugula ekuseni ebusuku, isibonelo)
- Ukukhulelwa kungumphumela ongafuneki wokudlwengula noma ukulala naye, futhi umama ukhetha ukungasho ukuthi ukhulelwe ukuze agweme imiphumela engaba yingozi
Ngenkathi ukukhulelwa okufihliwe okuyimfihlo kunomqondo, noma kunjalo, eziningi ziwumphumela we-psychosis. Umama ukuzifihla ngokoqobo isimo sakhe somzimba kusuka kuye kuze kube yilapho umntwana ezalwa ngempela.
Ukukhulelwa Ukukhulelwa
Ngokusho kocwaningo, isimo sokuphika ukukhulelwa akuvamile. Eqinisweni, engazi ukuthi ukhulelwe uze ube namaviki angu-20 okhulelwe kwenzeka ngo-1 ku-475 ukukhulelwa. Banezela ukuthi ukuphika kokukhulelwa emasontweni angu-20 okubeletha noma kamuva (okukodwa kokukhulelwa kwe-475) kwenzeka kaningi ngaphezu kwesifo se-Rh nezinye izinto esizicabangela njengokungavamile.
Ukulahlwa Umsebenzi
Nakuba kuyinto engavamile ukungazi kuze kube yilapho ususebenza, cishe eyodwa kokuzalwa kuka-2,455. Ngisho uma ubeka lokho ngendlela enengqondo, ufunda ukuthi empeleni ungaphezu kwamathuba amathathu okubeletha ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi ukhulelwe kunokuba ubelethe izintathu! (1 ku-7.225 ukukhulelwa) Eqinisweni, lapho abacwaningi bephucula idatha ezweni elifana neJalimane, bathola ukuthi omama abangaba ngu-300 ngonyaka babengayazi ukuthi bakhulelwe baze baqale ukusebenza.
Abacwaningi basikisela ukuthi isigaba esithile sokuhlukaniswa kwezokwelapha singezwe ngaphansi kokungasebenzi kokuzala kokukhulelwa okungekho emthethweni. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukukhulelwa noma ukufihla okufihliwe.
Kungase kuhlanganise nokukhulelwa okungamanga (pseudocyesis), isifiso esinqunyiwe sokuba nezingane kanye nokunye ukuziphatha komama kumntwana wakhe.
Lokhu akuyona inkinga nge-subset ethile yabesifazane kuphela, kwenzeka kuzo zonke izinhlangano zezenhlalo, ubuhlanga, inkolo, njll. Noma iyiphi indlela, into esemqoka yukungazi ukuthi ukhulelwe, ngisho namaviki angu-20 wokukhulelwa, engakwazi ukubeka engozini impilo yomama nengane.
Umthombo
Ukulahla nokukhulelwa okufihlekile. Journal of Research Psychosomatic 2006; 61: 723-30.
Ukubeletha okumangalisa akuvamile. I-British Medical Journal 2002; 324: 458.