Ukulondoloza Umshado Wakho Ngemva kokuba Namawele Noma Iziqu Eziningi
NguSuzie Chafin
"Akukho lutho olulula ngokukhulisa izingane, ikakhulukazi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Akukho lutho olulula ngokushada, ngicabanga ukuthi mina nomyeni wami sibheke ngokuyisisekelo. - LPARKS_7
Namuhla ngikunika imvume yokuyeka ukuseshela i-intanethi ngezihloko mayelana nokuthi ungagcina kanjani amawele akho amancane ekubambeni , noma indlela yokuqeqesha ama-triplets ama-potty ngempumelelo.
Namuhla ngifuna ukuthi ucabange ngomlingani wakho.
O, uyakhumbula lowo muntu. Nguyena oye wangena emgodini njengoba ushintsha ama-diapers ebantwaneni ebusuku. Ungowesifazane oshaya ozama ukuthatha ingane yakho endala kunobhola bezinyawo, ukondle amawele futhi ngandlela-thile uhlambulule konke ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ikuphi isikhathi sokugcina okwazi ukugxila kuwe kanye nomlingani wakho ngaphandle kokumaka okungaphezulu? Kungenzeka ukuthi bekuyizinyanga noma izinyanga kusukela uze ucabange ngokukwenza kanjalo. Namuhla ngifuna ukukugqugquzela ukuba uphefumule futhi ukhumbule ukuthi wawuvame ukuzizwa kanjani ukubamba isandla somyeni wakho noma ukumangalela umkakho ngokuzenzekelayo. Ahhh, kwakumnandi, akunjalo?
Lapho uletha izintambo zakho ezincane zokujabula ekhaya , walungisa ikhaya lakho. Wathengisa ingane yokuqapha, ama-cribs amabili, nama-diapers (inqwaba kanye nabaningi be-diapers!) Ngokungangabazeki ufunde izincwadi zokunakekelwa kwezinsana nendlela yokuphatha izimpande. Ngenkathi uqeqeshwe ukuthi yini eqinisekile ukuthi ingenye yezinhlanga eziphakeme kunazo zonke zokuphila kwakho, akekho owake wakufundisa ukuqeqesha okungenakugwemeka bonke labo abancane ababezofaka umshado wakho.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma uvumela leyo nkinga ukuba iqhubeke futhi ikhule, umshado wakho uzohlupheka futhi ungase ube engozini.
Ngiyazi ukuthi u "BUSY." "Ngabe ulindele?" Ungase ufune. Cela ukuthi wenze umshado wakho kuqala. Ngaphandle kokuba umshado wakho ube ngowokuqala, uMama uzohlupheka, ubaba uzohlupheka futhi ngenxa yalokho, umndeni wonke uzohlupheka.
Ngisho noma kunzima, kuyafaneleka. Umndeni wakho uzoba ngcono futhi ube ngcono kunabo bonke ozokujabulela ukukwenza!
Uqala kanjani? Okulula. Okokuqala, ake sibheke izidingo zomama nobaba njengeyunithi.
Udinga eyodwa: Amahora ndawonye (Yodwa)
Yenza uhlu lwamabhabititters ongabasebenzisa ongawasebenzisa, bese uhlanganisa izinombolo zocingo noma imininingwane yokuxhumana. Uma usuvele unamalungiselelo okunakekelwa kwengane, kukhona okukhethwa kukho amahora ahlukile kusihlwa noma ngezimpelasonto? Cabanga ngabanye abangasiza: Abazali bakho, abangani, omakhelwane, abasha (ungase udinga ezimbalwa zazo ngesikhathi esisodwa), abasizi besonto lakho noma ukunakekelwa kwesikhashana bonke abantu abakhulu ukufaka lolu hlu. Khetha ukuthi ubani okumele akhokhe noma obani ongayisebenzelana nabo ukuze uthole amahora okubaluleka okubambisana.
Hlela umsizi okungenani kabili ngenyanga . Ukwenza lokhu kufanele uhlele phambili. Umkakho uzokujabulela ukuthatha usuku lokulindela futhi ithuba lokujabulela inkampani yakho ngaphandle kwezingane. Umyeni wakho uzothola ukwaneliseka kokwenza umkakhe ajabule (ungathinti leli gunya!) Ngezinsuku zakho, yenza izinto ozilibazisa ozithokozile ngaphambi kokuba usande. Yiya kumabhayisikobho, udle isidlo sakusihlwa, noma ujabule. Jabulela inkampani yomunye nomunye nomlingani wakho njengokwakheka okukhulu (ngamanye amagama, hhayi izingane).
Kudingeka ababili: Bambisana Ngomusa
Sonke siyazi ukuthi izingane zingakwazi ukufika emithanjeni yethu. Izinsana ze-Fussy nezinsana ezinamandla zingenza noma yikuphi okukhulile njenge-grumpy. Ukulala ubusuku , izidingo ezingapheli, nokucindezeleka kwansuku zonke kusenza sonke sikhathazeke ngezinye izikhathi. Naphezu kwalokhu, ungavumeli oshade naye ukuba athwale ukukhathazeka kwakho kwansuku zonke.
Uma uthanda indlela ubaba ephethe ngayo umgibeli futhi wathatha zonke izingane ekuhambeni ngaphandle kokucelwa ukuba, MTHILEKE. Uma uthanda indlela uMama abadwebe ngayo ama-triplets, TELL HER. Siyabonga, dumisani, khuthazana omunye nomunye, futhi niphakanyane.
Wonke umuntu uthanda ukudunyiswa. Sishesha ukudumisa izingane zethu, kodwa kancane kancane ukudumisa oshade naye. Ungabonakali ngokubonga kwakho. Sebenzisa njalo.
Udinga ezintathu: Vumela Izinto Ezincane Zidlule
Uma ubona lezo zinhlayiya ezingcolile ubaba eshiye phansi, umelane nesifiso sokumshaya ngamagama akho. Ngesikhathi umama engenawo isikhathi sokwenza umbhede namuhla, bheka enye indlela. Ungagxeki futhi ungabhidli phansi. Londoloza amagama akho ngezikhathi lapho kudingekile ngempela, hhayi ngenxa yokucasula okuncane empilweni.
Manje, ake sibheke ezinye zezidingo zikababa kanye nezidingo zikaMama.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezidingo zikaBaba. Lalela abesifazane; sidinga ukukhumbula izidingo zikababa futhi!
Udinga eyodwa: Ubulili
Yebo, wayazi ukuthi beza. Thina besifazane nje abakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi indoda isaphila nge-sex drive ngemuva kokuthi uphelelwe izikhathi eziyishumi ngosuku. Madoda, yiqonda lokhu: indoda idinga ucansi njengoba nje owesifazane efuna ukuzizwa engathandanga ngaphandle kocansi.
Yisidingo esikhulu somngane wakho womshado. Ungazibambeli kuye. Ngiyazi ukuthi ukhathele; Ngiyazi ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi ngisho nokucabanga ukuthi unamandla okulala ocansini. Uma ulala futhi uzwa ukuthi izingalo zakhe zimboze nxazonke - futhi uyazi ukuthi akufanele "ukugwedla" - phumula nje. Jabulela ukusondelana nobulili obusondelene buyoletha emshadweni wakho. Ungavumeli isikhathi esiningi sidlule ngaphandle kokuhlangana nalesi sidingo esibaluleke kakhulu somuntu wakho.
Udinga Two: Ukuzwa Kudingeka
Ungakholelwa ukuthi ungumama wezinkulungwane zeminyaka entsha. Ungakwenza konke - thatha lezo zingane esitolo , emsebenzini, ugijimise imikhakha, ube umama webhola. Cishe ungakwenza konke, wedwa kuphela uma kudingeka, kepha awukwazi. Unomsizi futhi ungumyeni wakho. Mtshele ukuthi udinga kangakanani. Indoda idinga ukuzizwa ibalulekile futhi iyadingeka. Mtshele ukuthi uyamudinga kangakanani nokuthi uyamthanda kangakanani.
Udinga Abathathu: Umfazi Othakazelisayo Kuye
Imininingwane ematasa yokuphila kwansuku zonke ihamba isikhathi esincane ekupheleni kosuku ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani nomlingani wakho.
Kwenzekani ehhovisi, noma nomlingani wakhe we-tennis? Uzizwa kanjani? Ungakhohlwa ukubuza. Mbize ngesikhathi semini nje ukuthi usho, ukuze uthole ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhamba kanjani. Ungavumeli omunye wesifazane agcwalise lesi sidingo empilweni yakhe. Udinga ukuba nesithakazelo kuye nokuthi ungubani.
Kulungile, Madoda, yisikhathi sakho sokuthatha amanothi.
Ake sibheke izidingo zomkakho.
Udinga eyodwa: Ukuze Uzwe Uthande Futhi Ukwaziswa
Angazi owesifazane - ikakhulukazi umama - ongafuni ukuzwa ukuthi uyakwazisa. Ngokuvamile, singabantu bokuqala abaphapheme futhi abagcina belele embhedeni. Ngokuvamile, sihlabela izimpilo zethu kanye nemisebenzi yethu kubantwana bethu futhi sifuna ukuzizwa sengathi umuntu uphawule. Madoda, kuwumsebenzi wakho ukuqaphela! Tshela umkakho ukuthi uyakwazisa kangakanani lokho akwenzela umndeni.
Tshela umkakho ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani futhi ukuthi inhlanhla ingane yakho kufanele ibe nayo kumama. Ungavumeli amagama akho abe engenalutho - umbonise ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngekhadi lapha nalaphaya noma isimangalo esikhethekile uma esenosuku olubi. Umkakho uzokuthanda ngakho.
Kudinga ababili: Ukuthintwa (ngaphandle kocansi).
Abesifazane bathanda ukukhipha. Abesifazane bathanda ukuba babanjwe. Abesifazane bathanda ukubamba izandla. Bafuna ukuzwa amandla akho omzimba, uzizwe izingalo zakho zomuntu ezizungezile. Cuddle embhedeni ngaphandle kokulindela ucansi kamuva. Noma, mnike massage esabekayo bese uyiqeda nge-hug futhi "Ngiyakuthanda" futhi akukho lutho. Ukuthintana ngokomzimba ngokomzimba kubalulekile. Umkakho uzozizwa ethandwa - futhi ungase uthole ngisho lucky ngaphandle kokulindela!
Udinga ezintathu: Ukuze Ukhulume Naye futhi Ulalele
Thina besifazane bathanda ukukhuluma. Nina madoda nifuna umugqa ophansi. Sifuna ukunciphisa ngezinye izikhathi ngaphandle kokuphawula. Nina madoda nje nifuna iphuzu nephuzu yedwa.
Hlanganisa umkakho ngxoxo. Ungasebenzisi wonke amazwi akho ehhovisi ngaphambi kokuba ufike ekhaya. Londoloza isikhathi sakho sokuxhumana naye. Mthumelele umlayezo omuhle emini. Noma, thatha ifoni bese umbiza ngezinye izizathu kodwa nje ukuzwa izwi lakhe futhi uzwe ukuthi usuku lwakhe luhamba kanjani.
Phakathi nokugaya nsuku zonke, kulula ukucabanga ukuthi sizoba nesikhathi somunye nomunye - nomshado wethu - kamuva. Kamuva ngeke kufike uma ungahlanganyeli ekwandiseni ubuhlobo bomshado wakho namuhla. Nquma namuhla ukuthi umshado wakho uwufanele umzamo nokuthi uzokwenza ube yizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwakho. Awukwazi ukuthatha umshado wakho noma oshade naye kalula. Vumela le nkathi ematasa kakhulu empilweni yakho ukukusondeza ndawonye futhi ungaphinde uhlukanise. Ukuvumela izidingo eziqhubekayo zokukhulisa izimpande zibe yizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kunokuba umshado wakho uzokuhlukanisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi zikuqede kumlingani wakho. Ungathathi umqondo wokuthi umlingani wakho ulahlwa; awukwazi ukumthengisela kuye (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungathanda kangakanani ngezikhathi ezithile). Khumbula izidingo zomlingani wakho nomshado wakho. Ngeke nje ujabulele ukuhlangabezana nalezi zidingo, kodwa eminyakeni eminingana kamuva umshado wakho, kanye nezingane zakho, uzoqhubeka nokuvuna imivuzo yemizamo yakho.